Slingerland's blog: "Fubar stuff"

About 9 months ago a friend told me about a website called Fubar. I had no idea what he was talking about but thought I would check it out. And Ill be honest, he said there where lots of "hot" women on here. Which is true! 

I set up my account and had NO idea what I was doing or supposed to do. I was very shy about talking to people on here that I didnt know. But I soon realized that was one of the purposes of the site. Almost right away I had people that wanted to be my friend (some still are!). And they where all very helpful. Ms. Flintstone was my first REAL friend here. She helped me through a lot of the stuff at the start. There were others too, but she is still my friend through all of this and she is one of my best buds here.

So, like everyone, I flew through the first bunch of levels rather quick. People told me I was going to get addicted to the game. I couldnt see that happening. Well, they where right! I quickly realized that to play this game you needed to become a VIP, which of course was not free! I dont regret buying my VIP at all. It gave me more options for the game. I was a little leary at first, but very quickly became glad I did. 

I eventually arrived at a level where I needed help from my friends. I had no idea about the friends list and had added just about anyone that chatted with me. I think we all did or will do this. NOW is when you start figuring out who your REAL friends are! They are the ones that step up and help you get through the levels. They are the ones that promote you on their site when you need rates and likes. They are the ones that go to their friends and ask them to help you. The first time it happened to me I was amazed! I couldnt believe people I hardly knew would do so much to help me. That was it! I was hooked! 

Now obviously Im a guy. And lll be honest, in the beginning I was collecting pretty women on my page. As time went by, you found out that you actually NEED to collect people. But you only need to be close with a select few and I found that I was building real friendships with some of the people I had added. I think in my whole time on here I have never had longer than a 5 minute conversation with a guy. And very rarely has a guy stepped up to help me. Im not bitching, just stating.

There are all kinds of personalities on here. There are some very sweet people (who are my family btw), and there are creeps, pervs, scammers, point whores, liars, porn stars, strippers, cam girls, general a holes, and people that need to be on some sort of mental medication. There are rich, poor and middle class here. Singles, married, divorced, married but tell you they arent...etc, etc. One thing I have noticed. Eventually, if you are lying, you will be found out here! So I decided I would not lie about who I was or what I do. 

As time wore on I figured out who my friends where and....well, who wasnt. My current family has been with me for quite a while now and I love them all! We continually help each other through the game and we chat just about every day. 

All in all, I think this is an awesome game! I met some really great people here and had a lot of fun! 

So, Ive decided to give some advice on how to get through the game from lessons that I have learned. You can follow them if you like or totally ingnore them. That is your choice. But it worked for me!

First, BE NICE! Show respect. Dont say anything on here you would not say to someone in person. Have respect for others. Everybody has feelings. Asking them to cam, or see them naked or for their YIM or just genearlly talking to them like you are some horned up 11th grade teenager does not impress! Most men on here do that. Be different! If you want to see naked women, there are free sites on the net that will show you way more than what you will see here most of the time!

Be honest! Dont lie about who you are and what you do. You WILL be found out eventually! Then any friends you HAD....well, you know. Post real pictures of you and dont put a bunch of BS in your profile. Also, most women really dont want to see your dick! So think about that as your taking that pic of your schlong to post on here. Would you show that to a woman you have just met in real life? And you wonder why your single? LOL!

Remember, its JUST A GAME! You will make friends here. But its just a game. Click to another web site and this is gone. Turn off your computer and this is gone. Its NOT real life! Dont treat it that way or act that way. The game will continue to go on whether you are here or not.

Be ready to spend money! Guys especially! As a guy you will have to buy a VIP, credits, bling etc. You wont make it through the game unless you do! So be ready! You can have as much fun on here as you can afford! Some women will charge you to see their naked photos. Its up to you if you want to do that. I never have and I can give you some website addresses that you can do the same thing for free.

Ladies? Well, you have a couple choices. You can be a total sweetheart to everyone or you can be a totall whore. Both seem to work. You might have to lay down some cash here and there. But if you are nice and flash your eyes you probably wont have to pay for much else. If you want to be sleazy, expect to be harrassed by pervs. Dont be surprised when you are! But depending how you play it out, you probably wont have to buy anything either. Skin sells ladies. You dont have to be nude! Swimsuit pics, tight dress pics, sexy but tasteful pics all do well. In a way, its like a real bar here. The ladies make out better then the men as far as attention. Need a bling? Ask for it. Need pimped, just ask. Just like real life, something here are not fair. So accept it and do the best you can!

Guys. READ THE WOMANS PROFILE! Yes, we all know that women are a little more wordy and better at expressing their feelings. But there is sometimes some very important info in the profile. Example: no salute, no add. no dick pics, i only friend other women etc. You want to look like an ass right at the start? Dont read the profile! As males we are visually driven. So the woman in the bikini at the beach draws us to the page. But if you read the profile you might find that they arent into men. And guess what? The women talk to each other on here just like real life. So, you act like an ass hole, I bet there are some other women that are going to know about that! Some will put a question in their profile that you have to answer to even add them. It proves you read the profile. And women really like when you can quote something out of their about me info. It shows that you actually might care. Talk to the women like human beings. Try and get to know them. "Hey baby! Send me naked pics!" is not going to get you far here. Call people by their screen names. Once you get to know them ask for their first name. Babe, hun, sweetie etc. are not popular and actually piss off some women on here.

Put up a damn salute! Even though you dont have to, put one up right away! There are too many fakes on here and those of us that have been here for a while have been burned by someone saying they are someone they are not. Get a damn piece of paper and write your Fu name, id number and it must say Fubar on it. Then take a pic. Even if its not accepted by Fu, POST IT! Everyone wants to think they are talking to a real person! A salute proves you are! And you will advance much faster and make more friends.

ASK FOR HELP! You are not going to make it through the game if you dont ask for help! There are so many "tricks" or things that can make your journey easier if you just ask for help. LOTS of people are willing to help you. You just need to ask and be NICE about it! If someone doesnt help you, dont get hung up on it, just move on to another person. There are almost 50,000 people on here at a time. Im sure you can find someone to help you. If you get stuck and nobody can help you go to the support lounge. There are some really great people in there that can get you pointed in the right direction. If you still get no help, send an email to Fu support. Be respectful and nice! They answer A LOT of questions every day. And remember, its their game that you are playing so why it may not always seem "fair" they can totally get rid of you! 

Dont fight with people on here! Really? This is a game! You are on a computer. You will probably never meet anyone from on here. So if someone pisses you off, move on! Dont make an issue. You look like an ass and a couple of screen shots of you fighting with them on thier pageis not going to help you progress. I look at the ass hat folders and the stuff that is said totally AMAZES me! Just move on! Your not proving anything.

As you progress through the game you will eventually start to see who your real friends are. Those will be the ones you want to keep in your family. They are the ones that help you unconditonally and you help them. They run blings like famplifiers and boomerangs. There will be dead wood in your family. Weed them out. Dont go to them and threaten them to do something for you. Just remove them! If they really want to be your friend they will get the hint and ask to be back in. Dont piss your friends off! You are going to need them as you get closer to the end of the game and they are going to need you! 

Try not to get caught up in drama! I say this, but if you play this game hard it is going to happen! Some of the biggest drama causes are, Fu marriage, Fu owned, and where you have someone listed in your family. Try to avoid drama as much as possible, but you are eventually going to get caught up in some. I almost quit and walked away from the game because of my bout with drama. But my REAL friends/family talked me into staying. And Im glad they did! It made our bond that much tighter! 

Help others! That is a big part of what this game is about! You scratch my back, Ill scratch yours. We all were newbies at one time and people helped us. We owe it to do the same! For example, once I figured out who my family was, I always leave a couple open spots. Ill then go to the newbie section and pick one or two newbies that Im fairly sure are real and add them to my family. That way they can buzz up through the first bunch of levels fairly quick if Im running bling. It makes me feel good that Im helping someone and it could turn into a real good friend. Once they change to white, if we havent really got to be friends, I give them a smack on the butt and set them out on their own. Some of the people Ive done it for dont even know. And that is ok with me. Dont expect everyone to pay you back! Most will, some wont. If they dont? Just move on. Dont make an issue! 

You make and play the game the way you want to. If you want your name to be light green or red there is nothing wrong with that. We all have our own reasons and goals. But be warned! To maintain those statuses requires a TON of work EVERY day! You could just decide to make friends and not really worry about color or leveling. And that is ok too. I chose to make friends and level when I could. Its up to you how you play. 

In closing, Id like to say that this game can be a bunch of fun! Ive made friends with some truly amazing people! Check my family list. The top ones are staying there. They have been with me for a LONG time and arent moving! Most of them I know by first name and some I have talked to outside of Fubar. They have been there for me and I have been there for them. It took me MONTHS to establish my family. I added and removed a bunch of people. But here at the end, the ones that are there are staying! 

So thank you Sarah, Jen, Sue, Melissa, Carol, Paulette, Carol, Lori, Lorraine, Sheila, Jo, Alexis, Lady, Infarred, Mia, Kim, Alicia, Bubbles, Sky, Kendra and anybody else in my family that I missed. I love all of you very much! Your the reason I keep coming back! 

If after reading this you have any questions, or need any help. Just ask me! Ill get you pointed in the right direction, or Ill help you get to the next level. It was done for me. Its the least I can do for you!

Have a great Fubar experience! Its what you make it!