So it's happened..I am officially a grandmother. My granddaughter is so beautiful and perfect!! I drove down while my daughter was in labor, she had Cloey while i was driving. I got to the hospital in the middle of the night and got to sleep in the room with them. Such a tremendous night in my life. My child has a child of her own.
I got to spend almost 2 full days with them. A wonderful glimpse at my future.
As we all know there is an adjustment period..new parents go through. Hugest of sighs...
I have been a smoker for nearly 24 years. I have a smokers cough. it's annoying but completely harmless. But the new parents felt I was concealing a potential threat to their little one. I have a cough that they believe is a cold. So they hadf the doctors give them a solid reason to have me head home early. They told me for the first 6 weeks the doctor says they should have no outside visitors and the ones they do have should have recieved a flu shot and a tdap vaccine. As I couldn't safely do either of these things while there I must go. And any cough is a danger, and I should be 6 ft away from the baby at all times.
I probably said something i shouldn't have but i was seriously irritated with the entire situation. After the 20 minute diatribe delivered to me about the dangers I was presenting to the baby I told my daughter how thankful I was to have had my first child decades ago as i would surely not have made it in this time. With all the "must not do's" my kids would surely have perished.
So I was packed and heading home within 20 minutes of returning to their house. I made it out of sight before the torential downpour of tears fell. I cried for the first 30 miles of my drive. I was so frustrated with the whole situation. I had hours to think while I drove. I knew it was not right but I didn't have much of a choice.
I received an email message on fb from my daughters fiancee telling me he's already got my cough and a fever and i should hope and pray the baby stays healthy and safe.
He sent it 3 hours after I left. And I never had a fever as I am not ill. SIGH!!
My daughter isn't communicating with me and I have to rely on fb to get any pictures they might post to see my little Cloey. It all makes me so very sad.
I just don't know what to do and I have been crying for the last two days. Cancelled the remainder of my vacation as i don't need to chill in my apartment til the end of the month.
What should be a super happy time in my life has become one of the saddest. I don't know what to do. I don't want them to know they have hurt me. I just wish it was a happier time.