To preface, I'd like to say that this blog doesn't address any one person in particular. I've seen this over and over again, and I'm writing a general *cough* rant, not anything about anyone specific.
I completely understand falling for people online. I really really do. See: boyfriend #1, boyfriend #2, and ex-husband, for starters, along with some major feelings for at least one Cherry Tapper, and some that perhaps could have been major feelings had the guy stuck around.
And, on that note, I also completely understand what it's like to have someone you care about, and enjoy talking to, disappear abruptly. It's happened to me. I know how you can despair, imagine worst-case scenarios, etc. Long distance relationships are a BITCH. You always think the worst of any situation.
That said, why do such incidents always result in the person publicly despairing, changing their nick to blabber that despair to the world, then threatening to leave CherryTap? What you're, in essence, telling everyone is that "the only reason I'm on CT is to be with that one special person, and since all the rest of you aren't her, you can kiss my fleeing ass goodbye." Also, "I want relative strangers to Feel My Pain and comfort me."
Now, am I immune to such behavior? Of course not. (See blogs 11-02 and 11-04 *rofl*) But I am not interested in leaving CherryTap for that. I'm here to make friends, and if I meet someone who's a legitimate love interest, that's just a bonus. When a relationship went wrong for me, and I needed space from someone, I simply deleted him from my friends and family lists for awhile so I wouldn't have to see him. I didn't say a virtual "fuck you" to everyone else who cared about me. Or, even worse, "pity me, pity me," but "pity me 'til I leave 'cuz you're not worth staying for."
So, if you feel despair about a CT relationship, write a blog. Pour out your feelings. Ask for sympathy from the friends who are good enough friends to read your blog. But for heaven's sakes, think about what you're saying to the world if you pour out your despair on your profile or in your nick, and what you're saying to your friends if you threaten to leave CherryTap because of such a situation.
End rant.
Oh, by the way, if I EVER change my nick to "Mrs. So and So" or start talking about CT marriage, except in jest, please please fuckin' shoot me. Because obviously I have been taken over by some completely alien creature and am no longer myself.
