I will no longer comment bomb anyone in a contest. Here's why:
I saw a bulletin for a friend who had supported me in a contest asking for help in a contest he was in. I went over to the page and comment bombed on the fact that a girl was saying she really, really liked him. The comments were long and I said, "Hey that girl really, really likes you and I know you are a good man because you used to worship me. I wish you love, life and happiness because you deserve it."
Two days later one of my pics was marked NSFW. I was like WTF? Amazingly, guess who had looked at my pics? The girl that had said she liked him.
When I figure out what's up, I try to send him an e-mail on CT to tell him that. Since she was on his FAMILY list and apparently blocked me, I was blocked from sending him mail too. So, I had to go to another program to send him an e-mail.
This type of behavior is childish and petty. If you are talking to another woman, great. More power to ya. I wish you well. I don't need drama because of it.
I have been a beautiful woman for a long time. I have had my fair share of women meeting me in the bathroom wanting to kick my ass because their man looked at me and I didn't have a clue as to who the hell their man was. It's insane. I don't need the insanity if I haven't even done anything.
Some of the men that I have on my friends list, I have been friends with for years. I have one that I knew from high school!!! Long before he ever met his wife (who is also on my friends list) or even knew she existed.
Ladies, if you are reading this, I want you to know my personal policy on married/attached men:
IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ME, TALK TO ME. IF YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH YOUR MAN, TALK TO HIM.
I RESPECT the bonds of marriage and devoted relationships. I make it very clear that I am uncomfortable talking to men that are involved with anyone. I make sure that the man is aware that cheating hurts. I tell them my own story. I direct them to sites that specifically talk about cheating. Usually, this stops anything before it starts.
If they say, I just want to be friends and talk. Talking is fine. No one should have a problem with anyone talking to another person. If they do, they might want to see what is going on inside of them that makes them feel insecure about this.
It has been my experience that men sometimes just want an answer to a question to why a woman does this or that. Easy answers to questions are no big deal to me. Talk is talk. It sure beats going to a bar to find someone to talk to isn't it?
I will never meet a married/attached man anywhere alone unless:
1) I have also met the wife/girlfriend and she understands that she can call me at anytime to see that we are not doing anything behind her back. AND at anytime she feels uncomfortable with him talking to me that I will cut off all ties.
2) The man can prove to me that he is in an open marriage by showing me her profile where she openly conveys her lifestyle choice and is OPENLY ok with her husband or b/f seeking others.
3) The man has expressed to me that he is very much in love with his wife and NO BODY will ever come between them. I really do respect men that say this.
Why would I consider having sex with someone in an open relationship? I don't like them but I have been in them. It's simple. We set basic ground rules for the relationship and we both know where the other stands on the subject. It's just sex and when we are done, I send them home to who ever is keeping them. I don't have to answer to anyone if I want to go to the store instead of coming straight home from work and "worrying" them. I don't have to put my kids through meeting a man and having different rules or adjust to them.
