Well well well…part four has come at last. After looking at the topics left to expand on, I have chosen the next one. Why should a woman go up to a man and put her hands on him and expect him to not return the favor? Before I start on this tangent let me get this clear so no one misunderstands me…. I DO NOT BELIEVE PEOPLE SHOULD RESORT TO VIOLENCE. WE SHOULD ALL KEEP OUR HANDS TO OURSELVES. Now with that being said, let me continue with my views here.
Time after time I have had female acquaintances (I really can't call them friends) come up to me and tell me about how they got into a confrontation with their significant other and it came down to her getting so pissed off at what he was saying that she hit him. What blew my mind was the fact she would get mad when the man in any fashion put his hands on her. Even if it was just to restrain her and keep her from hitting him again. Now my question I put to them was, why should you expect him to not do something in return. The response is always "because I'm a woman. And men shouldn't put their hands on a woman."
Well, if you want to be treated like a woman, freaking act like it. Don't touch him if you don't want to be touched in return. If you put yourself in a man's role (by hitting the man) don't be surprised or shocked) when he puts his hands on you. Logically here, if a woman hits a woman, then she rightfully expects to be hit back. A "cat fight" usually is the results of that action. So why does it change just because the person you hit has outdoor plumbing instead of indoor (sue me…it's late and I was trying to figure out a tactful way to put it without getting overly blunt as is my nature. Now you see why I stay blunt)? There is no reason. You are a person and as a person keep your hands to your freaking self unless you expect have unwanted physical contact made with you.
If you can't be in a confrontation and keep it verbal and you make transition to physical violence then you've lost the argument. Use the gray matter between your ears and express yourself verbally. I'm tired of hearing the "I'm a woman and the guy is stronger than I am" bull. If you don't want unwanted physical contact then don't start it. If you're scared of him because he is so much "stronger" than you are, date someone that is not as big and strong. I've never been one to start a physical fight. I really have nothing to prove physically. It is much more a challenge to keep going on a mental level and spar with words vs. hands.
Some will say, well you've never had a bad relationship but if you really want to hear the dirt about how bad of one I've been in please, by all means drop me a line and I'll tell you a little about it. That's not something I am gonna share in this blog at this time. It's not the point of the blog.
Now I have to ask my question of the day. Why the hell can't people just keep their hands, feet, and all other body parts off other people when they are provoked (even if they were the original verbal provoker)? If you get that mad when you are verbally confronted with something ladies (and I'm using that term loosely), that you feel the need to lash out physically, walk away and cool off. Then come back to the verbal. If you don't and you inflict pain on him don't expect him to take it. Would you take it if someone else did it to you? No, you'd be quick to call the police. So next time you go to lash out on him, remember it is his right to call the police and have your butt put in jail. Wouldn't that look nice, a CDV or assault charge on your record? It's time you respect the men you are with and stop taking them for granted.
