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***I'm going to start this off by saying my grammer is going to be shit. I am livid and I could care less about grammer right now. Please don't be the asshole to sit there and correct me.
THIS ISN'T A JOKE. YES, IT REALLY DID HAPPEN AND THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS IS TO MAKE OTHERS AWARE.
I think I made it pretty clear in my profile how I feel about men in relationships or marriage. I think I also made it very clear that I just got out of a 6 year relationship. I'm going to get a little personal, but at this point I don't give a shit. The man I was in a relationship with was the man I wanted to marry and be with forever. I would have done anything for him and did do anything. Let's put it this way I ended the relationship and it wasn't from him cheating. It was from the beatings I took mentally and emotinally that turned into fists. This past time was it for me since he wasn't going to stop and it took his daughter screaming and crying for him to stop. So, all those people that asked me what did I do that ended a 6 year relationship there is your answer. I sent him a text after he said he was going to bed to get that beating. With all that being said let me get into the whole purpose of this blog.
Yes, I used to be on this site years ago. I came back since I have some pretty kick ass friends on here. I came back for the distraction of everything I mentioned above. To laugh, meet new people, have a good time, keep my mind busy and to just be me for the first time in 6 years. When I log off for the night there isn't another thought that goes into this site. Yes, I talk to one individual here that I have been friends with for years and he knows me better than pretty much anyone. One person on this entire site do I talk to in real life. For those who have talked to me you had to notice I can't flirt to save my life and end up joking around. I haven't talked dirty to anyone, lead anyone on, made it seem like I was looking for ANYTHING besides friendship. It's been the more the merrier and let's have a good time. I have seen one person on here from Michigan. It's very rare that I run across people from Michigan. I wanted to make that known.
Today I decided to take my son to the zoo. We literally walked in, bought tickets for the train to take us to the back so we could work our way up. We get on the train at the back of the car facing the other car. I see a guy get in the seat across from us that faces us and called his wife and two kids over and they all pile in. I didn't pay attention since I was laughing and talking to my son. I always look elsewhere if a couple is in my line of sight. I don't know why I do it, but it's been a habit for a long time. I never want women thinking I would disrespect them by checking out their guy, so I never even glance in that direction. It's more for my comfort and I probably over think it. Now while we are sitting there waiting for the train to go I can fucking feel being stared at. I see my son keep glancing in that guys direction too. I have AMAZING perephrial vision so I just turn my head a tad and I can see the guy staring hard core at me. He is literally sitting straight ahead not moving just staring at me. Now mind you I literally have a fitted Detroit t-shirt on that's not low cut and jeans with holes in them on. Nothing that could grab someones attention. While talking to my son I can see the wife staring at her husband, whispering something and then looking at me. He turned his head for a second and then went back to staring at me. I then turned my entire body so I couldn't see even the front of their train anymore and just faced my son. I was so relieved to get off that fucking train! Now, Detroit Zoo has a bunch of different turns you can take to see different animals. Yes, they have a path that pretty much is a big circle, but usually you don't run across the same people unless you literally follow animal to animal. My son and I went all over the place that I got lost at one point and I been going there since I was a kid. That guy was always around somewhere. With his wife and kids or sometimes by himself. I was able to talk myself into it being a coincidence at first and I need to calm down. Then after 2 1/2 hours of weaving in and out and seeing him around I knew it wasn't coincidence. My son and I still had a good time and I pushed it to the back of my head, but kept an eye out at all times. The Zoo is about to close and we just came out of the big penguine exhibit we were in for 45 minutes. I figure he is long gone and relax. We get up to the water fountain for my son to get a drink and out of nowhere the guy walks up to me. Now, this damn zoo was so fucking packed today they were parking on the grass across the street. People everywhere and I mean everywhere! What's the chances that nobody is around at the water fountain in the corner and he decides to walk up then? He tells me he recognizes me from Fubar. We talked on here don't I remember? I push my son behind me and told him no I don't because I only talked to one person from Michigan and he isn't him. He continues to tell me how fucking hot I am. How he loves my body and my tits are just as big in person as in my pictures. MY FUCKING 8 YEAR OLD SON IS STANDING RIGHT BEHIND ME HEARING EVERYTHING!!!! Well, with how things are as it is and him cornering me my fight or flight instinct kicked in. He was a big motherfucker! I went off and lost my shit! I was fucking mean as hell. I was fucking terrified and my son asked me to please leave before he even started talking. So, I am terrified and now my son is scared. This motherfucker decides to approach me in a corner knowing I am alone with my 8 year old to tell me he recognizes me from here and to be fulgar when his wife and kids can't be too far behind. I didn't recognize him, so I can't even put him on blast here. I am really hoping he reads this though and know that I may have been shaking with tears in my eyes but he should be happy he stared daggers at me wanting to hit me instead of acting. Never mess with a survivor of physical abuse with her child. It woudn't have ended well for YOU.
I was way more public on here years ago than I am now. I don't know who this guy is, if I am even friends with him or how there is any connection to this site. I never thought in a million years I would EVER run into someone that recognized me from here out of all places!! People don't even know my name on here and I never even remotely tell them any area that I am close to in Michigan.
This kind of thing should never happen. I never logged on here thinking it could happen. This site went from fun and a good time to serious and scary. It made me realize how vaulnarable all of us are really. Ladies please think about all this and as crazy as it is take note. Please keep yourselves safe and aware of your suroundings at all times. This guy was with his wife and two kids and it didn't stop him at all.
I won't let it push me off this site. I will still be here just as much as before because nobody makes me do anything I don't want. Just know from now on I will always be aware and prepared and what happened to me today will NEVER happen again. I got comfortable since I was at the zoo, but I will never be unprepared again. The fear I live with from a man who told me he loved me for 6 years has unfortunantly intensified, but won't stop me. The whole purpose of mentioning my past relationship is if someone who said I was his soulmate and love of his life could do that to me what do you think that guy would have done? Never think someone is innocent and always trust your gut. I'm furious for the fear he put in me and the fear he put in my son who for once was finally having a good time. That kind of rage is the opposite of what he intended.
I don't want sympathy or pity because I don't need it. I am fine and my son is fine. You don't have to tell me you're sorry because any sane person would be sorry something like this happened to someone. No pity or sympathy please. I was lucky that I can come off intimdating and I have a real bad attitude when needed. My worry is it happening to another women that isn't able to get the guy to back down some like this one did. That is the whole point of this folks!
Thank you to anyone reading and please share so others are aware. That's the whole purpose of me writing this and putting my personal buisness out there. People like that will not win. They just gave me an opportunity to warn others.
-BD
