Once you find someone you care a great deal about you begin to let your guard down. You tend to be the cruelest to those who you love the most.
You first meet. Your eyes connect and you are immediately drawn closer and closer. Your first date is perfection; only showing those characteristics of which one can truly admire. You are sweet and chivalric; you open doors for her, pull out her chair and push it in when she sits. You say “Bless you” when she sneezes and you compliment he heavily throughout the night. The first week goes on as your relationship begins to blossom. You spoil her immensely. She comes home to wonderful surprises such as roses at her doorstep or a card filled with poems stuffed in her mailbox.
If only this perfection could last forever. After the weeks go on you feel you can let your guard down and be your true self. You begin to let out the little flaws that you had once strived to hide. You no longer care to impress your partner and your appearance begins to fade off from pristine to grungy.
Often, both sides end up slipping together and care not of the others faults. I feel as if once this guard is let down all of the passion evaporates along with it. The romance is gone and the surprises now only come on birthdays and Christmas.
Not necessarily being a bad thing or a good thing but, I am one to adore surprises. No matter how long I am with a guy I do not want him feeling comfortable belching in a restaurant at my family birthday dinner or swearing his head of about the lousy service at the convenient store. Dignity should not fade as a relationship goes on. Courtesy should remain throughout the years. Being along with your partner is a different story but, there is no need to bring your vulgar ways out while in the presence of your partner’s friends.
I am guilty of this as well. The more I am with a guy, the more I tend to care less. This is an awful quality to have. I love getting butterflies as I get ready for a night with my boyfriend. Even if it is to just sit on the couch and cuddle. I don’t want to lose the little things in a relationship. I always want to get all giddy while I take hours trying to look adorable for the guy I will be spending the day with.
It’s not all about first impressions. It’s about a long lasting relationship of happiness. It’s about still being able to get butterflies from the person you adore so much. Try not to let the comfort get the best of you and your relationship.
