stargazer1219's blog: "Musings"

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes". The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now", said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things,,, God, family, children, health, friends and favorite passions - things that if everything else was lost and only this remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff. "If you put the sand in the jar first", he continued, there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small things, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. So,,,,,, pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical check ups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean up the house and fix the disposal. "Take care of the gold balls first, the things that really matter. Sort your priorities. "The rest is just sand" One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiles. "I´m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there´s always room for a cup of coffee with a friend". "When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the two cups of coffee".

The universe is full of endless possibilities and the mind is the most complex, capable, and wonderful creation in the universe… or accident in the universe, if you prefer. Our mind is where we gain knowledge and knowledge is power. We can have power over our own life and other people. I’m not speaking of mind over matter, which , by the way, I do believe in, to a point… and I'm not talking about becoming a world leader. What I’m talking about here is having power over people though words, body language, and setting up situations. I know this sounds like a bunch of shit, but whatever…lol… I’m posting it anyway. I got most of it out of a couple books and a show called the Pickup Artist. You may be thinking you don't want power that requires strategy or deception of any kind. If you think about it, we are all manipulators to some extent. In many situations we don't fully divulge our intent or we would blow it; or we don't don't tell 100% of the truth so we don't hurt someone's feelings. That is manipulating the situation and gaining a certain amount of power, no matter has little the power...it's still controlling another, to an extent. Not all deception is bad. And some straightforwardness can be bad. Lying is not necessary, but a certain amount of deception is necessary in order to manipulate the situation that gives us power. We’re all in the process of learning the game everyday that we live, some faster than others, some very slowly. By knowing and using certain principles we can get way ahead of the game. Life is not a game, neither is war, but like a game of chess, in life and war, the more you strategize, the more you plan your next move and several moves ahead, the more likely your chances of controlling the king, the people around you, your situation, your life. “Knowledge is power.” What ultimately gives people power? You may be born into royalty, elected president, be the most likable person in your group of friends, be a mechanic, housewife, actor, director. Whoever you are…. your power, or lack of it ultimately comes from other people. Learning to control the people around you is the key to power. Each week in the show The Pickup Artist, so-called geeks are given new pointers by a man called Mystery, THE pickup artist, on how to pick up women and then they are challenged to use what they’ve learned. Inevitably, the geeks who best use what they’ve learned have the most success. The principles work. Each week the least successful geek is eliminated. They are taught how to create interest and value in themselves and the art of seduction. For example: Making eye contact and giving a sincere, relaxed smile with a slight nod says you are a sincere yet confident person. Now down to the last three geeks, one of the most difficult challenges for the geeks was to get an exotic dancer/stripper to go outside to their limousine, “off the clock.” One geek, who, by the way, seems less geeky as the weeks go by, stood above the other two. He sat at a table. One of the dancers asks if she may sit down. Part of her job is to get him to buy her an overpriced drink that has very little alcohol in it. As soon as she sits down he asks her where all the hot girls are. She frowns and says, “What?” He smiles a genuine smile and says, “Just kidding.” Already she’s attracted by his genuineness and confidence, not to mention a little humor. He leans back in his chair, away from her. Slightly distancing himself from her makes her think hey, where’s he going? An automatic response is for her to lean in toward him, which she does. He pulls her in, hook, line and sinker. He plays her like chess piece, and she has no idea what he’s doing. His next move is brilliant. He says, “So what do you have going for yourself besides your looks and this place?” She answers, “I go to cosmetology school and I’m gonna own my own solon.” He snuck in a little compliment while at the same time getting her to qualify herself to him. He created a situation where she is now proving herself to him! His strategy worked perfectly. He had power over her and she never knew what hit her. Before the night was over she was in the limo with him making out, and he didn’t spend a dime on her. Being a master pickup artist is just one aspect of the power you can have over people. Now they need to do a show on how women can pick up men….hmmm. Before I go, i want to say that according to the book The 48 Laws of Power, The most important skill and crucial foundation to power is the ability to master your emotions. A wrong emotional response to a situation may be the single greatest barrier to power and may cost you more than any temporary satisfaction you gain by expressing your feelings. Emotions effect reason, and if your reasoning is clouded you are not in control. There’s a lot more to say on the subject… to be cont.

The gods wanted to preserve the most sacred gift of all, the truth, so they decided to hide it. First they hid it atop the highest tree, but an eagle may swoop down and carry it off, never to be seen again. So, they decided to hide it under the biggest rock, but that was not good either... worms may devour this sacred gift. Then the gods thought of hiding the truth far into the jungle, but monkeys may find it and play with it and twist it until it's unrecognizable. Finally, the gods thought of the perfect place to hide the truth -- deep in the heart of man. There, truth would be safe forever, because man would never look there.

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur's youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death. The question?...What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged. The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first. The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked a nd hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus: What a woman really wants, she answered...is to be in charge of her own life. Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding. The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half. Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day....or night? Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments? What would YOU do? What Lancelot chose is below. BUT....make YOUR choice before you scroll down below. OKAY? Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life. Now....what is the moral to this story? Scroll down The moral is..... If you don't let a woman have her own way... Things are going to get ugly

I sit here for that moment Wishing and wanting for him to get closer I can't explain what I feel when I look into his eyes I feel this excitement that I cannot hide When I feel his presence I get a little timid But then I gain confidence and release my inner beauty I start a simple conversation We sit there and chat for hours Then he wonders why we have so much in common I pause for a moment is this it will I get my one kiss He just sits and glares into my eyes Licking his lips slowly oh how I want to die His beautiful lips are so full and thick He stops and looks at me With his beautiful smile I retrieve Retrieve of embarrassment Oh GOD how I wish for his sexy lips to touch mine As he gets ready to leave I just stand slowly and tell him I wish you could stay a little longer and share with me a cup of tea As he leans to get his jacket He smiles at me and looks in my eyes and with his hand a gentle touch on my face he pulls in and kisses my lips softly and gentle ,ohhh my I scream inside.

It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it only takes a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be; because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person too. A careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live life so that when you die... you are the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.

One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of showing his son how poor people can be. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family. On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "It was great, Dad." "Did you see how poor people can be?" the father asked. "Oh Yeah" said the son. "So what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father. The son answered, "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them." With this the boy's father was speechless. Then his son dded, "Thanks dad for showing me how poor we are." Too many times we forget what we have and concentrate on what we don't have. What is one person's worthless object is another's prize possession. It is all based on one's perspective. Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for all the bounty we have, instead of worrying about wanting more...

It's a beautiful day today. I'm sitting at my desk, trying to study a bit and for a moment I stop, reach the window and watch the cars that pass down the street...I don't feel sad but a strange feeling has possessed me, something like a sweet melancholy, as a friend of mine would say... It was raining before but now the sun is out again and as I look up at the sky I smile...I feel worried and happy at the same time. Optimism and fear combined and expressed through this smile that is drawn on my face for the last two minutes...Many changes and there have been times lately that I caught myself just watching all that was going on, from a distance, unable to react; I don't know if I really was unable to react or if I needed to just follow things without intervening in life's plans! "How and where am I gonna be in some years from now?" That's the thought that dominates my mind the last few months. I'm not a fatalist but I do believe that we can't avoid destiny...We can act and react, make efforts but we subconsciously follow a particular path from the time we are born. Where this path leads? Impossible to know but interesting to find out! I wish you all a beautiful week that will help you load your batteries and take some time to share precious moments with the people you love!