It seems to me that very often the human mind is wired to see things as either/or.
We think we can either have this option, or that one. We seem to think in binary
The World is rarely like that in real life. Almost always if I unhook my mind from its tendency to think like that I can find a 3d, or 4th option. Or 20 different options once I open my mind
For me it takes a lot of practice to avoid a binary mind-set. But it is worth it to open new worlds for myself