White Chocolate's blog: "being confused sucks"

this is so true If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire life time to forget them. 10:33 PM - 2 Comments - 0 Kudos - Add Comment - Edit - Remove kick ass advice ..>..>..>..> What every girl needs to know about guys. Best Advice You Will Probably Ever Hear: .. If he's not calling you, it's because you're not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn't follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he's okay with disappointing you. Don't be with someone who doesn't do what they say they're going to do. "Busy" is another word for "asshole." "Asshole" is another word for the guy you're dating. If at all possible, try to get to know someone as best you can before you get naked with them. If a man is really into you, nothing will stop him from being with you. Whatever problems you may have been having in your relationship, they didn't merit him having sex with someone else. An excuse is a polite rejection. Men are not afraid of "ruining the friendship." If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will. Cheating is bad. Not knowing why you cheated is even worse. Don't date any man who doesn't know why he does things. 100% of men polled they have never accidentally slept with anyone. 100% of men polled said they've never been too busy to call a woman they were really into. Cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter whom it was with or how many times it happened. Cheating gets easier every time it's done. It's only hard the first time, when one feels the sting of morality and the guilt of betraying someone's trust. It doesn't count unless he says it when he's sober. An "I Love You" (or any semblance thereof) while under the influence of anything stronger than grape juice won't hold up in court or in life. If he only wants to see you, talk to you, have sex with you, etc., when he's inebriated, it ain't love - it's sport. Don't spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you. If you feel that's he's always holding something back, or that you're spending a lot of energy trying to change yourself into something you think will make him happier, then divorce yourself from him and move on. 100% of guys polled said they would have no problem marrying a woman who they were positive was the love of their life. It's very tempting when you really want to be with someone to settle for much, much less - even a vague, pathetic facsimile of less - than you would have ever imagined. Remember always what you set out to get, and please don't settle for less. Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person that you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company. You can't talk your way out of a breakup. It is not up for discussion. A breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one. Break up sex still means you're broken up. cut him off, let him miss you. Don't give him the chance to reject you again. If the person you "love" cannot freely spend his days thinking about you and being with you, it's not REAL love. Unless he's all yours, he's still hers. Try not to be 4 years into the relationship when it suddenly dawns on you that the guy you're with is a big, selfish jerk. You deserve to be with someone who is nice to you all the time. (You have to be nice to them, too.) You already have one asshole. You don't need another.

Some one asked me today why I am single/Well the answer to that is simple/ MEN SUCK/MEN LIE/MEN CHEAT/MEN USE YOU/MEN ABUSE YOU/MEN WANT ONE THING AND ONE THING ONLY AND THAT SEX/IF YOU DON'T GIVE IT UP TO THEM THEN THEY THINK THAT YOU ARE A STINGY BITCH/NO SORRY THATS NOT CORRECT/SOME GIRLS HAVE MORALS/ The reason I am writing this blog is to answer that question/So if you don't like my answer then fuck off/I am single because I choose to be/Not that I wanna be or anything/I CHOOSE TO BE/I have been fucked over to many times in my life to want to be in a relationship/It's hard to be in a relationship when you have trust issues/You don't trust anyone because you have been fucked over to many times to count/actually you ran out of fingers and toes to count on/You get cheated on/You get lied too/You get hurt simple as that/You get smacked around/Beat around/Why stand for that/Why depend on a man at all/Men are good for sex/Well maybe sometimes/Men think that they rule the earth/When in reality they don't rule shit/Men think that you will change them/When they try to change you/I have had relationships in my life/Some that were suppose to lead to marraige but in all/it lead to a heartbreak and a 14 hour drive back to ohio/Or a 5 hour drive back to ohio/Or they lead to depression/Where you don't get out of bed for days/You cry for 3 weeks straight/You don't eat/You lose weight/So why put yourself out there for that again?/Why not just live your life for who you are and not who they want you to be/ Why Not be single for once in your life/Worry about yourself/Help yourself/You can't be in a relationship with someone if you ain't happy/You can't make anyone else happy/If your not happy/I used to think/That the world revovled around men/But it doesn't/It revovles around me/HaHaHa I had to throw that in there for giggles/ So the next person/Who ask me why I am single/Or when I am getting married/or when am I going to make my mom a grandma/The answer to your question IS..... When I choose to settle down/When I think/I am ready for a relationship/When I am ready to pop some damn babies out/ I will be in a relationship/When I am ready to be in one/I got to much shit going on in my life right now to want/To be in one/I have to make myself happy first/I have to get my chickens in a row/(I think that is the saying)/Yes, I love to flirt/That is my job/Thats why I'm on this planet/I wasn't voted class flirt for nothing/I love making people laugh/I love making people smile/But before I can do all that/I have to make myself smile/I have to figure out what I want in a man/What I need to do is thinking about everything that has gone wrong/In my past relationships/Actually fuck that no I don't/ I didn't make them cheat on me/I didn't make them not want to marry me/They choose that/Not Me/They choose to beat me/They choose to cheat on me/They choose not to want to be with me/That their loss/Not mine/So to close this blog is this...... I choose to be single/I choose not to let anyone in/I choose to get married/SOMEDAY/ I choose to have babies/SOMEDAY/I am allowed to choose ain't I???

all about relationships *Repost* After having a long relationship talk with a girlfriend, who is having problems with hers I came up with the following advise! Of coarse these may or may not apply to you, but at some point in time you have gone through at least 1 of these, if not more! Everyone has had a bad relationship…so don't be trying to lie! 1.) Talk…if you can't communicate why are you together! 2.) Accusing your sweetie of cheating…if you are someone who does this, take a good look at yourself because it usually means YOU are guilty of something…and this is a way to get out from under the guilt, by pointing a finger at someone else. Unless he is coming home with lipstick on his shirt, or she is smelling like cologne you don't wear, give it up and tell me what is really going on! 3.) Are you snooping? What is it you are looking for? My mother who I have come to accept knows everything (although I don't like this fact), and is usually right (don't like that either) says when someone snoops they are looking for a way out, without having to be the bad guy. If they find something they may not like or if it makes the other person look bad, it makes it much easier to leave. Again if you are snooping you already have an idea what your looking for to begin with, which should be your first clue to say goodbye and have a nice life! This goes along the line with #2, if you do this STOP now or you will end up single…but I guess if your really looking for a way out your headed in the right direction!! So to that I say quit being a baby and end it already!! 5.) Do you trust the person you are with? If you don't…breakup!! It really is that easy. I don't want to be with someone I don't trust…and you shouldn't either! Enough said! 6.) Listen when you argue or fight! If more than you're a dick or bitch is being said, you will find great insight to how and what the other person really feels. When someone says something hurtful during an argument they are actually being honest…it just comes at a bad time when things are heated…so see #1. 7.) Being jealous and insecure are two of the worst traits in the world…and makes even the most good looking person in the world ugly! Something to think about!! 8.) A healthy self esteem (NOT EGO) can make an average person extremely sexy. 9.) Are you happy being single? If not a relationship is not going to fix what was already broke, and after that honeymoon phase you will still be miserable!! Sorry but this one is true and no one can help you with this one but yourself! 10.) Don't try and control your boyfriend/girlfriend! I don't know about you but if I wanted someone to boss me around and want to know what I am doing every second of everyday I would move back home with my parents! We all moved away from home for a reason…and it wasn't to get into something we already had with our parents!! 11.) Don't let someone push you into doing something that your not comfortable doing…whether it be sexually or anything else! If it is not in your comfort zone don't do it just to make someone else happy! It is not worth it!

what men should know No always means No!! If you can't use your big head, we can't guarantee to be nice to your little one!! Just an FYI is all!! If we tell you we don't like something please DON"T do it! Your not going to make us like it no matter how many times you try…you will only turn us off! If you make me cold I am not putting out! When kissing my neck or earlobes do it lightly, a little tongue is ok as long as I don't feel like I showered when your done! I don't know any female that likes this…GROSS! Dry humping is NEVER ok!! EVER!! It is kind of creepy and in some weird way reminds us of a pedophile! Begging is pathetic! No woman I know will give it up when you beg! We are not porn stars, well at least most of us, so don't talk to us like we are! Now it's not that we mind the dirty talk but when you make it sound like we are in a movie is when it becomes a bit freaky! If we are breathing heavy or moaning you are doing something right! Keep it up! Everyone can appreciate a new position but please keep in mind we are not Gumby and our bodies just like yours can only bend so far! When we actually are having sex remember to pace yourself, it is not a race to see who can finish first! You will win, and you will also not get it again!! All women give clues as to what we really want in a relationship, even though we may not verbally tell you. We are hoping we picked a man smart enough to figure them out! Don't be offended when we need alone time, it is our way of refueling and often when we don't get it we can get really burned out! If that happens don't ask why I am being a bitch, I will just think your stupid! Learn when to keep your mouth shut! I know this sounds harsh but there are times when you men need to learn the best thing you can do is zip your lips and let us have out space! Hounding will only get you an outcome you may not like! If you constantly bring up things from the past it means you are not over it, and most likely means you never will be…just something to think about! During a fight things are heated and things are said that are often hurtful and once those words are out in the open they can never be taken back, try and remember to think before you speak! Us women may forgive you, but we will never forget! The time you spend with us is important! Show us that is important to you as well, don't act as though you have somewhere else to be or that you would rather be doing something else, we notice!! Treating sex as though it is something we owe to you will only lead to NO sex!! Don't place conditions on your relationship…if you want to be in control of someone or something get a damn dog!! If you ask us a question and we answer honestly, don't sit and argue because you don't like the answer…it is frustrating and pisses us off!