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| created @ 03/23/2009 09:04 pm |
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Ok....so the situation is this: I have been married for 10 years. My husband is from England and has lived here in the US since 1999 (his decision; originally I had moved over to England). In the beginning, he was good about calling his 2 children in England and we went over there 2 times and brought them over here 2 times. As time went on, he became depressed about not seeing them, and began drinking a lot more than he ever had. Over the years, he bought all kinds of expensive toys - RVs, motorcycles, scooters, etc. and the drinking went from beer, to wine, to whiskey - every single day - drinking until he basically passed out. He blamed the drinking and buying on me for all kinds of reasons and of course, it was my fault that he didn't get to see his kids. Over the years, my 2 children made a couple of bad decisions that cost us financially. In each instance, I managed to find a way to pay my husband back for the money they cost us/him. In each case when I paid him back (in full all at once, I should say) he chose to do other things with the money and didn't go see his kids.
We separated (5th time) at the beginning of the year. We split the income tax return and he got $1900. Even though he knew that his Mom was ill, he again chose to do other things with that money. Fast forward to a week ago - his mother died back in England. Initially, I thought that I should try and borrow some money against my IRA so he could go over there. In the meantime, I find out that his children don't want me to come because they believe that I took him away and that I kept him from seeing them - they could have only come to that decision from information they somehow got from him via his ex. He is still drinking, still blaming me for not seeing his kids or his Mom and I have decided that I will not help him after all. Am I being a cold-hearted byatch at a time when he is really low, or am I finally standing up for myself like I should have done years ago? |
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