I have discovered something about the word “should.”
When I tell someone else I think they “should” do something, what I am REALLY saying is, “I want you” to do that thing.
And I have concluded that the reverse is true. When others tell me I “should” do something, what they REALLY mean is, “I want you to….”
Taking it even further, whenever I find myself telling MYSELF, I “should” do something, what I am really operating under is the massive weight of all the “shoulds” that were laid on me by other people over the course of my life.
So I have concluded that the word “should” does not serve me, and I have stopped using it.