(I recently found this piece of literature in an old notebook of mine. To keep myself occupied at my old job, I'd write little small thesis like this one. I apparently had plenty of time on my hands. "Identity" was one of them. Here is another called "Acceptance." Unfortunately, I can't remember what exactly happened in my life that would warrant this thesis... but I can still relate to it.)
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Many interracial couples are faced with negative reactions from society, making it hard for them to have a regular relationship. They have to deal with disapproval from their own race, pessimistic resolve from family and friends, not to mention the ignorance of society as a whole.
Why is interracial dating so controversial?
Is not racism a thing of the past, or is it that people will always fear what they don't understand?
People who date and socialize with others of different racial groups frequently experience negative feedback. Many of the disapproving messages come from those within their own race, scoffing and razzing the idea that someone is dating outside their skin color.
According to a poll taken in 1992, 31% of America believes that people should only date inside their race in order to "keep the unity withint the ethnic community."
It is like they believe in sequestering each racial group. They believe that every race is uniquely special and should not be integrated. Mixing races would only cause problems.
On one hand, they are right.
I'd wager to say that one of the most hurtful things to a person who dates outside their race is having to deal with family and friends who are not supportive. One might wonder what may cause loved ones to shy against the concept of interracial relationships. Many families may oppose the 'mixing' for political reasons, religion, or plain ol' pride.
Many people who date outside their race are likely to encounter tension and criticism from society. People tend to have superficial viewpoints about interracial dating and forget about the true meaning of a relationship. But history has shown that what seems different is not easily accepted.
It is unequivocal that interracial dating is not easy. Is any relationship easy, interracial or not? Dating should never be about pleasing others or worrying about what they think. It should be based on the discovery and understanding of someone you truly care for and, over time and communication, may grow to love. Depending on your perception of society, race should not be an issue when building a foundation for a relationship. What should be truly considered are the factors that make a relationship work; communication, comfortability, patience, trust, consideration, availability, humor, and understanding.
How big of a part does society play on the heart strings of mixed couples? How many have been on the receiving end of stares and comments under breath? Why do people care?
One would think it would be an issue of concern only to the couple. What exactly is the issue?
Several questions. Each are relative.
But the biggest question seems to be:
Should the couple take the chance?
