Ok so I've decided that before I meet anyone else again I need to talk to them on the phone first. This one time I didn't, and I paid for it!
Here's a little background: I meet this guy online. I'd seen pics of him, and talked for a couple of weeks through text and IM. He was from NY- an area I'm familiar with, and black.
I was supposed to meet him at AZ Mills Mall at 5 o'clock last night. I was running late so I called him to let him know. He sounded like Mos Def with a heavy foreign accent.Seriously, I don't know what it is but I must have had to say "what" nearly every single time he said something...which was not often.
After I hung up with him, I called my sister and was like "If I text you then you have to call me at 6 and make up an excuse for me to leave!"
I walked into the mall and he was waiting at the food court. He did not look like his pictures! He was much darker in person and his head was abnormally small! Anyway, I sit down and say "hi". We were meeting for dinner so I asked him where he wanted to eat. He didn't come up with any suggestions...we were sitting there for like 5 minutes looking around in circles, trying not to look at each other.
Here's the other thing: I couldn't tell if he liked me or not. Normally I can tell within the first minute whether or not I like a guy, am attracted, and whether or not I'll sleep with him. I also know whether or not the guy likes me.
So finally I was like "want to eat at Game Works?" and we went up there. We sat down and the waiter brought the menus. I slipped my cell out of my pocket underneath the table and text my sister while pretending to look at my menu "call me at 6!"
The waiter took forever, but finally took our order. We sat there in dead akward silence for fifteen minutes until the waiter brought our food. At one point I asked him about NY and that got the conversation flowing for about 5 minutes. Turns out he moved from West Africa 7 years ago, lived in NY and then moved to AZ this past year. That's where the accent was from! You'd think that would have come up in a conversation... "yeah I just moved from New York, but I was born in West Africa"
Anyway he didn't like his food so he sat there staring anywhere but me while I ate. I stuffed my face with food because then I figured I wouldn't have to come up with something to say. My sister called me a few minutes after 6 pm and made up a story about how my son had gotten into the knife drawer and cut himself. I hung up and he asked me what was going on so I tried to sound worried and told him I had to go.
He called the waiter for the check and I had to sit there for another 5 minutes, waiting for him to come back, pretending to be worried and anxious. When we left and we separated I was like "I'm so sorry I had to cut this short, but thank you for dinner!" He didn't even try to hug me or shake my hand, nothing!
It was the weirdest date I'd ever been on. And I feel guilty because I ditched him. I've never done that before! However, he has not contacted me. So I figure that if he is not contacting me, he doesn't like me, and then I don't have to feel guilty about ditching him!
Perfect logic, right?
