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Why am I writing this.. I just got off the phone with my 21 year old He called me at work. Yet again his dad let him down and all I wanted to do was run to him Go to where he works and make it better. You see children no matter how old always look for that one time that dad will come thru and all you can do as a single parent is watch and want to take away the disappointment the hurt the sorrow. But you cant. And you watch it happen over and over again
Why am I writing this .....Just to say to you girls out there, Getting pregnant and having a baby is the most wonderful thing that any woman can experience. To feel life growing inside you nothing can compare. But if it happens either to young a age or with the wrong person there is only pain that will come of it. Yes you will have the OMG I cant finish school ....I will lose all my friends or how will I raise this child alone.,.. what about money. All that will go thru your mind. But no one thinks about the effects it has on the tiny little wonder that now is yours. That little one with eyes so big filled with the sparkle of wonder and life and hopes of happiness depending on you to *make it all ok* and you wont be able to. Please think about what the effects of you getting pregnant at a young age will have on that precious life. Yes you may be able to finish school support that child give it everything. But when he hits his first homerun and the person he hit it for isnt there he or will never there. Or when she dances on stage in her tiny little tutu and she looks and pouts because she doesnt see that one set of eyes she was hoping to be there, Its not that as mom they dont want you there or that it doesnt matter that your there but they strive to do it for that one missing piece that is not there in their lives. Those are the times you need to look at sort of like a crystal ball looking into their tomorrows I was married for 11 years. So I am not saying its just youth that has this huge burden but youth seems to never look at the effects.. We all were guilty of that when we were young.
Why am I writing this.... because you men out there who think that its ok to walk out because the girl you got pregnant isnt what you want in life (and thats ok because we all need to be happy but dont walk out on that child), Or because a better one came along and you dont want a child to wreck what you might have with this new girl. Or wow the drugs and parties and the wild life is better then a phone call to a tiny little voice just to say hi, All of those things are choices that you make now that later on when the lime light is gone... or other girl is either no longer around or you made a life with her...but when it all settles the pain comes and it can never be fixed. But you need to realize that that child who you long forgot lives with that pain every day. And emptiness that was never filled no matter what was given them throughout their lives You can never giveback that child the smiles that were missed of seeing dad there, or hearing that young voice say YEAH THATS MY DAD with such pride that it should be coming out of an adults body. Or the missed birthdays or the kindergarten Graduation or the first time behind a wheel or the first broken heart and hugs and goodnight kisses or bedtime stories dang the list is so long of things that will never be.
MEMORIES for that child MEMORIES that they will never have never had a chance to have. All thats left in there hearts is WHAT WOULD HAVES.
If this touched one person into picking up the phone and calling their child I did ok even if it just put the crystal ball sort of say in the playing field then that is wonderful Like I said I wrote this blog because I lived many years seeing pain in my Children's eyes, a pain that I as the one person (any parent) always never wants to see. Bottom line all Children are so innocent so open so loving why be the one thing in their young fresh life to cause such devastating pain. The choices you make are what makes that child the adult they will be forever, A big job huh? The controller over another's life just by YOUR choices. But its a job you took on the day that child was conceived.
PLEASE IF YOU ARE A SINGLE DAD WHERE THE CHILD'S MOTHER WALKED OUT ON THEM I WANT YOU TO KNOW THIS WAS WRITTEN FOR YOU ALSO I KNOW YOU ARE DEALING WITH THE SAME THINGS I AM. AND MY HEART CRIES FOR YOUR CHILDREN. BE PROUD OF THE JOB YOU ARE DOING, BECAUSE THE ONLY BENEFITS THAT COME WITH THIS JOB IS THE KNOWLEDGE THAT YOU DID YOUR BEST AND THE LOVE OF THAT CHILD.
Peeksta
