Why is it that some women will not realize that sometimes what u give up is the best thing for you? Yet they r still on the search for greener pastures and what they THINK they r missing.There is no proverbial MR. RIGHT. There is only Mr. Right for me which is obtained through compromise,communication,intimacy and sheer determination.
Some women expect to find their "dream man" who will do EVERTYTHING for them and they will live happily ever after. But remember: everything changes! Women always complain that men change and they don't realize they change themselves and normally men respond to those changes. So before u accuse your man of not being romantic anymore; try to look at what you might have changed to affect that( I did say try, cause it's not easy).Life is not constant. There are many curves and pitfalls in life and adjustments have to be made aka compromise.
Women need to remember that men need as much as women do. We just try to conform to society's stereotypes of being macho and solid. However we are still capable of mistakes,frustation and moments of weakness. That is when we need support,but the same stereotype prevents us from asking for help. Some intuition is needed on your part to anticipate and just act without us asking.
Then we get to the 'friend'. The one who always knows what to say and agrees with you. Women get caught in that trap not realizing that this 'friend' may not have the same responsibilities or be burdened with the same problems as your current or the estranged one.
If your 'friend' is single then that should be a red flag. If he is all that then would he choose some one that already had kids if he wasn't trying to ease his way in for an easy lay? How convenient that he broke up with his girlfriend so soon and especially if he was chiling at your place most of the time?
But enter the typical scenario: you start dating everything is euphoric; butterflies in the stomach and cute pet names for each other. But in time as all things will change rears its ugly head and the facade wears thing and the real person emerges from behind their mask. arguments start and if there is no compromise either then things fall apart. A new relationship is good in the beginning: taking pictures and decorating them with hearts, writing poems etc.Everyone is still trying to impress the other so everyone is on their best behavior.
Just don' forget who was there for you as the faces of your "friends" changed and who listened as you told of how their true characters emerged and shocked you. The estranged and despised one was there.When so called friends, neighbors and supposed best friends let you down, who was there? Then they got forgiven and u started hanging out with them again, but the estranged one was kept in his state because you still wanted to chase the dream of mr right insteaqd of having the courage and the drive to stay committed and compromise. You found it easy to make excuses instead of the commitment.That is how I know that it was not taken seriously if u lacked the will to continue. Then you did not want it bad enough.
Just remember all things you thought were lacking could have been worked out and worked on through communication, compromise and determination. One truth is certain: if u really want something then nothing will stand in you way or deter you.
