5411666's blog: "With me......Or against me"

This blog has been past due for some time now but I feel now is the perfect opportunity to enlighten ppl in understanding WHO I am,WHAT I believe and stand for and why I no longer will allow myself to not be true to me.

                                WITH ME......Or against me

In the past 3 months I've used this saying more and more frequently and I'm sure I will continue to keep on saying it. The past 3 months have been an eye opening,life learning expirience for sure in many aspects of my life. So here are the things that are important to ME.....so that if you take the time to read this blog,you can understand me better,understand my actions whether we are friends or no longer friends,this blog will answer many a great things about me,my beliefs and convictions,what i stand for in life and what I will not tolerate. HOPEFULLY by reading this you will be able to answer ANY questions you may have as to why certain things happened,are happening or could POSSIBLY happen in the future in regards to a friendship between you and I.

Rule 1: Honesty

Honesty to ME....is the singular most important aspect in my life,it has been and always will be. If I feel you've been dishonest with me at any time then to me there really is no point in even continuing down a path of friendship that you may be wanting to continue in. I DESPISE Liars. DETEST liars,ABHORRE lying and liars. Lying to me IS the SINGULAR WORST THING you can do and is the SINGULAR MOST DESTRUCTIVE PATH you can take in altering any friendship that may or may not develop between us. In the past 3 months I've had to let go of people in my life that I had envisioned would forever be a part of my life because of the simple fact that they would rather choose to lie,than to be honest. To ME...lying only brings hurt,pain,confusion,doubt,skepticism,gets ppl angry or upset. To ME....when you have a CHOICE....a CLEAR and SINGULAR CHOICE to either lie or tell the truth and you choose to lie then you've proven yourself to me what you are,who you are,how much weight your word carries and how you handle most things in your life.

When it gets to a point that I begin to doubt your intentions or your word,I draw back and my defenses go up,when that happens there really is no use in us even being friends at all. I know I may appear to be dumb as you endevour in your pursuits of untruths but I am NOT dumb,its just that I choose to sit back and watch you make the bed that you will lie in (no pun intended) This goes for ANYONE and EVERYONE. If you can't be real and honest with me....then I don't need you in my life,bringing all the negativity lying creates and bringing me down. I do not associate myself with people who lack the courage to stand up and behave as an adult and not succumb to peer pressure or whatever their reasons are for lying. You ALWAYS,ALWAYS,ALWAYS have a CHOICE....the right way....or the wrong way,its as simple as black,its as simple as that. You are either WITH ME.....Or AGAINST ME.

2: Loyalty

Loyalty to me is the SECOND most important aspect to me in a person and is the backbone,the very life blood of my motto "With Me.....Or Against Me". I am an "Action Guy" Actions speak to me MUCH louder than words ever can. Too many times words have been lies,so now I go by actions and actions alone. If you know me,TRULY KNOW ME then you know my loyalty to you can ALMOST be a life long one as long as you don't abuse my loyalty,my TRUST,my FAITH in you and in your ability to be loyal to whatever dicotomy our relationship/friendship has. If I feel that you are not loyal to me by actions that you have taken then there really is no sense in even continuing down whatever path it is you are pursuing. Fore it is not a path that I am interested in pursuing and I WILL NOT......FOLLOW.....ANYONE......down that path. It's as simple as black and white....there are NO grey areas. Grey areas are created when one lacks the strength of ones convictions,lacks the ability to take a stand on the grounds of whats right and what is wrong,one who lacks the backbone and will to say no to things that are wrong because their need to please is stronger than their sense of morality,One whose FEAR of being an individual overides their COURAGE and abilty to BE an idividual,One who lacks honor,One who is weak.

These type of people only bring you down,they bring me down so therefore I do not need them or want these type of inviduals in my life. So if you've noticed that I am acting a bit standoffish to you where as before I was more open and receptive to communicating with you,look at rules 1 and 2 and THINK to YOURSELF....was there ever an instance or a moment in time where the chocies I made and the actions I took CLEARLY went against either of these 2 beliefs?? DID I lie? Was I not LOYAL?? If so then you have your answer as to why I am no longer the way I was with you before because you are either WITH ME.....Or AGAINST ME.

3:Respect

Respect to me is a 2 way street,to earn respect one must first give respect. If I feel that I have been disrespected by ANY actions you have taken then again no need to even keep trying to pretend to be a friend to me because you've been figured out and DISRESPECT is something I do not tolerate at all. I know and understand that we are all different people and hold differnt values and beliefs,I can RESPECT that. But if your values and beliefs DISRESPECT ME....then you are done and there is no need to even continue the game ur playing because you are either WITH ME....Or AGAINST ME.

I am in NO way stating that I am perfect,I have my own set of issues and problems that I need to work on as we ALL do but what I AM saying is that if you DO NOT,CANNOT and HAVE NOT followed the guidelines as to what I've set up for ME....that which makes my life easier for ME to live in,then I don't know what else to say to you except either you are WITH ME......OR AGAINST ME.....which side you decide to stand on....That choice I will leave up to you to decide.