the past comes up to bite you on your ass! seriously, when bad things happen to you in the past, and you work extremely hard to put it all behind you and move on.....it sucks when it comes back to the surface! i am sure that it happens to everyone, and i am sure that we all have to deal, but what do you do to reassure yourself that the past isn't going to become the present again? for me, this issue is new. things happen, and we choose to move past it, but how many times must we be forced to re-visit things that upset us from the past? do we ever really get over it, or just learn to cope with it lingering there? is it possible to really get over things to the extent that they no longer bother you even when they are looking you in the eye? hopefully i will get to that point someday, but speaking from experience i am not there yet! thanks for listening to my rant!!!!!!