"Fear of intimacy is a fear of death. In a world where we have been taught to believe that the bolstering of our individual power is the greatest good, it is difficult to feel that a melting of the walls surrounding us is something to be desired...We are afraid to surrender to love, for we are afraid to die to who we are. We may loathe who we are, yet we still resist the chance to become someone new. It is only when we are ready to embrace the possibility that we might be tomorrow who we were not today that true intimacy becomes attractive. If all you want to do is remain who and what you are now, then by all means don't fall in love..." -Marianne Williamson "Illuminata" (pgs 161-162)