To my knowledge there has yet to be a Webster's definition of a "booty call". The following is my definition of the term:
booty call - n 1: the act of calling or contacting a person for the sole purpose of having sex.
2: a person that is the recipient of such a call
Some people might think that a booty call is in and of itself a bad thing. I believe for the individual you need to decide for yourself where your morals lie. If you feel for whatever reason, that having sex without strings attached is wrong then you should neither make nor take a booty call. On the other hand, there are those people that can see and accept the booty call for what it is; something that occurs between two consenting adults and nothing more than a physical act. For those people the booty call is totally acceptable.
When to Make It
When is it ok to make a booty call? Well, I believe that both parties need to be fully aware of exactly where they stand with the other person. Each person needs to know that the booty call is nothing more than that. If there are expectations on either end or emotions attached to the act itself, then problems will arise. For the booty caller, that person needs to make sure that the callee is not expecting anything more from them. It is the responsibility of the caller to make it clear to the callee what their intentions are. This needs to be done BEFORE the booty call has been consumated, not AFTER. Now many people may assume that it is the men that are making the booty calls, but hey, this is the 90's. Women can call the booty just as well as the men. Here, it may be even more important for the woman to make it a point to let the man know her intentions. Some men may assume that when a woman sleeps with them the woman is making some sort of commitment to them and that may not be the case. Regardless of who is making the call, you need to be fair. Just because YOU know where you stand doesn't mean the other person does. You need to get it out there before you put it in there. Honesty is key. Not to mention safe-sex.
When to Take It
When should you take a booty call? Again people may assume that the callee is always the woman, but again this is not true. Women have needs too (does that sound like a cliche or what?) Also, you might think that no guy in his right mind would ever turn down a booty call. But if the guy really cares about the woman and wants more from the relationship, he should be be equally hesitant to settle for less than what he really wants. If you are on the receiving end of a booty call, you need to ask yourself, what is it that you want? If you are uncomfortable with it or you feel like you're being used, then it would be best to decline. You should never do anything that you feel uncomfortable with. If you know that you want more from the other person than just a bump in the dark, then you shouldn't give in. If all this person wants from you is one thing then maybe you might want to rethink your relationship with this person. You also might want to take a step back and see if this is the right person for you. Do you want to be with a booty caller? Can you live with being a callee? Ultimately that is your decision to make. You should never let anyone pressure you into something you don't want. Be strong and be true to yourself.
Everyone needs to decide what is right for themself. If you feel it is morally wrong to make/take a booty call then of course this entire tirade is not only inapplicable to you but you may actually find the entire subject to be repulsive. However, for many people in society today, the reality of life is such that there are such things as booty calls and many of us may experience them at one point in time. When such a time comes you will choose what is right for you. Hopefully it won't be something you jump into without any forethought. In a time when there are AIDS and other STDs to consider, sex is not something to be taken lightly in any situation. With that in mind, I wish you the best of luck in life, love and sex. And hey, let's be careful out there.
