Kari PSCW's blog: "Random Thoughts..."

So I keep seeing these stories about all these professional cuddling businesses starting up in multiple cities.  These people apparently have a contract for the cuddle-ee to sign - promising not to get all pervy, they cuddle fully clothed in a "safe place" and they get paid like $50+ an hour to do this.  First time I read about this I was thinking "WTF???" But as I read on they stated that studies have been done to prove that cuddling significantly reduces stress, which in turn lowers blood pressure and relieves symptoms of certain illnesses and maladies.  Hmmmmm, interesting...  Furthermore, there are people out there who live busy lives and don't have a significant other.  Apparently this service is becoming quite popular around the globe.  Fascinating stuff...  I've always been fascinated by psychology, the human condition, even abnormal psychology - so I find this really interesting.  Part of me jokingly thinks "Geez, I think I missed my calling in life" because I was raised in a very cuddly family.  I'm definitely high-maintenance when it comes to cuddling in a relationship.  I can't imagine not being affectionate with the person I've chosen to spend my time with in life.  I'm also very cuddly with family members and close friends (ok, so I gently coerce some non-cuddly friends into cuddling, but eventually even the biggest non-cuddlers get used to it... lol).  Hell, I still curl up with my parents every chance I get.  That's just how I roll people, it's how I was raised.  BUT...  I am not however cuddly with strangers.  In fact, I have a hard time getting a pro massage because having strangers touch me in an intimate way just creeps me right the hell out.  So hmmmm, it seems perhaps that career choice isn't for me.  I'd have to go hugging a bunch of random strangers just to prepare for something like that and I really don't think I'm up to it.  Maybe if they let me talk to them for awhile first and get comfy with them I'd be ok, who knows.

Anyway...  my point was that I find this new career choice interesting.  Though a small part of me finds it a bit strange I find it comforting to know that people who are in need of physical affection of a non-sexual nature and have no means of receiving it elsewhere have an option available to them.  I mean really, all the emotional and physical benefits shouldn't be exclusive to those with cuddly partners, family and friends.  We all deserve a little tlc in life.  So go forth people and cuddle...  And if you happen to make a living from it, color me jealous as I sit here at my desk explaining where the START button is on a pc...  

What can be said in New Year rhymes,
That's not been said a thousand times?
The new years come, the old years go,
We know we dream, we dream we know.
We rise up laughing with the light,
We lie down weeping with the night.
We hug the world until it stings,
We curse it then and sigh for wings.
We live, we love, we woo, we wed,
We wreathe our prides, we sheet our dead.
We laugh, we weep, we hope, we fear,
And that's the burden of a year.

Nope, I still don't get it...  You're a grown-up and you're begging/guilting people on your friend's list to buy you pretend crap with their real money? You're offering to trade pics of your bod for pretend shit that makes no real impact in anyones life? I don't know, I guess I find it kinda funny.  Sad, but funny...  Oh well, more power to ya people.  Do whatever makes you happy so long as you don't hurt anyone else in the process.  Just don't expect anything from me and "we cool".  ;)   Happy Holidays all!  *hugs*

Christmas and New Years still left to get through.  I don't care what anyone says, it's a stressful time of year.  I'm always quite glad when it's over.  On a positive note, I have a lot to be thankful for this year.  Now if I can just make it through the non-stop Christmas music I'll be all set.

Reading over my blogs so far.  Damn I sound so negative!  LOL  I'm really not, I swear.  I'm usually a very positive, upbeat person.  Apparently when I write blogs I turn all EMO, so I figured I'd change that with this blog.  And now for your enjoyment, a cute fluffy bunny...

How freakin cute is that? Ok, happy blog complete.  Enjoy your weekend.  ;)

Definitely an improvement playing some "Saturday In The Park" by Chicago here at work.  Wow, I really miss my brother.  Every time I hear this song it reminds me of him.  We sang it at karaoke together and we were awesome.  lol  

This will be my 2nd Christmas without him.  I was hoping it would get easier with time but it really hasn't yet.  I guess losing someone you dearly love is never easy but it's particularly difficult when they take their own life.  The wondering always haunts you - all those "what ifs".  What if I could have helped somehow...  What if I had been there to talk him out of it...  What if he had continued with his medication...  What if I had known what he was planning to do...  What if, what if, what if...  The what if's really don't matter because they aren't what truly was, if that makes any sense.  

I'm making peace with it all because I know he's not in pain anymore.  He had such a difficult life and I guess he felt he had enough.  I just try to focus on all the great times we shared together.  He'll always be a big part of me and who I am as a person.  I'll always keep him with me in thought.  I choose to focus on the good things in my life and fill my life with joy because I know he wouldn't want me to be any other way.  If I sat around depressed all the time he'd kick my ass if he could.  Still, this time of year always brings the pain a little closer to the heart because of time spent together with family.  That empty space at the table and in the pictures can never be filled.  All we can do is draw closer together with those we love who are still with us.  Let them know how much we care and be thankful for every day we have with them.

I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Sorry, I just don't get it...  I'm not judging those who do it by any means.  More power to ya! Do whatever makes you happy.  I just don't see the point in it for myself personally.  I have NO desire to get married again, virtually or otherwise.  It would take a pretty spectacular relationship to change my mind on that.  I also have no desire to change my personal identity on here based on who "owns" me.  Thankfully the friend who currently "owns" me is a nice guy who doesn't give a crap about all that.  If he were someone who expected me to change my name I'd have a problem with that.  I honestly don't care about levelling either.  LOL  Wow, I don't mean to sound all anti-fu, I guess I just use this site for different purposes.  I love to meet new people that I normally wouldn't meet and get to know them.  I could honestly care less about levelling or lounges or mafias.  I have limited time online and I prefer to spend it chatting with nice people.  For the record this is a great place to meet new people.  I've met so many cool people on here so far.  You all know who you are, or I hope you do!  ;) I've also met some real jerks.  They probably don't care who they are...  LOL  But overall I've met far more nice people than jerks, so that's pretty damn good! Well done fubar...  Now stop asking me to buy bling.  :p  Haha  

When did we decide as a society to share EVERYTHING on social media sites? I have a friend who seems to enjoy airing all her families dirty laundry on Facebook.  My soon to be ex did this, did that, forgot to pick up the kids, is a terrible father, blah blah blah...  Is Facebook really the right place to be discussing this? Shouldn't you be discussing this with, oh...  I don't know...  Your husband??! It seems like just another form of bullying to me.  Emotional terrorism.  Not only that but now I'm unwillingly involved in your problems by reading that crap.  I really don't want to be.  I have my own life to deal with, thanks.  LOL  

I guess I'm a bit more picky when it comes to sharing personal info, but that's just me.  Some people choose to share more and that's ok as long as they aren't hurting anyone.  I don't want the whole world knowing everything there is to know about me, including what i'm eating right now.  Oh ok fine, I'm eating a salad, but I'm NOT taking a picture of it!  ;)

Let's be civil, show some class and remember that not everyone gives a shit what we're doing every minute of every day.  That is all...