Xstasy1's blog: "Dungeon Chamber"

There's something about just submitting, loving, wanting his love, his control, his protection. Nothing compares to the complete surrender of heart, mind, body and soul, and it be accepted and cherished Dont say no...

D/s is not primarily about sex or sexual expression, it's about ... ...dynamic power exchange. ...exchanging power. ...mental & emotional needs and wants being fulfilled. The physical part is just a component of that, although a fun one. ...the emotions in both the Dominant and the submissive that can only be fulfilled through honest, open communication which leads to a relationship of Respect, Trust, Understanding, and the ability to satisfy the needs of one's partner in ways "ordinary" people would neither comprehend or accept. ...reaching a deep, erotic place in our individual psyches. It is about a higher, more extreme ecstasy. ...to me, it is a 90% state of mind; choice of lifestyle. The sexual is an added bonus. ...the consensual exchange of power and control between individuals. It does not need sex or rely on sex to exist. ...the sharing, caring, cherishing, freedom and infinite closeness that comes from revealing one's innermost pleasures/fantasies to one's beloved. ...the meeting of two halves to make the whole. ...respect, trust, integrity, loving, caring, communication, understanding, meeting the needs of others and discovery of one's true self. ...a relationship between two people where the needs of both are satisfied, in a way that fulfills the emotional, physical and intellectual desires of the Dominant and submissive partners. ...the exchange of Power and exchange of Responsibilities. ...D/s (and B/D and S/M) is in fact, primarily about sex and sexual expression. It is a form of sexual methodology that should be exciting to both parties. Several authors including the author of "SM101" state that if you're not doing it as a form of sexual expression, then why are you doing it? ...total trust and caring from the submissive and the Domme's/Dom responsible, never to abuse that. ...a lifestyle that incorporates the realm of sexuality, sensuality, sadism and masochism, of a relationship between two willing partners in an equal exchange of the essence of power between them, of fear and excitement, that overwhelms the body and the mind, of strength and spirit that captures the soul of those involved...and of trust, between all involved in this lifestyle we have chosen as ours. ...control. ...an Emotional and Spiritual connection. It is a mental state of mind, not a physical one. ...transfer of control from one person to another. It's about being able to trust someone enough to give them the gift of total submission, knowing that the trust will not be violated. And it is about taking the responsibility to never violate that trust, and make the sub feel safe, secure, and well taken care of, so that they can give that gift without reserve. ...power exchange based upon a mutuality of respect and trust and predicated upon an attempt to meet the needs and desires of the partners. ...an erotic, sensual form of communication between two or more people, which can encompass the physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual aspects of the participants, either all at once or in part. ...building a relationship of Trust and Love, one block at a time. ...the willing exchange of power, expressed through many different means. Voice, touch, restraint, use of toys, sensory deprivation, often geared to causing the sub to achieve sub-space, "a state of grace", and the Dom's satisfaction & GRATIFICATION, by what He or She sees unfold before Their eyes. This followed up with mutual aftercare is an experience that transcends anything sexual. ...it is primarily the mind and mental games that D/s's play with each other. ...trust, intelligence, and learning the values of self. ...it is about two people serving the other in different ways. Both should be humble at the other's gift. It is not love but love distilled. "Think only of me, please only me, only I may touch you." That is what many subs get hurt when no love is present in the relationship. Yes, sadily there are d/s relationships NOT based on love, but on lust and fear. These are, at best, a lesser experience, at worse, abuse. And what happens on those rare special moments when two meet and it is love; a mutual respect and care for the other? What is d/s then? Why, it is two souls becoming one. And it is a holy, lovely thing that inspires awe in those who are lucky enough to experience it. (And those who are in it's presence) That's what "true" d/s should be.

just his presence sets her heart racing makes her body throb her lips ache for his his eyes, filled with fire turned banked embers to infernos, flames of need, filling her with molten desire and then he touches her lifting her fingers to his lips and a thousand volts course wildly through her heart does he know how she needs him how his presence reminds her of her total dependence on him does he know that a word, a glance, a touch, can send her into throes of delight make her inner core pulse in pleasure her eyes lock on his and she knows.. knows that he knows knows that he controls her and she trembles joyfully even in his absence the thought of him makes her wet with wanting sets her on edge, aching to please but when he loves her when he takes her body possesses her, fills her everything she is screams out for more, for the passion to last forever in their firey joining too soon the passion is banked to be stirred again at his whim her body curled next to his as though she couldn't get close enough eyes meet in that aftermoment and promises of forever need not be spoken vows of more remain unsaid there is only him and she is his

A Recipe for Passion First you need the essentials (1)Start with two ingredients That will be you and your lover Now follow each step carefully (2)First warm up your two main Ingredients with love (3) Then knead all of the parts until they feel hot (4) Use 2 cups of oil (flavored oil is best) Pick one that can be enjoyed by both Warm oil in hand first before spreading on ingredients (5)After well coated make sure that it is not absorbed up too quickly (If need be recoat several times) If well lubed (Sorry coated) It’s time to work it up to a frenzy (6) Ad a dash of lust and a pinch of ecstasy now Please remember to have plenty on hand for later You will need it! (7) If one of the ingredients begins to rise don’t worry! Place it in the other hand and plan on repeating this step over many, many times (8) Make sure the temperature is set high and let stew for hours the juices will start to flow (Please taste and mix well) (8) By now the meat should be well steamed (Give it a squeeze to extract more juices) (9) If breasts still tender lash with tongue over and over (10) Take dripping and juices mix well and spread like a glaze do not put on sparingly (Spread thick) (11) You’re almost there and you need to dress it out Now be creative let desire dictate the setting (12) Try a dash of lace or a splash of satin (black or red) Cuffs, ties, chains, floggers And other passion toys will work as well Enjoy your meal

A moment of passion so easily shared, with no fear or regret. The memories flood through my mind, a moment of passion I'll never forget. A moment of passion is like a drug, it takes me so high. Needing to get another fix, a moment of passion can never lie A moment of passion when we are alone, you desire it too. Unable to control it, a moment of passion shared with you.

Trust is difficult to define
because it means different things to different people. Some say that trust
can only be given over a long period of time, during which the one requesting
the trust must earn it. Some say that everyone gives at least a small
amount of trust to others in order for a relationship to begin. I personally,
agree with the second school of thought. Trust, is an integral part of
a BDSM relationship. Without it, there can not be a relationship.
A submissive must trust the dominant with their very
life. Once a submissive is bound and gagged, nothing can stop the dominant
from killing them if the dominant chose to. So it is imperative that
the submissive plays only with a person they trust with their life.
A submissive must also trust the dominant to have thier best interests
in mind, and to care for them, not abuse them. A submissive must trust
that the dominant has considered all options before ordering them to
do something.
Trust, however, is not one sided. A dominant must trust
the submissive as well. In many instances the submissive is in charge
of many important things, like paying bills on time. The dominant must
be able to trust that the submissive can handle these tasks in a responsible
manner. A dominant must be able to trust that the submissive will tell
them the truth and uphold the rules set for them.
Both participants must be able to trust the other with
their thoughts and feelings. WIth their vulnerabilities and strengths.
Open and honest communication is a way of building trust, and is required
in a BDSM relationship. This level of trust takes time to grow, it does
not happen overnight. Trust will grow with consistent actions from both
people and a good working level of communication. In this way, the people
show that they will do what they say they will do. Unfortunately, in
a relationship

I just wanted to say hello to my family of close friends, friends, fans,and new ones. So far this site is pretty cool and took a bit to get the hang of it but nowwwwwwwwwwwww its all going pretty good. I hope you will save me and remember to come back and check my blog for my words and fun. Take Care& good fubaring, Anne (Xstasy1)