Why is it that some women(not all) and some guys do it too, that they stay in a relationship that is going nowhere and also if the person treats them like crap, they still stay in it. It's like they love to be abused that way, emotionally and physically. Do people have such low self-esteem that they have to find ways to punish themselves..that's kind of saidomasochistic isn't it? I want you all to look in the mirror and tell yourself if you've done this or are doing this to yourself. Can you explain the phenomenon to me people?