Chrissy in CT's blog: "The toughest woman i know..."

The Toughest Woman I know... The toughest woman I know was molested from 7-10 by her stepfather. Grew up from learning to take care of herself and trying to protect herself because no one else would/did. The toughest woman I know buried herself in "fat" to make sure no one would ever hurt her again. Took the jeers, laughs and torments because it was the lesser of the evils that she had been shown in life thus far. The toughest woman I know married a man and had a child at 28. The greatest gift she ever received. She endured this man 11 years while also living with and taking care of parents and grandparents. Working 60 plus hours a week to support all of them. When all the elderly ones had finally passed she took control of her life. Lost 120 pounds in 10 mos and another 170 of a useless man. The toughest woman I know then endured another heartbreak. The man she had shared her life with showed his true self while in charge of her son. Was arrested for indecent sexual intercourse with a minor...a 14 year old boy. They had engaged her son in some of this activity and she had to travel across the country to retrieve the joy in her life from foster care and try to put his life back together. He was 8 years old. The toughest woman I know fell apart at this point. Memories of her own abuse and her perception that she had not been able to protect her own child spiraled her into a deep depression. Almost agoraphobic she believed everyone to know how horrible a parent she was. Anxiety ridden, sleep deprived she was saved by a friend who helped her get the therapy she needed and to pull her life back together. The toughest woman I know has lived in 5 different states trying to find her place and peace of mind. Has raised her child totally alone since 1998 with no child support because she did not want this ex to have access to her child. Leave sleeping dogs lie and do it on your own. The toughest woman I know has lost her child to the State of Connecticut when a “conscientious reporter” reported her to the state after she refused to let him (a 45 year old man) hang with her then 12 year old child. He even made a 911 call accusing her of child abduction of a 4 year old boy. He was never charged with false reporting because in Connecticut "conscientious reporters" are protected by law. He was later found to be homosexual and dying of HIV and had done this repeated times on other occasions. But she lost her child to the state for 2.5 years. Then fought and battled the state of Connecticut and won. Her attorney called her “wonder woman” The toughest woman I know has lost two homes, has had to file bankruptcy twice and has moved across the country to Texas to start over. That has not been an easy feat either. 4 months after arriving in Texas she started to bleed and had to have a hysterectomy. 2 weeks after the operation she complained of pain in her rectum and was ignored. Ignored again at 6 weeks she did what she had to do and went back to work. Three months later in agony and frustration she called her gynecologist and insisted he listen to her and he sent her to a GI doctor. That prompted a 2nd surgery for a now egg sized ulceration in her rectum. She had that surgery in October and is still home struggling to heal. She also has Systemic Lupus which has hindered her healing. She has lost her job, her car is dead and she is now facing yet more struggles just to survive. To the toughest woman I know problem solving is a daily thing. Trying to feed, clothe, shelter this child she had 16 years ago and loves so much. Looking into his sad eyes at this Christmas time and knowing that there will be nothing under the tree for either of them. Yet still she perseveres. She has learned to let go of her pride and ask service organizations, churches, welfare, social security anyone who will listen. She has nothing of value, no possessions, no family to turn to...yet she has a multitude of love and support online. These people are her family, her friends, her lifeline. Here she can vent and let go and laugh and cry and is shown compassion, love and friendship. In that she is the wealthiest woman on the planet. The toughest woman I know may end up in a shelter, or with no hot water, or electric, the car is still dead and nothing seems to be going right. But she can still laugh between the tears, can still find hope and of this Im very certain....SHE WILL SURVIVE! You ask me who she is? Me....