Big ol teddybear's blog: "Nice guys finish last!!!"

U know why I hate relationships, because I'm always afraid something will come along and ruin them. Seems to always happen no matter what I do. It seems as soon as I get to the point of smooth sailing, it all goes wrong. Sometimes I wonder if I'm destined to be alone. It sure seems like it.

Right when you think you have it figured out it throws you a curve ball and you have to react fast. IDK it's wierd like that. To women I can't stress this enough BE VERY CLEAR. SPELL OUT EVERYTHING. CAN AVOID FIGHTS THAT WAY. Also be up front about things, that way it doesn't create problems in the future. Sometimes things don't get started but if you aren't out with it from the start, you have acquard moments and might end up with something ending. Does it always end, no it doesn't but it does lead to crazy situations :p

I had a girl once who was beautiful, smart, funny, and kind. What did I do you ask? I let her go. I let go a wonderful woman who loved me for me and I let her go. You know how people ask if you could relive your life would you. I whole heartedly would, however this one mistake I would change. This one thing I so horribly messed up I would fix in a heart beat. I blew it big time, I let her go, and hurt her in the process. Of course I've only ended up hurting myself. I was just thinking about Carma, how if you do good or bad it'll come back 10 fold. Well I did bad adn yeah it's come back on me 10 fold alright. I've been put through hell a few times and just hope carma has had enough of giving me my medicine. I want her to always be happy, and I'll admit if the winds of change sway and I get to date her. I won't let her go, she's far too special a woman to do that.

Not to beat a dead horse but yeah some girls are evil. My last gf was seeing me and at least one other guy I know about but likely 2. Quite possibly more. I'm not perfect by any streach, but yeah this girl played me for a fool and used me for everything she could. Am I through with love. No, not by a long shot. But yeah to anyone who reads this, I gotta warn, if your guy or girl won't let you talk to their family or friends that's a mega red flag. If that person has all kinds of problems all the time, to the point of always having bad luck, oh yeah red flag. And if the things they tell you don't make a lot of sense, step back and think about it. Still doesn't make sense either confront or better yet DUMP THEM!!!! For any girls who disagree, trust me if you knew all of what I was put through you'd agree that there are evil women out there and that she was one. P.S. The reason I didn't mention evil guys is because we all know that story

This is for the ladies, I want to know what U think is clingy. I've asked my female friends and all I can get is the obvious answer of alwyas hovering around and never letting the girl go and have time for herself. Then I asked a few questions like is txting a message every day to a girl clingy? Nothing over the top, just a hey babe how was your day? I've heard yes and no. My friends can't reach a concensus so I thought I'd ask if this is clingy or not? I also wanted to know if calling 2 or 3 times a week was clingly. Again I got a mixed response. I know there are variables like how often U see her ect so it's not clear cut, but in general what are your thoughts?

A few of U know this already, but a few days ago an ex gf of mine wanted to get back together with me. We tried twice and failed so I knew the answer was hell no. Still I was curious why she broke up with me in the first place, so I asked her. She told me I was too clingy. I wouldn't hear from her for 2 and 3 weeks at a time so I got concerned. This of course pissed me off and I told her sorry I gave a rats ass about U. She then tried to blow me off saying whatever and still pissed I said that her ass wasn't good enough for me and that I could easily do way better. It felt really damn good because when we broke up, both times I acted weak and said let's be friends and all that bs. IDK but when she put it all on me for our relationship failing when she was always blowing me off for her buddies I got pissed and let her know how I felt.

Nice guys always finish last I know it sounds cleche but in my experiance guys like me ALWAYS finish last. Seems that no matter what I do or how hard I try, I always loose the girl. I'm single, been questioned a few times as to why. And well the answer is i'm nice so I loose the girl. When I get close to a girl, in the back of my mind I wonder from time to time if it's worth pursuing a relationship. Sometimes it seems so damn pointless, since I'm always getting the short end of the stick. But, call me a gluttion for punishment or just a complete idiot because I'll try again and again to get that right girl. Hell who knows maybe I've already met her and I just have to get there. To step up to the plate, look into her eyes and give her a deep kiss that can remove all doubt as to my feelings.