Well this is a blog my husband/boyfriend wrote and I wanted to add to it myself. YES WE ARE A WOLF PACK!!! When our kids look for ways to harm someone that hurt us that includes one that was a sperm donor of them, then yes we are a wolf pack. Just like our kids you hurt us we do fight back. You don't mess and hurt just one, you mess with ALL OF US!!!
See the thing is we are very easy going family till you hurt one of us. We live by two rules, YES ONLY TWO!!! They are, if it harms none then do it(that includes yourself, any verbal, emotional or physical abuse, ECT.) and the second is the strong protect the weak. I have learned that these two rules are harder than any 10 commandments!!!
There is no jealousy in our house we have grown up and realized that it is a very useless emotion. Why be jealous, seriously. There is no reason for this emotion at all. It causes harm, nothing about jealousy is good and it is THEE only learned emotion.
We are all very smart and educated. That alone scares most people cause the average person in the US isn't all that smart. But seriously why say one thing and do another. Why go after just one of us for a MONO relationship knowing that it will never happen. Why try to pit one of us against another, when knowing full well we are very open, honest and tell each other everything.
I will make this very clear, yes I am always looking to add friends with bennies for myself. But we as a family are looking to add another male to our family. My ground rule for friends with bennies is that IF AT ANY POINT IN TIME I FEEL THAT YOU ARE GETTING TOO ATTACHED OR THAT I AM THEN I WALK AWAY!!!!
Ok now I will step off my soap box.
We are all in school this semester. Betsy is in school with me at ECSU for her General Requirements. I am back in classes for Biology, CHemistry, and Calculus. Gwen has her prereqs for her Nursing school. The kids are back in school, and enjoying it. All but one, Tim seems to have some issues with behavioural issues. But after the events of this summer I can understand.
I was recently asked to describe this family in a short statement. A short phrase if you will. The one I chose was that "we are a wolf pack" Each one of us an individual, yet together a formidable and cunning force. I keep seeing guys that come in this house, and they run squealing back to their own homes. I noticed at issue is my "alpha male" status finally when the girls pointed it out at a small town in Oregon. I noticed I did not have to move for others while walking down the street. Now dont get me wrong, I was a soldier and sailor for 15+ years. But come on people, why be scared of a mellowed out 5 foot 9 inch 155 pound guy? I am a Druid for crying out loud, I wont hurt unless you are hurting someone weak.
I am amazed that I have seen so many guys come in and out of our relationship, and most can not hang. Guys come on, I am not going to bite your head off, I am not goign to shoot you, hell I might not even talk to you, but seriously. Come on there are two beautiful ladies here, one on the way, and they are smart, pagan, polyamorous, and not jealous. So even with two women here, you could have three different nights in bed, and not have the same sex practices two nights the same. You have three sciences based individuals in the house who study such a wide range of subjects the conversation is never dull.
There are three wonderful kids that question everything that is about being. They love herbs, religion, video games, nature and geocaching. They know how to fight with martial arts, and if you back one of my pups in a corner, expect the other two to stick up and attack you.
We brew our own beer and make some of our own medicines. We learn and watch the discovery channel. History channel, we love to learn.
Each of our relationships is unique and sacred. Mine and my wife Gwen is one. Hers and our other wife Betsy is another. Betsy has been with us for over a year in our home and that makes her our wife. (one year and a day according to the laws of nature). Betsy and I have our relationship. There is the relationship of the three of s Betsy, Gwen and me, and the other three relations as they come. Baby (our newest relation) has her friendship with Gwen, and hers with Betsy, and her relationship with me, and as she is an alpha female, she also has her own strong arm tendencies. All unique each with their own good and bad.
There are times where things are rocky, hell what relationship isn't. As you add people the dynamic must be redefined. Takes time. And energy, isn't it worth it?
We are a package deal folks, all three of us. Four soon. You want one of us anywhere near permanent, it is all of us. And that means YES I am a part of the deal. I am straight, but that means you WILL meet me. Period. And you will meet EVERYONE in the family. End of discussion. If you can stick your dick in one of these three ladies, you can have the BALLS to show your face to me.
Jealousy, and changes in the relationship, they all bring stress. This family is no different than any other like that. Jealousy is a learned emotion. But it is hard to unlearn too. This is my third poly relationship. There is more to all of this living than just sex. How about living, love, life, fun.
Why not just give your heart with love and generosity and expect the same in return. Put your needs and desires out there. And let everyone have a vote on it. And if you can not approach this relationship with perfect honesty. DO me a favor just take yourself out of the gene pool. You dont deserve to be in a one on one or any other realtionship cause someone will get hurt.
I have many friends of both ilk. Both poly and mono, alternate lifestyle and not, dom and sub, straight and bisexual. They dont seem to have problems talking with each other, honestly, and candidly. The ones here, kids included, have no problems with blunt force honesty.
So ladies and gentlemen, stop being boys and girls, live like you were dying, dance like no one is watching, love like there is no tomorrow, and just you know what.... GET OVER IT!!!
Look at my new site, and see the new video. Cause guys, after you read this. Your decisions on this will relegate you to one of three categories, potential mate, or playtoy, or too chicken to try. Don't like that honesty, get over it. We are a wolf pack we play brutally.
