Top Six Reasons To Forgive
Top Six Reasons To Forgive
No one can change the past, but you do have the power to upgrade how you
feel about it, and that makes all the difference. You can take your
power back from all those painful memories, and make peace with your
past. Forgiveness heals the guilt and the hurt, and does this quietly,
privately, and thoroughly. Forgiveness does not mean that you let anyone
off the hook, it means that your present happiness is more important
than your past suffering. Forgiveness does not mean that you condone the
hurtful things done to you, it means that you reclaim your right to run
your own life.
Right now those hurtful things are running your life, and how is that
working for you? The people who hurt you may have ruined your
yesterdays, but only you are in charge of your tomorrows. And if you
feel guilt over people that you have hurt, forgiving yourself will heal
you and allow you to move forward with a happier attitude and a
healthier body.
So here are the top six reasons to forgive.
1 You will feel better and laugh more. Resolving all that negative spin
from your past allows you to enjoy yourself and have the daily fun you
really want. Your buttons will stop being pushed because they will be
gone. You see, guilt and hatred resolve nothing, they just sustain the
negativity that continues to stop you from reaching your personal and
professional goals. Forgiveness, on the other hand, undoes the
stickiness that binds you to all those unhappy yesterdays, and this
returns your personal energy to your present life, and you get more
done. Forgiveness is excellent for improved prosperity and success in
every area of your life.
2 You will be healthier. Carrying negativity appears to cause many
physical ills. The body and the mind are the same thing. Just as ice and
steam are still basically water, your body and your mind are simply
different manifestations of your spirit. Relieve your mental stress and
your body will be happier too. Nothing relieves mental stress like
forgiveness. Forgiveness heals.
3 People will like you better.You will be a more enjoyable person to be
around, and will attract more positive people to your life. Humans are
imperfect, and we all make mistakes. One trait of positive people is
that they take life less personally, and readily forgive mistakes as
they happen. On the other hand, perfectionists are often miserable
people, having standards way too high to be reached. Would you settle
for mere excellence? Then do so, and your relations with others will
improve immediately. Perfectionists are all about judgement, whereas
happy people are all about smiles. Sure, there are fights worth
fighting, but if you live is one long series of fights with other
people, the exhaustion must be terrible for you. Forgive and life
improves. It really is that simple.
4 You will stop the constant suffering. Forgive others exactly because
what happened was not your fault. Ask yourself: What was done to me? How
long ago did all that happen? Are those hurtful people still in my life?
Why should I keep suffering for what someone else did? Since it was not
my fault, why am I still paying for it? Of course you have suffered way
too long and way too much already. And those hurtful people have
probably been gone from your life for years. So let the suffering stop
right now. Forgive them.
And it may be that complete, one hundred percent may not be possible for
you at first, and that is fine. Not to worry, because you can start with
a small percentage of forgiveness and work up. How about forgiving them
ten percent? Twenty? Eighty? Even five percent forgiveness is an
excellent step in the right direction. The more you forgive, the better
you will feel.
5 You have punished yourself long enough. Self forgiveness stops the
overwhelming feelings of guilt that obstruct your happiness. Ask
yourself: What was my crime? How long ago did that happen? Am I still
doing stuff like that? If I had been imprisoned for it, would I be out
by now? You have likely already punished yourself way too much, and it
is time to grant yourself a full pardon. Forgive does not mean forget,
it means accepting responsibility, and moving on with your life in
positive ways, having learned your lessons. You can stop spinning over
how you used to be and get on with creating the good life you have
always deserved. So forgive yourself. Today. Right now. Since you cannot
undo what you did, you must do the next best thing, and that is to face
what happened, and then let the blame go.
6 No one needs to know. Forgiveness happens privately, between you and
God, or between you and your higher self. You do not need to call anyone
up or write any letters. Forgiveness is an internal healing, and it is
all about you. Other people will have to forgive themselves for what
they did. Your concern is you. You evolve all the time anyway, so why
not evolve for the better?
And here is how do forgiveness. As you remember past events and the
people involved, feel forgiveness flow from your heart out to them and
back to yourself. Visualize what happened and who was there, forgiving
everything and everyone involved. If you are not particularly visual,
that is not a problem at all, since you can just sense and feel what
happened, and process from there. Sensing and feeling work just as well
as visualizing.
If anger arises when you think of some people, then in the privacy of
your own thoughts, confront them. Tell them how you feel about what
happened, and spend all of that anger you feel toward them. Tell them
all the things you would never say to their face, but need to express.
And then forgive them.
You may need to feel forgiven by your higher power. Please know that God
forgives you the first time you ask, so only ask once. If you have to
ask twice, then it is you who is not forgiving you. Forgive yourself
fully knowing that God never needs to be asked twice.
