AS ALOT OF YOU KNOW IM A 21 YEAR SURVIVOR OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND I HAVE TO SAY I WISH IT ON NO ONE THE MENTAL TORMENT AND TORTURE NEVER GO AWAY YA THEM BRUISES THAT OTHERS SEE FADE BUT THE BRUISES ON OUR HEARTS ALWAYS REMAIN !! IF ONLY 1 PERSON READS THIS AND FINDS SOME KIND OF COMFORT THEN IM GREATFUL FOR I KNOW HOW LONELY AND TORMENTED MANY WOMEN AND CHILDREN ARE RIGHT THIS INSTANT AND THAT IS SOO HEART WRENCHING SO PLZ ALWAYS TRY TO SPREAD THE WORD OF AWAENESS TO HELP PROTECT OUR CHILDREN AND OUR MOMMYS !!!!
PLZZZZZZZZ B SAFE AND GODBLESS ALWAYS
Many people who are being abused do not see themselves as victims. Also, abusers do not see themselves as being abusive. People often think of domestic violence as physical violence, such as hitting. However, domestic violence takes other forms, such as psychological, emotional, or sexual abuse.
Domestic violence is about one person in a relationship using a pattern of behaviors to control the other person. It can happen to people who are married or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated, or dating.
If your partner repeatedly uses one or more of the following to control you;
- pushing, hitting, slapping, choking, kicking, or biting
- threatening you, your children, other family members or pets
- threatening suicide to get you to do something
- using or threatening to use a weapon against you
- keeping or taking your paycheck
- puts you down or makes you feel bad
- forcing you to have sex or to do sexual acts you do not want or like
- keeping you from seeing your friends, family or from going to work
YOU HAVE BEEN ABUSED!!
Remember threatened or actual physical violence may be illegal. Consider calling the police for help
Your partner apologizes and says the hurtful behavior won’t happen again. But you fear it will. At times you may start to doubt your own judgment, or wonder whether you’re going crazy. You may even feel like you’ve imagined the whole thing. But the emotional or physical pain you feel is real. If this sounds familiar, you may be the victim of domestic violence.
Also called domestic abuse, intimate partner violence or battering, domestic violence occurs between people in intimate relationships. It can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse. Men are sometimes abused by female or male partners, but domestic violence is most often directed toward women. It can happen in heterosexual or lesbian relationships.
Unfortunately, domestic violence against women is common. It happens to teenage girls and women of all backgrounds. As many as 4 million women suffer abuse from their husbands, ex-husbands, boyfriends or intimate partners in the United States each year.
It may not be easy to identify abuse, especially at first. While some relationships are clearly abusive from the outset, abuse often starts subtly and gets worse over time. For example, abuse may begin with occasional hurtful comments, jealousy or controlling behavior. As it gets worse, the abuse may become more frequent, severe or violent. As the cycle of abuse worsens, your safety or the safety of your children may be in danger.
You may be a victim of abuse if you’re in a relationship with someone who:
You are very likely in an abusive relationship if you have a relationship with someone who does even one of the following:
Pregnancy is a particularly perilous time for an abused woman. Not only is your health at risk, but also the health of your unborn child. Abuse can begin or may increase during pregnancy.
Abusive relationships can also be particularly damaging to children, even if they’re just witnesses. But for women in an abusive relationship, chances are much higher that their children also will be direct victims of abuse. Over half of men who abuse their female partners also abuse their children.
You may worry that seeking help may further endanger you or your children, or that it may break up your family. But in the long run, seeking help when you safely can is the best way to protect your children - and yourself.
Though there are no typical victims of domestic violence, abusive relationships do share similar characteristics. In all cases, the abuser aims to exert power and control over his partner.
Although a lot of people think domestic violence is about anger, it really isn’t. Batterers do tend to take their anger out on their intimate partner. But it’s not really about anger. It’s about trying to instill fear and wanting to have power and control in the relationship. In an abusive relationship, the abuser may use varying tactics to gain power and control, including:
Domestic violence is part of a continuing cycle that’s difficult to break. If you’re in an abusive situation, you may recognize this pattern:
Typically each time the abuse occurs, it worsens, and the cycle shortens. As it gets worse, you may have a hard time doing anything about the abuse or even acknowledging it. Over time, an abusive relationship can break you down and unravel your sense of reality and self-esteem. You may begin to doubt your ability to take care of yourself. You may start to feel like the abuse is your fault, or you may even feel you deserve it.
This can be paralyzing, and you may feel helpless or as though your only option is to stay in the abusive situation. It’s important to recognize that you may not be in a position to resolve the situation on your own.
But you can do something - and the sooner you take action the better. You may need outside help, and that’s OK. Without help, the abuse will likely continue. Leaving the abusive relationship may be the only way to break the cycle.
A number of government and private agencies provide resources and support to women who are abused and their children. These resources include 24-hour telephone hot lines, shelters, counseling and legal services. Many of these services are free and can provide immediate assistance.
Leaving an abuser can be dangerous. You’re the only one who knows the safest time to leave. You may know you are in an abusive relationship and realize you need to leave as soon as you safely can. Or, you may be concerned about your partner’s behavior and think you may need to get out at some point in the future. Either way, being prepared can help you leave quickly if you need to. Consider taking these precautions:
It isn’t uncommon for an abuser to monitor mail, telephone and Internet communication. Take precautions to help maintain your privacy and safety by following these steps.
Telephone conversations
If you think your abuser is monitoring your computer use, the safest bet is to access a computer at a friend’s house or at the library. If you do use a shared home computer, there are several steps you can take to help maintain your privacy:
No one deserves to be abused. If you think you may be in an abusive situation, seek help or advice as soon as you safely can. There are many resources available to help you. The first step to getting out of an abusive situation may be as easy as making one phone call. In an emergency situation, call 911, your local emergency number or your local law enforcement agency. If you aren’t in immediate danger, the following resources can help:
This lady was beaten so badly by her husband that her best friend could not find her in the Emergency Room. She was unrecognizable.
She has had multiple corrective surgeries. She has authorized publication of her pictures for the good of others.
PLEASE HELP SPREAD THE WORD NO ONE DESERVES TO LOOK LIKE THIS WE ALL DESERVE LOVE !!!!
XOXOXO
PLZZZZZ B SAFE AND GODBLESS
KIMMY SUE
BEAU BO,BRETT LEE,KATRINA MARIE&BROCK LYNN GOLDEN VOGELPOHL
A FAMILY TRYING TO HEAL MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL!!!
To my dearest family somethings id like to say
but first of all to let you know that i arrived ok
im writing this from heaven where i dwell with god above
there just forever eternal love.
please do not be unhappy just because im out of sight
remember that i am with you every morning noon and night !
that day 2 had to leave you when my life on earth was thru
God picked me up and hugged me and he said 'i welcome u'
Its good to have u back again u were missed while you were gone
as for your dearest family they will be here later on i need u
here so badly as part of my big plan
theres so much that we have to do to help our mortal man
Then God gave me a list of things he wished for me to do
and foremost on that list of mine is to watch and care for u!!
and i will be beside you every day and week and year
and when youre sad im standing there to wipe away the tear!
And when you lie in bed at night the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you in the middle of the night
when you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
because youre only human they are bound to bring you tears!
But do not be afraid to cry it does relieve the pain
remember there wouldnt be flowers unless there was rain
I wish i could tell you of all that God has planned
but if i were to tell you you wouldnt understand
One thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I am closer to you now than i ever was before
and to my very many friends trust God he knows whats best
Im still not far away from you im just beyond the crest!
There are rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
but together we can make it taking one day at a time
it was always my philosophy and id like it for you to
that as you give unto the world as the world will give to u!!
If you can help somebody whos in sorrow or in pain
then you can say to God at night 'my day was not invain'
and now i am content that my life it was worth while
knowing as i passed along I made somebody smile!!
So if you meet somebody who is down and feeling low
just lend a hand to pick him up as on your way u go
when you are walking down the street and youve got me on your mind
Im walking in your footsteps only half a step behind
And when you feel that gentle breeze or the wind upon your face
thats me giving you a great big hug or just a soft embrace
and when its time for you to go from that body to be free
remember youre not going youre comming here to me!!
And i will always love you from that land way up above
we'll be in touch again quite soon !!
p.s GOD SENDS HIS LOVE!
*** THIS WAS WRITTEN FOR MY FIRST LOVE AND THE LOSE OF A FRIEND BROTHER AND ANGEL !!!!******
KIMBERLY SUE YORK