Ever played Sims 2? I've played a little, and it's SO true to life! The half a dozen or so different aspirations that your simulated character can have basically refer to what it is in life that drives them -- what it is that they live for and that they base their life's goals on. Your aspiration may be money, family, romance/sex, fame, or others. My aspiration is definitely romance/sex. Can't help it, it's just the way I was born. One issue with my marriage is that my wife has a different aspiration. Hers is mainly family, with a possible secondary of knowledge/intellect. It makes us less than perfectly compatible, but luckily we have many more compatibilities.

But my aspiration is countered by an uncommonly strong morality, especially with respect to faithfulness. That creates more conflict within me than anything, because I'm so attracted to women in general and feel such strong desire that it about drives me crazy, yet my conscience won't allow me to act on it. Or I should say not act on it much. I can't say that I'm 100% innocent here, because I've been known to go just so far with women, and participate at strip clubs and stuff like that. I consider it a compromise. Because there's just no way that I'm going to live the rest of my life without having some fun flirting, doing a little touching, etc., with a few of the thousands of other women out there (just in my city) who are beautiful and sexy as hell. But I have my boundaries.

On the plus side, my wife definitely has a wild side. And what I'm hoping for more than just about anything is that this will in some way lead to involving other people (other women is obviously the important part for me!) in our "pleasures". Seems like a good time anyway, since we've been married almost 8 years and could use some new excitement in this way. This makes an awful lot of people cringe and sounds shocking to many, and we cannot talk about it in most circles we travel, but I think good ol' Fubar has plenty of clientele that can relate! I know one thing -- my wife definitely gets turned on as hell reading in Penthouse Forum about sexual experiences involving more than 2 very lusty, horny people. Of course, she has said before that fantasies should remain just that -- fantasies. My response to that is, "why?".

But one should know, my "wildness" (and hers, for however strong it is) doesn't go much beyond the sex thing. We don't do drugs, we don't even smoke, we live a pretty basic middle class life, we're very down to earth, and we're generally considered very nice (as in not mean, not as in not nasty) people. We would of course be seeking pretty similar people. Hey, maybe this will just continue to be nothing more than a fantasy, but I'm willing to explore!