most of us love our parents, no matter how odd and embarrassing, they are our parents it's not like we had a choice in them. everyone says their family is complicated, and in truth most are. but there are some you need god damn road maps to even understand if the siblings are really siblings and all that crazy shit. so when I think of mine and try to explain it to others I realize that it is fairly difficult to understand who belongs to who and what.
for the most part I've been lucky though. I was raised in a 'good' home. always had what I wanted and needed and was rather spoiled. the one dark cloud was the fact that my brother and I were adopted. but like everything else in life you get over it. after all I wouldn't trade this life for anything.
but when you're world as you've known is thrown off it's axis it takes a while to get back to what could be labeled as normal. thus far it's taken me 4 years to come to terms with both my biological families and all that's come with them. and I'm not even close to what I would label as normal for who I am. there is a lot more then simply saying on yeah I now have 3 families and 9 siblings. there is the whole messed up emotional and mental side too, things that were suffered as a child you didn't understand to the whole why now, why me hell you go through.
you deal with this shit one day at a time, because that's all you can do. you learn about you're family past you meet and grow to know and love your siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, kinda step parents, and of course the people who caused your birth parents.
but just because these people are the ones that gave birth to you, do you have to treat them with the same kind of respect and love you have for the parents that raised you? do you really owe them anything, when after all they are the ones that gave you up no matter what the reason was? Is it not your right to decide if you want to have some of them in your life but not others? It's not like you've been raised as family with these people, they don't have the same family loyalty, respect and honor as you do. So what right do they have to be mad at you if you say 'I don't want you around' when they left you in the first place?
