Indifference!
I’ve found that a whole lot of people on here treat others in that way and seem to think that is just the normal way to treat people and they don’t seem to understand why people like me don’t want those kinds of friends in my life, so I thought I’d just explain my self about this in this blog!
What do I mean by people treating other’s with indifference? Well it’s things like when you are chatting with someone on here, and they just stop talking, don’t say bye, or gotta run or anything like that. That’s just rude, it leaves the other person wondering what to hell happened… do you just not want to talk to them, did something happen that you can’t talk, they sit and wonder if the conversation is over, if if that person is mad at them, etc…. in other words, they have no idea what or why that person just stooped talking and took off…. And people like me who actually care about other people, that bothers us and worries us, and it truly is very self centered and rude for you to treat people like that… and most importantly it shows that person you are completely indifferent to them, can’t even give them the simple common courtesy and respect to say good bye…. It shows them that you are completely self centered and wrapped up in ONLY what is on your mind or in your world and you don’t even give their feelings a second thought! I’ve had many people who will also Shout me and I’ll respond right away, yet they never do reply…. Now why in the hell are you going to shout someone and then not even give them a few seconds to respond? The only reason I see why you’d do that is if you are indiffe3rent to whether or not the person you shouted is gong to answer or not and you really had no interest in talking to begin with. So you know what? If you have that indifference and aren’t really interested in chatting to begin with, then don’t be sending them a fucking shout to begin with!!! It is once again just very rude and shows them your disinterest and how self centered you are! This same thing happens to me when IM’ing on yahoo messenger a lot too. Come on folks if you are chatting on line that doesn’t mean it’s OK to just walk out in the middle of a conversation, no more than it would be OK to be talking to someone face to face, and just suddenly turning around and walking off without a word!
What other ways do I see that people show they are indifferent to you on here? Another biggie are the many folks I have talked to on here that at times are just all over me wanting to talk, telling me how they want to be friends, and for a time even kind of acting like that really do…. Yet then they will just all of a sudden, stop talking to you when they are on line…. You see them on, yet they just don’t say hi or interact with you hardly at all, even though they had been a lot at one point, and if you question them about it, they will still swear they really want to be friends and it’s just that they are busy a lot and make all kinds of excuses why they are no longer “acting” like a friend any more…. But kind of ironic and funny how they are living the same life they were back at the time they were actually spending some time interacting with you, isn’t it? Yet once they start treating you with indifference, all of a sudden, that same life is just too busy to pay any attention to you! And the most ironic part about those kind of people is that they get so damn mad at me when I tell them that I just don’t want the type of friends in my life that show me no interest, and treat me with complete indifference, and show me that they can’t or don’t want to waste any of their time or attention on me… come on folks, we all get to choose our friends, and why in the hell would I want to choose friends that clearly show me I have no meaning or importance in their lives what so ever and they are completely indifferent to me or what’s going on in my life? Don’t get all offended at me and make me out to be the bad guy if I choose to not be treated that way and don’t want that kind of friendship, it was YOU after all, that chose how you were going to treat me and decided if I held any importance to you, and whether or not you were going to be indifferent towards me or show some concern and share some friendship…. All of your actions and the way you CHOSE to treat me, was your decision, just as it’s my decision to decide what kind of friends I want to waste my time with…. And I’m telling you point blank, I’m going to choose to have friends in my life who also choose to waste some of their life with me as well and can show me they are not completely indifferent to me and can show me some common courtesy and respect… that’s the way I treat my friends, and yes, I expect to be treated the same in return…. So if you don’t treat me this way, I’m simply going to move on and spend my time with those who do.;… it’s as simple as that…. Not bashing you or mad, or anything like that, just simply making a choice in who I spend my time and friendship with….. so don’t get mad at me or blow up on me if you’re treating me that way and I tell you I’m moving on, OK? I just truly treat my friends like they matter to me and am not outright rude and indifferent to them, and simply want friends who treat me in the same way, plain and simple!
So, I hope knowing my outlook and how I think friends should treat each other and explaining to you how I simply don’t want friendships in which people treat me with total indifference or clearly show me they have no time in their life for me, or they are just plain rude and can’t show me even simple common courtesy, will let you know where I’m coming from and maybe so many won’t get completely pissed off at me when I do move on from those kinds of friendships!
And please folks, if you really don’t have a true interest in being friends, at least be man or woman enough to just admit that, rather than filling people full of bullshit and telling them how you really do want to be friends but just don’t have ANY time to act or show any attention towards the person you are bullshitting and “saying” you want to be friends. It’s really damn simple, no one’s life is ever so busy they can’t make a little time for the people and things that are important to them…. everyone doses make time for what they like to do and what is important to them period! So at least be truthful with folks if you are just making the choice to be indifferent to them and are choosing not to make any time for them, rather than laying on the bullshit about how you really do want to be a friend…. OK?
I have many casual friends on here where it’s simply a hit and miss thing and we just flirt a little and say hey now and then, and that is fine, I’m cool with that because not everyone is going to form true friendships, but I just get annoyed with the folks who “act like” or “say” they want a real friendship, yet clearly show me by their actions and indifference that is just not true and is total bullshit! So lets not bullshit each other and just be real, shall we? lol
And to close…. Remember to CHOOSE to waste your time with those people who are also CHOOSING to waste their time with you too!
