SHOULDS

I have discovered something about the word “should.”

When I tell someone else I think they “should” do something, what I am REALLY saying is, “I want you” to do that thing.

And I have concluded that the reverse is true.  When others tell me I “should” do something, what they REALLY mean is, “I want you to….”

Taking it even further, whenever I find myself telling MYSELF, I “should” do something, what I am really operating under is the massive weight of all the  “shoulds” that were laid on me by other people over the course of my life. 

So I have concluded that the word “should” does not serve me, and I have stopped using it.