50SHADESofGREG aka fuBARTNDER's blog: "Juicy Subjects O:) _____________ (Warped Halo)"

"Novemburrrr" 5, 2006 (check out this vid) "G & R's - November Rain" It's my song of the month!

"Divorce" - (it's not what it use to be) -

"CherryTAP" (I hope this finds you all happy and healthy) Although I don't do a lot of research for my blogs, if I state something as fact - I have read it and have a resource to confirm any 'fact' based references. Any stats I mention are pulled from here today: Divorce Statistics Collection (some interesting facts and stats if you like that sort of thing) I don't like to state a lot of fact though, I just like to voice my opinion most of the time ... I happen to find the above link while browsing an interesting story about divorce. I'm a product of divorced parents, and I've had personal divorce(s) in my life. *whispers 'three' under his breath* I was amazed at all the different stats that been accumulated threw out the years concerning divorce ... Seriously - It's like baseball cards! There's a breakdown on everything from: Age Race Religion Date Time Place (and the list goes on and on)

In my youth there was a totally different perception to divorce, You JUST didn't DO IT! (talk about ripping your world apart) A divorce wasn't a common occurrence in small town USA. It was looked at as taboo subject, shunned by EVERY religion. It was look at as a failure of the worst kind ... People thought divorce happened to Movie stars and sinners, So if you weren't a movie star ... I was the first kid in my class to have their parents split. I recall how people looked at me, how they would whisper behind our backs. They acted as if (the kids in my family) As a children that were like the 'poor' and 'abused.' (well, they got the 'poor' part right) ... the abused(?) I wouldn't figure that part out until years later ... Um as a 'shrink' would later insist it's why I am the way I am ... Oops 'TMI' (lol, that a whole another can of worms & issues) I'll save that for a three part series of short storys (just torn apart a household) It's no big deal now-a-day ... Life goes on, not only is it not uncommon to see divorces in a family -- there might be multiple divorces. The family dynamic as I once knew doesn't exist, divorce is common ... Let alone step-siblings/parents and not just a 'half siblings' but multiples of those. My own LEXY has a half brother and sister that is mine and my first wife's. Then a half brother that is from her mothers first marriage ... AND a half brother that her mother had with husband number three. (Confusing eh?) I'm amazed how desensitize the world has become to divorce, It was announce once that: "The divorce rate is not as high as perviously announced ... It is only at 43% instead of the 50% that was found piror." Like 43% is a good thing??? With that I'll segue to: MY

Make Up My Mind (click above to answer @ my current MUMM)

Has the public come to expect marriages to fail?

Yes (it is a fail ritual, past its use) -or- No (divorce rates will start going down in time)

Maybe it's just me, but I always liked a saying I once heard: at a bar or on TV or something ... "If there was any real Justice - it wouldn't be so cheap to get a marriage license and so expensive for a divorce decree -- because if it were reversed the other way around - There wouldn't be as many divorces in the courts. sorry I had to make that stupid joke

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"Novemburrrr" 3, 2006 (check out this vid) "G & R's - November Rain" It's my song of the month!

"Mental health" - (and you thought I was NUTS before) -

from a "madman" to all of: "CherryTAP" readers of a madman's blog. (I wonder if that "TAP" thing has anything to do with my sanity?) *scratches head* Mental health is a disorder that many people are in the dark about. Although in resent years, it's come from the shadows. Thanks to a better studies of the debilitating condition from the medical world and more media exposure ... and yes, even a few drug companies advertising campaign. The general publics views and understandings have made easily misunderstood and often overlooked disease at least acknowledgeable in terms. (or in terminology) A view that's still undesirable and shunned by many, but has come a long way in a short amount of years. There is a stigma that scares many people, if they hear: "That so-and-so is mentally ill" they get an uneasy feeling about the person. But, they wouldn't feel as strange if the same person was referred to as "Depressed." So, the public understands "Depression" much better than the stigma attached to "mentally ill." Depression - is easily understood, being it's the number one most diagnosed mental disorder. Seven of ten adults have suffered that form of the illness. Over 90% of adults have known someone that has had depression. So, it's a common form of mental illness. It's also overlooked, misdiagnosed, and wrongly prescribed medication. It also kills more people a year than 10 years of homicide combined. The wrong meds can cause suicidal tendency, to misdiagnose one mental illness as depression happen more often than you think. This is often the reason that wrong drugs are prescribed. Which in fact can lead to psychotic episodes ... which IS why the disease has such a bad stigma attached to it. There are doctors out in this world that still believe in the theories from the years while in medical school, In fact they do update medical procedures/practices often. With mental health, it's not in their field, so advances and new studies unknown to the local MD. Sadly, in many cases the doctor will prescribe drugs for depression and tell the patient to follow up with a visit to a mental health care doctor. The person may elect not to go, due to financial, insurance or from the stigma that's attached to going to see "a shrink". (sad) With the terms of mental health getting out there for the masses. People are not as scared of mental disorders. With a couple of well done commercials ... there is a better understanding of "chemical imbalance" and other terms that have made their way into mainstream topics. The movies and television have contributed to a better understanding and acceptance as well. You probably know someone who is mentally ill, but not even know it. That's also one of the bad things about this sickness. Is it's not noticed by the human eye from a distance, so you often would find out when someone is within space and beyond your comfort level. Physical disorders fall into a 'sight' category, (you can SEE it) You know while approaching someone with a physical disorder, that in fact they have one. Your comfort level and acceptance (or nonacceptance for the uncomfortable) is ready to react or act in accordance. A sad fact - but you are not surprised because you can SEE that there is a disorder. With mental disorders, it's more surprising, because the obvious abnormality isn't visible to the naked eye. The eyes ease us into an uncomfortable situation, by preparing the mind on how to act (not to act) or react. So without a fair warning from our eyes, we might have people within our "space" of comfort before it is obvious that this person has mental issues. That scares you (or -people- I should say) It is because of that 'stigma' that's years of misinformation about mental disorders, like let's say: paranoid schizophrenia - You may immediately think multiple personalties ... and its not that at all. The layman's definition: schizophrenia characterized especially by persecutory or grandiose delusions or hallucinations or by delusional jealousy. So - if you think of a person that has schizophrenia it might have you a bit edgy and tense. With the illness being more and more exposed, the masses are coming to terms with acceptance ... Although be it at "ARMS LENGTH" It is at least known by some that it's a little more common and defiantly not AS dangerous as thought. (more nuts) I'm happy to see the public having a better understanding, and for once I can say TV, Movies and even Commercials have had a positive effect. I often use my ailments as a way to describe a feeling or mood. (my manic side, I'm all OCD about it ... etc) I would never be able to do that if you didn't understand the terminology. Now if I could only find an entertaining way to explain the disorder ... With that I'll segue to: MY

Make Up My Mind (click above to answer @ my current MUMM)

Is mental health portrayed badly in the media

Yes (it could be addressed without all the stigma) -or- No (not as bad, it's more inform today than years ago)

Just what do you think of when you hear the word "NUTS"

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(well, use this one last time, before ppl forget the old name) "Novemburrrr" 2, 2006

"Over Sexed?" - (I know this will probably piss some people off) -

Welcome, I'm just trying to use some of my LC stuff while we still remember this sites old name before: "CherryTAP" came about .... (I'll NEVER get use to that ... that "TAP" thing) *ick* (check out this vid) "G & R'sNovember Rain" It's my song of the month!

I'm a healthy male with an above average heterosexual appetite. It might surprise a few people that I'm tried of all these sex and sexual related questions placed on the MUMM's. Sometimes, I feel like I AM logging on to a porn site. So, I guess it makes it pointless to change the NAME, when the content remains the same. (?)

It would be nice to see just one day that 90% of the MUMM questions weren't made up of sexual nature. Is that the only thing that people are interested in? As stated ... I like everything about sex ... -but - Come on ... do we not have an original questions to post? Is the only thing on this communities mind, based on sex? I feel like I'm in High school sometimes. If it's not overly sexually charged males panting, it's the attention whores that encourage it. As far as MUMMS It's almost the only thing ever read and voted on. How about fun questions and/or serious questions being posted, voted and commented on here every once and a while. Please, while I'm at it could you read the posted and top mumm's before posting the same question over and over? I ask on a piror mumm: if people vote on something that's already been voted on ... 95% said they don't -- so, why take up space with the same question? I've got more, but I'll stop to make my plug for: MY

Make Up My Mind (click above to answer @ my current MUMM)

Would anyone else like to see less sexual MUMM questions

Yes (and could you stop reposting the same content over & over) -or- No (more of the same, and repeat the same question over and over)

PLEASE Go vote on this ... I need it to get to the tops in mumms, and hopefully people get the message! (well, if you agree at lease) I'm not a prude. Hell just like most heterosexual men, I LOVE to read a good dirty story (I even write them ...see link @ bottom ) I LOVE to look at the female nude form ... just like most. What this silly rant is about is - The STUPID overly asked mumm questions. It irks me to no end when I see 3 of the same questions posted. But those horny men will go to every one of them and answer it ... why? Do they actually think that the female wants to really know the answer? most don't ... The girl posting it did so just to draw attention to __________ (place female body part here) eh, this is a worthless rant ... I need to get off this subject! Please, leave me a suggestion on a better topic for discussion. I don't want to keep beating this dead horse issue.

Oh, speaking of DEAD and issues ... I've laced a couple of my old "Lost Cherry" 'DEAD' tags (that I made) threw-out this BLOG post ...

yeah, I got issues ... *shakes head*

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"Novemburrrr" 1, 2006

"Damn!" - (time to start shopping) -

my casual readers and the curious passer-bye "CherryTAP" FRIENDS (still yet to get use to that ... that "TAP" thing) I survived taking the lilHippY out on beggars night. It rained a "Cold November Rain" most of the hour and half we were out on are quest for treats.

The sugar rush for my Lexy (and mine too) has come and gone, and so has another holiday. As we walked house to house last night, seeing the lights and yard decor and that little nip in the air: Yeap, as alluded to above ... The H O L I D A Y season, is before US! I know, it seems to creep up on us earlier each year ... catching us by surprise. Surprise? wait ... How can it catch us by surprise? That's my point, it's not a surprise. In fact, I only write this because last night after trick or treating with my little one, we are watching a Halloween Movie. During a commercial break, I'm about half listening to the ads when it occurs to me that they are indeed: Advertising Christmas Movies, Shopping Sales & of course credit cards to pay for it all! Correct me if I'm wrong ... Yesterday was STILL October wasn't it? I know, there are those of you who love shopping. Shopping for the HOLIDAZE is a big event that YOU may even enjoy ... I'm just wondering if there may be anybody else who feels like I do with the smashing in our faces so early each year. That it adds to the pressure of the whole holiday season?

MY

Make Up My Mind (click above to answer @ my current MUMM)

Does earily "holiday" ads make the time before the holidays more stressful?

Yes (I don't like to feel pressure to start shopping so early) -or- No (I like to shop, it motivates me to plan ahead.)

Back in my youth, I remember when my mother (who was a Jehovah's Witness) would start complaining about seeing "Christmas decor" (in those days their wasn't anything PC as calling it "Winter Festable/Season") a day after Thanksgiving. I recall her muttering: "Gee, it's day after Thanksgiving and peoples putting up trees when I've not even made my first left over turkey sandwich"! *shakes head* Gotta love moms view, and I guess foresight ... when she once added: "What's next, your going to see Christmas decorations in the store right after Halloween?" I remember, chuckling a long with the rest of the family while shaking my head in disbelieve. How could people start thinking about a holiday so soon? Good Foresight mom! ... Well, I hope you enjoyed my thoughts, I know I enjoyed sharing them. I should let you go now ... You probably have some __________ (fill in your winter festival celebrated here) shopping to do!

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"Happy Halloween" - (can someone hit track 8 of "Bloody Kisses" cause it's "Type O Negitive" time of YEAR!)

Just wishing all the folks here @ "CherryTAP" (yes, it's still hard to write) Happy Halloween! It's a fun little tradition for a majority of the masses. A time for some festive yard displays & perhaps "begging" for the youths -or- costume parties for the young at heart.

It has a whole lot more meaning to some though. Rich and old as any Christian based holiday that many North Americans celebrate. Many of said holidays do have a mix of other religions, practices and beliefs ... Halloween, is of the Pagan & Neopagans. A rich and quite old holiday based around Samhain. In North America we have intermingled a few other cultural practices to what we observe as the Halloween/Trick or Treat season. But, there is more to it ... That's is what my BLOG is all about, brief thoughts (short summery) expressed by a neopagen writer. "What Halloween means to Neopagans:"

MY

Make Up My Mind

(click above to answer @ my current MUMM) What's your favorite choice of costume style

Scary: (Monsters, real looking zombies and traditional spooky creatures) -or- Goofy: (Super Hero's,sexy stuff, funny mask or themes)

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October 30, 2006

"The brain is a wonderful organ: it starts working the moment you get up in the morning and does not stop until you get into the office" - Robert Frost

With all the changes going on here at: "CherryTAP" (god it's hard to use that name) Immediately I wanted to use the old name/logo:

That's just it ... what my BLOG is all about: "CHANGE"

The human mind doesn't process change quickly, but it is set up to adapt. Behavior scientist have been studying this for years. Often different studies come up with different theories. The one constant and common denominator would be the subject: Humans resist change! The left brain and the right brain have different processes as illustrated by MY graph below: A simple exercise would be just insert the word "CHANGE" in-between the categories of each brain side. See the how different either side of the word is? That's exactly how the brain reacts to change. The mind ... although specialist have theorize each sides thought process is hugely different, it has equaled out while processing any information. Each side is at harmony with the other you could say. Well, insert change and that disrupts the harmony (all hell breaks loose) We seen how people acted with the said change of the logo yesterday. That was a natural reaction. I think it could have easily been avoided with some advance warning. I'll give you an example of having WARNING of change -verses- no warning: You go to work like everyday, you get off work ... say you grab a couple of drinks with coworkers after. You get tipsy and then head home. Say you did that as a routine, 3-5 times a week. You get home and walk into a dark living room ... walking the same path as you do when you get to the house after the routine. smack! ... you crack your shin on something that's in the path that you are used to following. This sets all your senses in "over drive" ... a well traveled path that you are accustom to going has and unexpected block! First reaction after the shot of pain? "Anger" Then when you turn on the lights ... you see someone moved the furniture around! It might even look better, even could be all brand new stuff you really, really wanted ... but: "Damn it! Who moved the effin furniture around"? (That is as a 'common occurrence' as anything I could think of ...) Using the above ... Just think of the same sequence of event mentioned: After clicking on the lights, yelling from pain and initial surprise ... Insert - that someone reminding you before you headed off to work that day: "We are getting that new '__________' (insert the thing you've been dreaming of here) today. So I'm going to move stuff to make some room for it" Now, you just cracked your shin, you yell, get pissed ... Then you realize that you were warned Yes, there is a reaction of the CHANGE and it will take some getting used to. (but that's how the brain is set up)

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I'll give a positive from this, it's one of growth. (and no ...not this sites growth) Change is actually good for the brain ... so with the right and left brain deciphering this change. It is like a little workout for your brain. It was once thought, that the human brain never produced more brain cells after birth ... You probably heard: "Don't waste your brain cells - they're all your ever have" In your lifetime from some old codger at one time or another. To clarify why change is good for the brain, using that old belief ... is how to explain: While testing in the old days on new brain cell production, they NEVER changed the proceeder or the surroundings of the test subjects while doing the studies. meaning: Same surrounding equaled no change in brain cell development ... Later in time, they did the same proceeders that all those studies when done, but with each new time line, they changed the surroundings. meaning: The brain produced new cells because it had to adjust to the "changes".

That's a little deep for the blog -- but, if you like interesting stories/studies like that (*ahem* willing to do something different) you can read more here: "How the brain works"

I had a delayed reaction to the logo change. I'm a "left brain" guy and can except change because I look at the reasoning. Then my "right brain" tussled with the left ... with a sudden thought of my "ARTISTIC" works that I spent many loving hours producing ... all now useless! I'm going to stand with my reaction to that ... Oh yeah. I'm PISSED! I'll get over it though.

Everyone will, but the thing about our thought process the left brain needs to ease the new item to the rights wave ... and hopefully both sides learn a lesson from this: "A little fare warning, might make cracking your shin more acceptable"

I guess I should Sequa into: MY

Make Up My Mind Would the name change been easier if you would of known about it ahead of time? We should have been told It wouldn't have mattered

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With the clock falling back and the night falls earlier, I think it's going to go from: * TO * "Novemburrrr"

in a blink of an eye. It's already snowed here and once it does that: My feet stay cold until the spring thaw! *ponders* Oh man, I'd met a nice lady on here over the summer. She flirted around with me for a while, and the commitment wary fool I am ran. She lived down in the Florida Key's on a little Island. Well, after a couple chats she offered to put me up during the winter months. (now, you see WHY I ran) I'm kinda standoffish ... (correction, VERY wary) of more than casual flirting on line. I don't mind flirting, a *wink-wink* is fun. Fantasy on line is fine -- if that's your thing ... it's not mine but, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I'd even go as far as to say you probably can find "LOVE" on line.

I truly don't believe that anyone should meet up or talk LTR within a few chat's ... Yikes! I'm not sure where this gal that wanted to play hostess was going with a truly overgenerous offer. -BUT- I KNEW immediately where I wasn't going to be going. If we had been talking for months, little flirts here and there ... I MIGHT have thought about a weekend get away! Keyword "THOUGHT" about it ... I would have had to have some phone conversations ... Maybe a few friends swing down to check it out ... (and know exactly were I would be if I happened to come up missing) *snorts* eh, I doubt I'd ever do it. *teeders* I'm talking I'd HAVE to had got to know her more than I can imagine any Internet experience could ever offer. nor phone for that matter I know were I stand here, how about you -- the general masses of "CherryTAP" Maybe you can Make Up My Mind on the publics view of "Face to Face" hook ups. My MUMM question: Do you think people should ever meet with only on line knowledge of each other

I think it's fine - (yes, with the right conditions, etc ...) I don't think so - (there's no chance, wouldnt dream of it)

You can vote on my MUMM right here!

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It's a "BIG" night for me tonight! Traditionally it's one of the best nights of the YEAR to go out in my home town. The bars and clubs filled to the rim with adults that are incognito. The masses will unite as a group, all the walls of social and economics barriers are down. Something about adults getting dressed up in costumes, they tend to lose all inhibitions and are unbridled when they hide behind a mask. There is a mystique about the others behind the mask too ... It's a diverse group of people that share the same intentions for the night ... To be 'mysterious'! Oh, that ...

Those facts have always made it fun to go out on the town for the costume parties. My nights going to be big for other reasons too: I'm going to go the whole night without drinking! I've only drank twice since late May. The last time I went out, I drank ... I had a good time -but- I also got sicker than hell. (I guess when the body is used to a lot of alcohol and then having none for so long ... it will do that?) I haven't thought that I should Stop all together, but I also know I'm not going to depend on drinking to "Have a good time" either. I thought what better way of proving that fact -- than going out on a night such as tonight and not drink. I mean it should be easy to have fun on this night than any other. I was thinking about it ... I was looking forward to an all out "slam-hammered-effin-drunk-fest"! Then I started thinking how bad I felt after the last time ... *shudders* (ick) I really just don't WANT it. So, to prove a point to myself: "I'm flying without a net, tonight" I had a conversation with a friend on here today ... and my dating younger girls came up. I also decided that tonight I'm not even going to talk to any female that is more than 10 years younger than me. (that makes them 33 and up) I just thought as I typed that though ... How am I going to know tonight? Umm, costumes and all ... Perhaps I'll just stick to the NOT drinking for sure, and if it comes down to it ... Not SLEEPING with anyone under 33! (let's face it, I'd most likely will have a chance to find out their age if it goes that far) ... I hope? *shakes head slowly* I hope this finds all my "Lost Cherry" friends well and happy. I thank you for taking the time to read it. I wish you the best this night & if your planning to don a mask, may it be the winning mask! My MUMM question today? Maybe you can help Make Up My Mind ...

Can people go to BARS on nights like tonight without drinking ... and STILL have FUN (answer by clicking above link)

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Here at

"LOST CHERRY"

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Do You Know Here at "LOST CHERRY" (click above to see my controversial XxX MUMM) I see the "STASH" is starting to take off. It has been around for some time now, but often over looked. I mean people would actually HAVE to read peoples profile for them to be noticed. Let's face it, profiles don't get the attention that they should. Ever since it was made that you could skip going to profile and straight to the photographs ... they get even less attention. I already address profiles in another BLOG in great detail. Just click the link above if you want to read said BLOG about profile substance. I believe STASH has finally come around because it was made with two important elements to be successful here @ "Lost Cherry".

PEOPLE CONTEST and being as BAD as we are ... let's have some: HOT GOSSIP! Drop me a line on what you feel is !!!

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One thing I noticed here too, is things that have cooled down ... Died even: WHAT'S -effin- " N O T "

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Funny, you look at the subject line and assume that I don't have any thing to write about. Actually it's quite the opposite - I've got so much I want to express, there is times my thoughts cant be written down. (hence the block) That probably sounds a little A.D.D. which I may have at times ... non-the-less this BLOG will have random thoughts spewed threw out it. (damn 'train of thought' a n y w a y) Yesterday I didn't even post a BLOG due to the fact - my subject matter was already addressed in a Make Up My Mind. (MuMM) I had the subject and the first couple of paragraphs along with my MuMM question visualized in my thoughts. I was ready to start typing them out when I swung by the "TOP MUMM'S" list. Lo and behold if it wasn't already address ... bummer! I WAS going to go into some definitely debatable issues about people dating others who are much younger/older than themselves. (I know this subject well, first hand you could say) When I seen my subject already addressed, I thought: "Oh well, I'll do it anyway" ... BLOG and also write a MuMM question with the same subject. Then I second guessed myself (as I do often, but not often enough). Thinking to myself - I don't want to OverKill a subject ... OverKill hmmm ... That would make and interesting subject matter. I mean how many times do you want to vote on a MuMM about sex? "Top or bottom"? "Doggy or Reverse Cowgirl"? Threesome this, Threesome that ... etc, etc ... Over and over again, geeze ... Once is enough on any subject. That doesn't end with mumm questions. There is OverKill on many things here in "Lost Cherry" land If a couple people get "IT", it seems everyone gets "IT" ... Take the morphs pictures: Nothing wrong with them, it's a neat little way of grabbing attention to your primary pic as it goes a crossed the top of the screen. With that said, WHO'S gonna notice it if EVERY picture up there is a morph? OverKill Contest ... OverKill Bitching ... OverKill Whining ... OverKill Poking fun at ______ (fill in the blank) ... OverKill Man the list could go on and on ... I guess I could just turn this subject into my Make Up My Mind (click the button to go related mumm to answer)

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Yesterday I DID decide to write about my old screen name: I started with How I got the name ... WHY I changed it ... Which got me ranting about being a "HIPPY" ... Which turned a little south with my political thoughts ... Then that segued back to changing names and how it confuses people ... Which filtered into my thoughts on how HARD it is to search for people on "Lost Cherry" when they use those freaky "*~symbols~*" in their screen names ... (see, I told you I had many - TOO many thoughts) I had just about finished a pretty good story when my computer just freakin' went to my windows screen ... Losing EVERYTHING *clinching teeth as making note* So, I just click off for a while ... before I pick the effin thing up and threw it out the window, busting it up into the billion tiny pieces I was wishing I could spit on! *whew* Okay, I think I'm better now ... I THINK! I ended up just pissing around with my "XxX" stash story. I placed it under "dunno" catagory a while back, I checked on it and it HAD 18 views making it #2! (woot) (read it here) I'm one that feels if people are going to look at my stuff, I better "tidy it up" a bit. Well, spent some time adding some GIF images and HTML to add a little visual to it ... Heck while doing so, I got a couple "thumbs" and moved to FIRST! (woot again) Well, after I finish making it all pretty ... basters took it off the LIST!!! wtf? It's maked as an Adult subject, it's NOT in public view ... (no different than having ADULT album - right?) Well - they never seem to like ME (he says in his paranoid state of mind) having anything in the TOP anything ... *shrugs* Well, you were warned I had a lot to write here, I hope you were entertained for a bit ... *nudges you to wake ya* Thanks for reading my BLOG please stop by my MUMM and vote. As always your comments and thoughts are welcome here AND there!(both) Tune in again next time: I hope this finds you healthy and happy on your side of the screen, my sides always the same! Later: -G-