Ninja's blog: "Ask the Ninja"

Dear Ninja

So my boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. Everything is wonderful, and we have been talking about getting married. I dont want to rush him, but he is a little bit financially unstable at the moment and Im worried hes not proposing because he doesnt have the money for a ring. I know he wants to ask me the traditional way. So to get to the point, should I buy the rings? Or should I wait and let him do it his way?

-Impatient

Dear Impatient,

Slow ya roll tadpole. If he is waiting until he is stable and able to provide what he thinks you deserve, he's actually doing it the right way, and he's a good guy for it. Should you pay for your engagement ring? No. Should you push him into asking when he's not ready? No. All you will do is cause resentment later because he didn't get to do it the way he wanted to. Stop trying to be in control of everything and let him be the man.

He may have a big extravagant thing planned for how he thinks he can sweep you off your feet. Don't screw that up for him, it will piss him off. And if you actually want to make it to the wedding after the engagement, you will wait to be a bridezilla until he actually asks you to marry him.

So just relax and enjoy his company. One day (hopefully sooner than later for you) he will be ready and ask you to be his wife. Until then, don't push. You might just end up pushing him right out the door.