ToniO's blog: "Mental Stimuli Is Here!"

Seperation Anxiety (Most guys have it.) One of the most common asked and frustrating questions by women is “why cant or don’t guys commit to just one woman? ” Well aren’t we supposed to be so easy to figure out? Well maybe the playa, pimp, asshole type of guy maybe but not the nice guy who is either in a bad relationship or married, gay or is simply scared to death of commitment because he just got out of a devastating relationship. The internet is a perfect example of men who are virtually surrounded by a diverse range of beautiful women and how that makes it more difficult for them to settle.The harsh reality is that you could be the perfect woman for him but you might have to work very hard to gain and keep his attention, heart and trust. I know I know…why not just give up right there huh ladies? Well because you women have needs, dreams and fantasies too! Right? The fact of the matter is most of us MEN are suffering from “SEPERATION ANXIETY”. Not in the sense of needing any specific person persay; but able and willing to separate the infactuation we have of many to facing the fear of committing our heart and trust into just ONE. Of course knowing that most of us are extremely visual creatures and the fact that we think about sex 24/7 doesn’t help us at all when the perfect woman for us could have walked in and out of our lives without us even knowing it. Truth of the matter is most of us don’t take the time to look up and give any ONE woman a chance to prove their love and how different they are than the last woman who shattered our heart, destroyed our faith and erased our dreams of meeting our dream girl again. How sad is that?… So what is a woman who is not only fighting against a woman to men avg ratio of 7 to 1 suppose to do? How is she going to control her naturally jealous and possessive tendencies where it doesn’t destroy any chances of keeping the man she desires and fantasizes about being in her life. Ladies, how patient, determined, compassionate and faithful are you?...because you are going to need all 4 if you are going to find and keep the love of your life. Fellas, know that ladies aren't judging and critisizing us for how we feel...its for how we react to those feelings that are always up for scruteny. Whether you commit or not, faith, honesty and good communication can get you through all of your issues and fears surrounding commitment. Remember, most of us men are just grown babies that never got off the nipple ….lol where we definitely don’t NEED 100 women to gawk over or telling us how wonderful or sexy we are, we absolutely must have these things in our life from THE woman before we will become and stay committed. Physical attraction (comes in all shapes and forms. T & A is universal but a confident woman is what magnifies her true beauty.) Sexual stimulation (visually, physically and expressively) Compassion (you don’t have to understand, just be compassionate to how we feel.) Empathy Patience (the hardest to have but the most important if you want to be the ONE.) Nurtured (aka spoiled, catered too, pampered ) Control (just make us feel like we have it….lol) Wanted-we always must feel that our woman wants or depends on us. not in a dominating, posessive or degrating way. just in a way that makes us feel like their is something a woman cant do and needs us for. so its important to humour us... Confidence (a confident woman has very lil jealousy, possessiveness and neediness qualities. A MANS DREAM.) Able to secure and maintain safety (there is nothing better than knowing that we are able to keep our woman safe and sound. so let us!) I know that this might fluctuate a little from man to man but for the most part this is REALISM across the board with us. Now I realize that some of the things on this list also apply to women but realize that women are from VENUS and men are from MARS. We simply react differently. As always, I’m just keeping it REAL Ok …is this when all of the ladies say tha hell with men I’m going to find me a woman? LoL…remember, nothing worth while will ever be easy. Quite a few of my fellow brothers have made the statement “I don’t how you handle all the attention from all those beautiful women”. Believe me, I am far from boasting and bragging how have been able to because God knows I have not always made the right decisions or handled my seperation anxieties the right way either. Obviously. There are few things that I have always focused in on. 1. Remaining humble-knowing that any given day my gifts from God can be taken away. 2. Priorities-regardless of who I chose to sacrifice my heart and trust too; that I always treat every woman’s heart with respect and compassion. .....So ladies, can you handle us the way we are? Love N Huggzzz…ToniO p.s. Feel free to link this blog.