as most of you know Im back in the dating world ;) yes its so and apparently it has gotten a whole lot more complicated . its no longer a simple letter boy sees girl boy likes girl boy ask girl to be his there boyfriend and girlfriend . boy says war eagle girl says roll tide well we saw where that got me hahahahah. . so the big question . Apparently now we start on online sites . OMG i want to die i will be honest i don’t care if i never see one again lmao .. TBH noone is who they seem. There picture is for 5 plus years ago . there jobless. there ex cons , pedifiles weirdos looking for FWB ( the text i got the other day and yes i know what that is and thats def not me ) but its seems Boyfriend and Girlfriend is a scary term. where it used to be the beginning . and now its like its the middle or the jump start . The beginning is dating .Im trying to start the new year off right . so I’m looking for advice .I dont want to fudge this up and apparently you start out talking on a dating site ( and theer are so many (meet me,POF. text me, match .com )if you click( which means convos going well . he asks for your cell so you can chat more. then from there you set up a time to meet , then from there you decide if you want to see each other again, Sadly this does not mean your the only girl apparently , Your now dating but its just that . dating . so there is a chance mr guy is out there flirting up other woman. Shouldn't it be less complicated. Shouldnt it be ask me to be your girl after the dinner went well . Then were boyfriend and Girlfriend . Then the next step is going steady is what i remember its like a big deal your steady .Your seeing each other on a regular basis you've exclaimed your luv to her. but these days I’m not even sure that step exist either and its so confusing . and Im a over thinking . but most of you who know me I’m adhd so i overthink everything . .and im just confused . A friend of mine i was talking to the other day said this “:The minute u both only have sex with the other then u are bf and gf whether it is stated officially with a title or not. Other than that u are just dating. Sex determines mating in the animal kingdom”. i laughed at her i said one I’m not a animal and two with this day in age its not true . hell i wish it was . I want to consider myself old fashioned . and that sex is high on that pedistoool but in this day and age people just throw it around like its a baseball . NO im not that kinda girl . i value my vagina.( wooohoo imagine that . I would like to consider myself to be one of the few good ones left . Im far from perfect i get that I have my moments my emotional i need some me time GTFO for a bit , but for the most part i consider myself LUvable. I have a huge heart which lives on my sleeve . when i meet someone and i go to dinner i see he has the potential ( yes and i mean husband potential ) no it doesn’t mean im a run out and marry him lol .or that im staring at brides magazine lol . its a potential to be he has some or all of the qualities that im looking for and very well make the pass . we will see over time. AT that time the dating site is dropped . I delete or suspend my online account and give him the full attention he deserves. i think i saw a quote the other day . Dating with out looking for commitment is like going to the grocery story without money . Your going to come home with something that not yours. . Being ADHD i was always told to write to ease my thoughts get it out on paper express it . well i write but some time it would be nice to have input so im a give this log thing a chance. and Yes ill jump around from topic to topic just like in RL . lust hard to trust people and find people that i trust with my demons. ok So back to the dating . topic; heheh squirrel .... ok so SEX she said determines it . well what if we have already done that . ( ok yes judge away people i love you all but its the year 2015 people are having sex hell people been having sex for a while we’ve all seen sex in the city ;) Sex in the city i luv that show carrie is so much like me its scary . i even had a mr big . but thats for another convo . so back to the boyfriend things so i did some online research and read. GooGle search Dating vs Boyfriend and Girlfriend ;)
.Going out and boyfriend/girlfriend are the same. This means you are suppose to be going out exclusively. Dating means you aren't exclusive, just testing the waters. Typically when dating their wouldn't be sex, but people are pretty slutty nowadays.
goober · 8 years ago ((((( couldnt agree more ;)))
Anonymous dating is all about having fun, keeping things light and fluffy so to speak while being boyfriend/girlfriend aka being in a relationship is about sharing the bad parts of life as well as the good things. you're in it for the long run
( ok that one says its means relationship .sharing the bads so what you are saying is i hide the bads don’t fart in the bed hahahahahah ROFLMFAO ,, or if our day is shitty we keep it to our self and pretend were perfect ( OHHH wait i am didn't you know lmao ) jk hahah I’m a nut
So to my understand ing its very different for adults and teens . cause i asked my daughter yes we have a preety awesome relationship . but first asked the older one . and she said at first “I dont know. with her and taco he asked here out there Boyfriend and Girlfriend . Looks at her.. SOOOOO sSIMPLE ( officially jelous )
my other daughter not so much . she s apparently got 3 boyfriends but only one that she considers her “boyfriend “ hhahah if they read this I’m a get slapped ;) I love you my kiddos ;)
which are not kids and that a whole nother note that will take up hours. and well get into but todays topic is dating and the stages . and on that note I’m a stop for now i may come back later i may come back tomorrow. it may be a week . but yes I’ve met someone that i see potential in officially met him Christmas eve and we had lunch and its been going well but still super early but it is moving fast and its seems to be a good fast i don’t know. And yes im over analyzing over thinking over worrrying but im happy . I hope it works ;) Last night my daughter and i had a day of shopping she wentto sushi after and i invited him to come join and it seemed to go well . i was nervous as hell cause i wa sthinking this is way to soon and yes it probally was but shes more adult about it then my other daughter . I’m not ready to introduce him to Katlynn cause most of you that know her know why . but in time with her i have to worry cause she gets attached and I’m not ready for that . but things seem to be good . will try to do weekly updates but no your not getting names . until I’m name ready hahahah and i want to make sure knowing my luck week two it will all flop and ill be back on the dating site. but yes I’m off the market giving this guy a full chance . :) Im a close this for now hope you all have a amzing day i look forward to your advice ;) LUV you all
YOurs Truly
Squirrel
