Big egos are big shields for lots of empty space
We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do. We put so much undo stress on ourselves worrying what someone else thinks about us. We feel either we need to keep that person happy or impress that person in some manner. Life isn't intended to try to impress the world. Just impress yourself. If you can feel good about being the person you are and not hurting others than you have succeeded in life. We can't control another's thoughts or the type person that they are. We can only control our selves. That's enough work in itself to keep us busy for a lifetime.
Those who find real happiness are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting. Being a giver and not a taker. Feeling good when you give without expecting something in return. If you expect something back than your truly not a giver. A true giver enjoys watching some one else open a gift much more than they enjoy opening a gift which has been given to them.
In our society, those who are far more knowledgeable or filled with much more intellect through further education can be accepted only if they pretend not to be. As I ran a County Hospital for many years I met and spoke with literally hundreds of Physicians, nurses, etc. But the pompous physician, nurse, accountant, etc. who felt and expressed there years of college and years of education made them so superior in knowledge raised a red flag to me. Sitting in my office as a know it all and a person of superior intellect would basically tell me they will never learn nor be a team player. It doesn't matter to me how many years they had gone to school. Everyday you can learn something new. Even from a child or a patient who never made it out of grade school. You never stop learning and you never truly know it all. Be open minded. No one is being that point of intellect. I never needed to impress anyone with my years of college. I never even spoke about it. Humbleness brings you intellect. A strong self esteem allows you to be open to new ideas or suggestions from anyone who has one. It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.
Vanity or being a bragger is the quicksand of reason. Being and acting
powerful is like being a child. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't. If arrogance is the heady wine of youth, than humility must be it's eternal hangover. Conquer but never triumph in another's defeat.
Success can make you go one of two ways. It can make you a prima donna, or it can smooth the edges, take away the insecurities, and let the real you shine. The beauty of a real person who doesn't feel the need to have to impress all others around them. Humility is attentive patience. If you can't bite don't show your teeth.
We have all been around people before either at a party, work, or wherever. We have heard someone just keep talking about themselves and you just want to get up and tell them to "please, just shut up!" These type people impress no one. Except the very week mind. They most likely have a very low self esteem and need to feel superior in there own eyes by trying to impress everyone around them with there words. Except to truly intuit people who can see right through them. The most knowledgeable person and the person who has it best going on is the one in the corner not speaking but just listening. These are the people that you should be impressed by. They don't need approval. They like who they are and are confident in themselves. And most likely are much more intoned to life and enjoying it than everyone else around them. They are either very confident or possible retarded. LOL
It's about being humble. Feel good about who you are. No need to try to impress another. In time they will truly be impressed by your actions and candor. As in my interviews, I didn't want to burst someone's bubble by telling them how many years or how many degrees I had. Even when asked my reply was, "yes, I graduated college." That would be it. No more needed to be said. If they worked for me in time they would see. My goal throughout my life wasn't to be the smartest, the wisest, the most educated~~~It was to be the humblest. One who never stopped learning even through today. I wake up every morning wanting and hoping to learn something new.
People here always ask me where I learned so much about life and people. Am I a writer or a psychologist? The answer for me is a simple one. I'm just a good listener! Copyright: Rich R 11/28/07
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