Robbie D's blog: "The ladder of arrows"

I was a child behavirol specialist for many years. It does not take a lot to get the desired behavior from children. It takes patience, consistency, immediacy, and making sure you use verbal tone that is direct. Let the child know " They are in charge " of their consequences. Turn it around ito a game at thrir level followed up by lots or praises. Take the time to mpodel the disred behavior, and make discipline time apropriate so the child sees a " window" to start again. Minutes in like a time out per age since many young children have no concept of time....ask yourself is y child acting up because for that moment he gets undivided attention?. Kids wants attention 24/7. Sometimes we just think they know when they need modeling of desired behavior. Remember verbal tome is the key , some will play on emotions and guilt to get away with consequences, so no becomes Temporary. I worked with a nationally renowned child behavioral specialist who was nationally sydnicated years later and wrote the book " Laying down the law...patience is the key a they are good at finding the right buttons to push to get their way or lessen the consequences. I'd be in stores all the time to watch the child parent the adult until they gave in not to be embarrassed. Parents have all means of disciplining when a lot it just takes countig and tone of voice for compliance backed up by immediate reinforcement to know you mean business. It is called behavioral shaping. It may not work with all kids but does work on many.

Do not know too many who had not had those days when so much happens so fast it becomes a tidal surge upon your current day. It may be a phone call, many phone calls, work,  friends, relatives.... all seem to be riding surf boards on tsunamis heading your way all at once. Sometimes it helps to look as if arrows are shot in he air at several times at once landing upon you. One can either look at the arrows or let them stay in penetration, or one can take out eack arrow as one watches  the bows from afar lay into silence, then start to take each one, break off directional or damaging ends, and build a ladder that leads to better places that the ones that pulled back with porr intentions never imagined.  I lived in the mountains for some time and was fortunate eough to learn from Cherokee friends to " Never give your power away" ....so the ones pulling back bows are just left with air  as their imapcats are used to create,  and not destroy.