Its really up to us wat we do with our lifes. we may have been Battered, beaten, molested , incested, spoiled, or over indulged. all of us have feelings and memories that we need to work through. None of us have perfect families. in fact dysfunctional families are of the norm for the society. The question for us is how have our experiences affected us and wat we need to do to learn from our experiences, to work through those lessons. Integrate them in to our being... turn them over and just move on...? When we get stuck in our blame, anger, and denial... we are the ones who suffer. its up to us to make good out of bad rubbish.