Friday, April 13, 2007
to friend or not to friend that is the big question???/
Current mood: pissed off
Category: Friends
Were do I start with this one..One of my friends decides to meet some one in person from Myspace. This friend of mine is very true and dear to me to the point we refer to each other as brother and sister. I've known him for 4 almost 5 years now and at this very point in his life his very sick with kidney failure,but you wouldn't know it by looking at him he looks fit as a horse. anyways back to the part that he meets this girl from here.
When i meet her they have been hanging out several times and when she comes to my house she was so shy she bearly talked to me. After a few weeks I find out that she only lives a few blocks from me and i decided that when i go to my friends on the weekends I would take her with me. over a period of months that i have been sharing time with her and my friend. We have become friends or so i thought.... In January about the time she was going to move in with my friend her jealous mother decided that she wasn't going to loose her grandson at any cost and to make a long story short her mother has health and welfare step in and take the kid and have charges pressed for child neglect. she end up and moves in with my friend in January. I stood up to her family for her and stood beside her through all of this .
She has never had a true friend. one that she can call on for help or anything. Some of her friends that she has had for years told her to fuck off once she told them about her son. and yet i stand by her. I tryed to show things like how normal people live. instead of hiding away in your room and letting someone else do your shit.!!!!!
any who, she has depression and anxiety and is on disablity. Her mother basically locked her in her room and had her medicated to the point that she never left the house in two years and her mother took care of the baby. now to the newest thing the pasted 3 months she has lived here, my friend has had to fight to get her out of bed in the morning and normally she doesn't get out of bed until noon and than she's on the puter for a couple hours and than takes a shower and than back to the puter or watches tv. and doesn't do any house work except occasionally running the sweeper. I do dishes, cook and wash clothes and she won't even put them away. or even help with the dish she said she doesn't like to do dishes it's like having a 16 year old. and having to teach them how to run a house hold and that she needs to learn that some things need to be done even if you don't like to do them... and now for the lastest, her and my friend had a fight last night he told her that they should sleep apart for a while and put her upstairs since they have been fighting alot lately. and she blew it all out of wack and said she didn't like him any more and she was leaving and that he wasnt' her friend anymore. and because i came out she said" you moved me upstairs and had to have someone to sleep with" but she wouldn't say any names.. and after 2 hours of fighting all was quiet and i decided to start on her I asked her if i was her friend and she said she didn't know after nine months of going to the mall and walmart having her over for dinner at my house helping her move. taking her into town to visit her son cleaning the house she lives in and cooking dinner giving her clothes for her son and toys added her to my business phone plan to save her money instead of having to start up her own plan and paying a down payment. and to top it all off spending the holidays with her and her son and all she can say is she doesn't know if we are friends!!!! WHAT A SLAP IN THE FACE!!!!!! Later that night she writes me an email saying that she is sorry for what she said and that she hopes i will understand... and now today the next day not a word is said am i to just suppost forget everyting she said and go on like nothing happened.. i can't I'm pissed to say the least or should i say hurt by all of this and at the same time i love her to death.. I just don't understand and i can't just sit by and be happy if her laziness is going to continue because as it is all the stress is hurting my bro slowly killing him and I can't have that.. So what do you do?? any ideas anyone???????
