Heather's blog: "BDSM"

He is Master, and i am slave,

He is owner, and i am owned,

He commands, and i obey,

He is to be pleased, and i am to please.

Why is this?

Because He is Master, and i am slave

          this is the slave creed

Being your slave, what should I do but tend Upon the hours and times of your desire? I have no precious time at all to spend, Nor services to do till you require. Nor dare I chide the world-without-end hour Whilst I, my sovereign, watch the clock for you, Nor think the bitterness of absence sour When you have bid your servant once adieu. Nor dare I question with my jealous thought Where you may be, or your affairs suppose, But, like a sad slave, stay and think of naught Save where you are how happy you make those. So true a fool is love that in your will, Though you do anything, he thinks no ill. -W. Shakespear

~Essential BDSM~ 1. Honesty. Without honesty, there can be no trust. Without trust D/s is nothing. 2. Trust. Trust is sometimes given freely or it is given after a long slog. D/s relationships rely on trust as the depths physically, emotionally and mentally can surpass vanilla relationships. 3. Love. Without love, the control a Dominant can have over a submissive, is dangerous. These are real people, real emotions. 4. Communication. How you communicate youre desires is your choice - but communicate! Take time to learn about your partner, learn about their needs, their requirements. 5. Self Respect. Value yourself. Being a submissive does not mean you are a doormat. Being a dominant does not mean you treat people like a doormat. 6. Patience. Learn to grow together. Take your time to explore each other, love each other, and respect each other.

~D/s Thoughts~ 1. Be patient & understanding. No Dom/me is perfect; subbies have bad days like anyone else. Both parties are human and deserve respect even if it is given in different ways. 2. Be there for each other. Do your utmost to stay in contact. Don't just disappear. 3. Dom/me, don't be collectors. How can you possibly have the time for 10, 15 or more subs? They deserve better from you. 4. Subs, give your gift of submission only after careful consideration. Meeting someone than asking them to collar you after 30 minutes is NOT enough. Build trust first. 5. Open communication is key. Subs should be allowed to talk to thier Dom/me and raise concerns, wants, desires in a respectful manner. Dom/me should consider carefully what thier sub has to say. Doesn't mean bend to every request, but if there are problems you will never know if your sub cannot speak frankly with you. 6. Dom/me don't take a sub just because you are lonely and subs don't serve just anyone who will say yes.