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QUESTION...
LONG BEFORE WE MEET OUR MATES, WE HAVE AN EXACT IDEA IN MIND OF THE PERSON WE WANT TO SHARE OUR LIVES WITH, SO WHAT DO WE LOOK FOR IN POTENTIAL PARTNERS? INTELLIGENCE, SHARED VALUES, MUTUAL INTERESTS, CHARACTER, PERSONALITY?
NO ONE WANTS TO BE ALONE IN LIFE, WE WANT TO CONNECT AND SHARE OURSELVES WITH ANOTHER INDIVIDUAL THAT WE CAN CONFIDE IN, TRUST, BE HONEST TO, CONVEY FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS WITH. SO WITH THAT IN MIND WHEN WE GET A TASTE OF THIS HEALTHY ADDICTION WE TRY TO FIND IT IN EVERY MEANINGFUL ENCOUNTER WITH POTENTIAL PARTNERS WE ARE ATTRACTED TO. ON AVERAGE MOST RELATIONSHIPS LAST ANYWHERE FROM A FEW MONTHS TO A COUPLE YEARS. SO WHAT KEY FACTORS PLAY INTO A RELATIONSHIP NOT LASTING OR LASTING?
THERE ARE SIGNS THAT CAN INDICATE THAT A RELATIONSHIP WILL BE LONG TERM; THE ABILITY TO DISCUSS PROBLEMS AND DISAGREEMENTS WITHOUT FIGHTING, ALLOW EACH OTHER TO HAVE DIFFERENT OPINIONS AND STYLES, RECOGNIZE AND ACKNOWLEDGE SERIOUS DIFFERENCES WITHOUT LAYING BLAME OR MAKING ACCUSATIONS, MAKING WANTS KNOWN, HEAR AND UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER EVEN DURING DISAGREEMENTS, FIND TIME TO COMMUNICATE ON A REGULAR BASIS, WORK TOGETHER AS EQUALS, AND EMBRACING EACH OTHERS CHANGE AND GROWTH. IF A RELATIONSHIP DOESNT EXHIBIT THESE QUALITIES THAN CHANCES ARE THE RELATIONSHIP WILL BE TROUBLED.
THE OLD ADDAGE IS TRUE, IF YOU CANT COMPROMISE AND HAVE GOOD COMMUNICATION THE RELATIONSHIP WILL NEVER WORK. SAME GOES FOR HAPPINESS, IF EITHER PERSON ISNT HAPPY OR ONE PERSON IS ALWAYS SACRIFICING THEY'RE HAPPINESS TO MAKE THE OTHER PERSON HAPPY IT STILL WONT WORK.
MOST MEN AND WOMEN WHO ARE LOOKING FOR LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS MAY HAVE AN UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS AND WILL FAIL TO REALIZE THAT RELATIONSHIPS DONT HAPPEN OVER NIGHT BUT TAKE TIME. COUPLES NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT THEY WILL HAVE TO GO THROUGH LIFE MAKING CHANGES IF THEY WANT A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP. THE INITIAL PERIOD OF ADJUSTMENT TO EACH OTHERS DIFFERENCES OFTEN WRECKS NEW RELATIONSHIPS MAKING IT EASIER FOR PAST RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHER PARTNERS SEEM MORE COMFORTING FOR THE FACT THAT THEY ALREADY FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH THE PREVIOUS PARTNER.
ANOTHER TRUTH ABOUT PEOPLE LOOKING FOR A STRONG AND LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP IS FINDING SOMEONE WHO IS MORE LIKE YOURSELF, SAME INTERESTS AND VIEWS ON SUBJECTS. WOMEN CURRENTLY OUT NUMBER MEN 6 TO 1. MEANING MEN HAVE AN OVER ABUNDANCE OF POTENTIAL PARTNERS TO FIND THE ONE WHO BEST SUITES HIS NEEDS AND LIFESTYLE ON THE BASIS OF SIMILARITIES BOTH PEOPLE SHARE. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR WOMEN? WOMEN HAVE A HARDER TIME FINDING A MONOGAMOUS PARTNER. TO INCREASE THE LIKELY HOOD OF FINDING AND KEEPING THE IDEAL POTENTIAL PARTNER WOMEN CONSISTANTLY MAINTAIN AN ATTRACTIVE AND APPEALING IMAGE TO KEEP THE PARTNER INTERESTED IN BEING MONOGAMOUS. SO THE OLD SAYING IS TRUE, A MAN CHASES A WOMEN UNTIL SHE CATCHES HIM.
