A little more about what I'm wanting to do with this little adventure.
See I'm in a good and open relationship. Trouble is my 'misses' has a physical condition that affects her, she has varying stages of pain to which unfortunately doctors just can't figure out why. How this affects our relationship, sexually, is that when she feels up to having some fun it is only a couple of times a month, sometimes a little more often. Usually though, she hurts the next day and it isn't really from me being rough or anything. Could be her back, her neck, a thigh muscle. Never the same place. Anyway, when we do enjoy each other, we really do. I usually feel down though knowing that she's hurting afterward.
Several years ago we explored swinging, and I don't mean the form of dance. We both had a lot of fun and became comfortable with the other partner having a purely lustful encounter. We had to stop when I got her pregnant with our youngest, which was a surprise for us. We thought she pretty much couldn't. Her condition worsened during the pregnancy and unfortunately for us both, she hasn't recovered to even how she was physically before the pregnancy.
The adventure: I'll have to see what develops. It isn't a 'lets see how many women in a week I can fuck' sort of thing. There are days when I can satisfy myself, looking at some porn. I find myself wondering if there might be some woman not too far from where I hang my hat that toys with the idea of the occassional morning lustfest. I mean I know you ladies get horny also, just you tend to remain just with your man. Although, if you're here reading this entry, you are at least considering opening a dialog with me.
What am I looking for? The occassional lust driven encounter. As to where this may happen, we can discuss that aspect. If getting a hotel room is envolved, we'll be going dutch.
Who: Like I said in my 'who i'd like to meet' area. Women, here in the DFW area. Between 40 - 60, although some younger I might play with (read further to see what I mean.) I pretty much enjoy all body types. I'm not stuck on one feature of a woman. If you happen to be really heavy, >350 lbs, there is my limit. Not so much as to beauty aspect, but there is usually always some distracting difficulty with really heavy people (men & women.) The big issue is being able to enjoy the sex without attachment. I know lust <> love (does not equal.)
As to what may happen, aside from intercourse. I'm pretty much open to any fantasy role play idea or erotic fun, massaging (given & recieved). I don't really get overly excited playing a dominate or submissive if you would like to do something like that, although I know what to do. I draw the line at anything dealing with body waste. I don't mind riding a woman's asshole, but I will definitely be using a condom. I will use a seperate condom when sexing the usual playground. :) Although, if you're not able to become pregnant and would enjoy the full fun that is okay. I am healthy, no STDs here. So please, if you do have STDs, don't share. I am not 'snipped', my guys still work. So if you decide to play with me, lets not make each other suffer that way. This is one of the prime reasons why I state looking for women 40-60. Usually, women in that age group have had their kids and either are fixed themselves or post menupause (sp, I know).
If you are younger than 40, I will still talk with you about maybe having an encounter. We just have to be very clear about prevention, again I consider that a dutch kind of thing when it comes to who's paying for what. The other reason is the proverbial 'no strings attached.' Most women 20-30 are looking for a relationship, or if they are in a poor relationship can confuse the pure lust with emotional attachment. That I must avoid.
Last note regarding pregnancy. I know there are people out there having issues where they want to have children, but for some reason it's not happening. Also, I realize that the medical industry is soaking people with doing tests and trying artificial insimination. If you're a woman who's thinking of trying a more natural approach (and less costly), just with me instead of your guy, this can be accomodated. No I won't charge. Details of something like this would be worked out.
Still with 'what may happen'. What excites me most in such a sexual encounter is mutual pleasure. What I'm getting at is that I won't go till I orgasm and then hit the door running, I expect for you to enjoy an orgasm also. Actually, I really enjoy pleasuring a woman such that she orgasms first. To accomplish that, I would employ toys, the fantasy role play, and whatever excites you. So expect me to ask you while we're getting to know one another. I've been with women, who will fuck but not kiss. I've been with women, who want all of that. Kissing, erotic massage. If I am doing something that isn't pleasant, just direct me to what does pleasure you. I will adjust. I also respect if you just want to stop. Granted it sometimes isn't the easiest to do, but I will. Although, if something like that arises, I will only give one second chance. Meaning a second encounter, because if we stop, we'll stop totally and call it a day. If a second encounter is stopped, then I feel it would be best that we just part company.
I am not a drug user or depend on alcohol to relax enough to enjoy such an encounter. If you do have such a dependancy, don't share it with me or ask me to partake. (ie. If we get a room and you break out mary-jane or something else, I'll just leave.)
When: The when we would work out. I don't expect anyone to be at my beck-n-call, so please don't expect me to do the same. Also, if a date is arranged and something comes up just send me a note. I won't hold that against anyone, life does that to us. If the same happens to me, I'll let you know. But don't take it personally, because I'm probably very disappointed about missing the date as well.
The other aspect of 'when', dates will occur during the week and mornings, never later than 12:30 pm. Come that time I'm usually growing tired, since I've been at work all night. Weekends are family time for me.
Swingers: If you are also in an open relationship and would like to have a couples date, let me know. We've not been out on that kind of date in a few years, but we'd enjoy it. This sort of thing we'll discuss together. This would be an evening sort of thing, maybe going to a local swingers club like Jet Set.
Now you might wonder, why not just have a swingers profile for us both. Well, as I stated earlier. My wife has this condition where she has physical pain. We never know when she may have a flair up, but when it happens it dampens the mood if we were on a date. IT is kind of hard for other people to understand, because we've have had experience with previous encounters.
Honestly, I don't really expect to get any replies here. Yet, you never know until you give it a go.
None of what I wrote above is a 'put on.' I mean what I wrote.
So if you've read through all of this. I suppose you're more than just considering emailing me. I look forward to hearing from you soon. :)
