Ninja's blog: "Ask the Ninja"

Dear Ninja,

I asked a guy to be my boyfriend on the first of the month. He acknowledged the question but still hasn't given me an answer. We talk daily, hang out A LOT, and he's even spent the night a few times. This has continued to go on even after asking him but he still hasn't answered me says he's thinking about it. Is this good or bad? Should I ask him for his answer, or wait for him to come to me with it?

Sincerely,
Confused and Impatient.

Dear Confused and Impatient,

The reason he isn't giving you the answer is because he is still involved with his other options. Sadly to say, you're probably not his priority if he isn't willing to give you a yes or no in 9 days. It's not like you asked him to move in, he's just not ready to quit getting strange. The fact that he's ducking the question any time you bring it up is another big tell that he's got someone else chowing down on his baby batter too.

If it were me, well I am not actually the best example because I avoid relationships like the plague, so another normal thinking person would stop and see he won't commit to you because he may very well already be committed to someone else.

So tell him to make a decision, because you have given plenty of time for him to "think about it." Don't invest any more of yourself in someone who is not willing to do the same.

Good Luck