DeadMonkeyBoy87's blog: "My social experiment on FUBAR"

OK Where to start with this. Well I first signed up on FUBAR in December 2008 and poked around and left. In June 2010 I decided to give FUBAR another chance. As i leveled and was checking out profiles i was starting to notice a common theme. No one ever rated any one under a 10 unless they had drama going on with the other person. But I was also noticing other thing men and women on FUBAR who had a high average but in reality wouldn't and as you went threw their photo or read their profiles they were selling their nsfw photos for bling or credits or FuBucks, or they would just post them for friends to see or for any one who wanted to look.

I started to ponder and think about this and one night i was watching Penn and Teller's show Bull Sh*t. And it just happened to be about self esteem.  A little light when on in my head i figured out why this was happening on FUBAR. People on FUBAR had become a costumed to the 10 and 11 rates and the rating system lost what it stood for.

I am rating as people would sum some one up in a bar before they approached them both women and men do it. im not rating people on their personality since thats impossible to do even if they fill out their profile just as it would be impossible to do just by looking at some one. Its just a fact of life every one seeks a partner that fits the same criteria and when you first meet any one with no prior knowledge looks is the first thing you go by. Like my fiancee to me she is a 11 all day long but to the next guy she may be a 1 or a 5. I am just honest enough to rate people as the rating system was intended for. 

Even if i got to know the person i rated and was to be friend my rate wouldnt change on the fact of how attractive some one see's another person does not mean thats how they judge a person on a whole. For all I know they may find me attractive enough to be a 10 or ugly enough to be a 1 and no matter how they rated me wouldn't make me  think any better or worse of who they are.Aand this is the point people are not seeming to get.

In my honest oppion I think allot of people on here esp the females wouldn't act like they do on here and post some of the pictures they do of themselves if they didnt receive all the rates of 10's and 11's they get. But with all those rates it has raised their self esteem and belief that all men want them. So they wind up posting nsfw pictures or selling their nsfw pics for bling and credit and happy hours when if people rated based on their honest first impression of their looks as it was originally intended to be, there would be allot less of this.
 
In the long run from reciving honest rates you would see allot less women and men posting pics of nsfw caliber of them selves here or on any site that has a rating system that is based on rating that person in the pic they put up, unless they were truly were happy with themselves as a person and with how they look. 
 
A great example would be if I went by what my rating was before I started giving people honest rates and had a low self esteem or self worth of my self and took it as any woman who rated me digs me and wants me. I then go posting pics of my self in a man thong or a speedo. Other than my fiancee and maybe a few other women who find bigger men attractive would find these pictures attractive, the rest would just make fun of me from the comfort of their couch or desk, and copy the pictures to post on other web sites and forums and boards. All for the purpose to make fun of that person with out them having any knowledge of it unless one of their real friends find it by accident and inform them or they find it by accident.

And then any good that came from every one rating that person a 10 or higher would be gone and that persons self worth and self esteem would be even less than it started off. 
 
So in the long run me being honest is a ripple in the pool of opening ones eyes up and a step towards getting others to rate the same way honestly in hopes people will start to realize they have fed to much into this and can start to accept themselves and understand that not every one will be attracted to them. But it also dont mean just because some one may or may not be attracted that it don't change who they are and that just because a person may not be as attracted to the as they may or may not be, does not mean that they will like them any more or less as a person or their decision to be their friend.

I ask people to really take the time to think about this and then to give it a whirl. If you are so concerned about points it dose not matter since you will get the same amount of point if you rate some one a 1,2, or even a 10 the only time there is a point difference is when you rate a 11. I like fubar and love being a part of the community. But as a human being who takes being honest seriously I will continue to rate as I do, and if you cant rate others the same way at least if I run across your profile and you don't get a 10 or a 11 all i ask is for you to rate mine honestly. I know I'm no 10 or a 11 and i would like for my rating to reflect where i really stand and to be an example that not every one on here is concerned about having the highest score possible and that some of us don't mind being labeled as average or even as less than average in looks.

Be on the look out for my next topic of Gotta add them all, Friends or just a bunch of strangers. It will cover why people seem to have to add every one even if in reality they never get to know the person.