a lot of you who read the blog about mom a cpl weeks ago will know whats going on already, its still up if you want to read it...... "my mom is a nut"
well tonight dad and I had it out with mom. she obviously didnt read the 3 page letter i wrote to her about getting help. she slipped right back into her old cycle of blaming everyone else for her problems. tonight it was a dig on dad for his diet..... something she constantly does.
I went on to turn off the tv and sit mom down for a heart to heart which at first reasulted in her trying to run away from being talked to and playing the victim yet again.... another thing she does ALOT. I physically blocked her from leaving only to say my piece, I did not lay a hand on her , only stood in the way, dad was right there to witness it. I went on to tell her about what I wrote in the letter, how my sisters ran her over emotionally and she took it out on dad and I for the last 20 years.
I also told her its time for her to stand up for herself with my sisters and back it up when the time came to how they acted. Dad and I are done with mom's verbal abuse, the digs, and mom's constant victimhood, when none exists. We are at our breaking points of tolerance with her and are ready to get her help. Right now she wont admit to doing anything wrong so of course she CANT get help. Dad and I both have seen it coming and we know her initial reaction of getting defensive and making herself a victim wont allow her self to even consider therapy.
If she decides to get a lawyer and get a divorce, even in this economy, so be it. If she does go the divorce route, dont expect to see me on when things are settled as my money will be going elsewhere.
some of you may question why I live with my parents yet so here goes:
1 i was a bad shit when i was young and got myself over 10 thousand dollars in debt, without a penny of it being for school, so no long term payment plans could be arranged, only large interest rates.
2 I moved home at 22 paying rent and my share of the bills since ive moved back in order to pay off my debts, save money for a house and all around do things the right way this time. Ive been paid off since '04.
3 3 years ago i was ready to buy a house, or so I thought...... it didnt occur to me to build up credit rating..... so I bought a newer jeep and am ready to pay that off a year early just to have more established credit.
4 I would have been ready to buy a house this fall until the money i have in the stock market, like evryone else's took a big steaming pile in the crapper.
now I continue to save money and build credit and hope the economy comes back sometime soon.
back to mom. I told her tonight to get therapy, i doubt she listened I got a lot of rolling the eyes from her. I hope she does, but dad and I are ready if she doesnt. Either way something has to be done because we are thru with her verbal abuse. I really wish she would wake up to whats happening around her, I may even have to have her committed, something i dont want to do, but I will have to if things keep going down the road they have been.
I am really hurting right now, every day gets worse and so far there is no end in sight. I know you all have your own problems, but this one is mine and i had to share to have some kind of sense of normalty in myself.
Most people know me well enough to know i dont hide my problems. so who ever wants to talk about it or ask questions feel free to ask in the blog, not in my shoutbox, its easier for me to talk to evryone at once. I would also appreciate some input if anyone else has dealt with something similar, what have you done about it. This is MY therapy, please help me out.
thanks friends
