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Beamer's blog: "Beamers Nightmare"

created on 09/14/2006  |  http://fubar.com/beamers-nightmare/b646

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THE BOYFRIEND SUBSTITUTE She dangled the short pieces of cord in front of his face. “Gonna let me tie you up then?” she asked, jokingly, but with a wicked grin. “You’ll crease my shirt,” he replied, although he was excited by the idea. “Take it off.” She almost ordered him, excited herself at the thought of it. **************************************** He had found her attractive from the first moment they had met. She had rebuffed his advances, telling him she liked him as a friend. She teased continuously, always standing so close to him he could smell her perfume and her natural scent, but still pushing him away if he tried to touch her. She had immediately recognised how attracted to her he was, and took advantage of this. She encouraged him, and discouraged him at the same time. She asked him to drive her home after work, invited him in for coffee, but always invented some reason she needed him to leave as soon as he started to look too comfortable. Today was no different to start with. He drove her home, came in for coffee, listened while she told him about her former boyfriends. He tried to give sensible, unbiased answers when she asked him for advice about love and sex, trying to be the friend she had always told him he was and not the lover he wanted to be. “I’ve always wanted,” she told him, “To tie up my boyfriend. But I’m scared I’ll scare him off.” He struggled to answer this one. “Look,” she said, “I’ll show you.” Jumping up, she headed to the door. “Come on,” she said impatiently, “You want to see this, don’t you?” Startled, he let her lead him upstairs to her bedroom where he stood awkwardly as she rummaged in a drawer and produced some short pieces of cord. “These would do,” she said brightly, indicating the large brass-framed bed. “I suppose they would.” He hardly knew what to say. She dangled the short pieces of cord in front of his face. “Gonna let me tie you up then?” she asked, jokingly, but with a wicked grin. “You’ll crease my shirt,” he replied, although he was excited by the idea. “Take it off.” She almost ordered him, excited herself at the thought of it. In a daze he removed his shirt. He let her push him onto the bed and loop the cord around one of his wrists. She tightened it, and threaded the other end round the bedframe, tying that too in a quick knot. She repeated the procedure with his other wrist, leaving him lying there, arms outstretched. She stood up and looked at him. “Uncomfortable?” she asked. “No, not really,” he tried to keep his voice as normal as if they were still drinking coffee downstairs. “So,” she went on, playing the same game, “If I did it to my boyfriend then you think he’d enjoy it?” He nodded, not trusting himself to speak. “So,” she persisted, “You’re enjoying it?” She sat on the edge of the bed, her eyes now fixed on the growing bulge in his trousers. He nodded again. “And once I’ve got him like this,” she rested one hand on his stomach and slid it down to his belt buckle, “I could take off the rest of his clothes and have him completely naked?” “Yes,” he croaked, having great difficulty in getting out even one word. Her hands were busy with the buckle and the zip on his trousers. “Hey.....,” he started to complain as he felt both his trousers and pants being pulled downwards. She stopped. “Yes?” “Nothing.” In one swift pull she had wrenched the remaining clothing downwards, over his ankles and feet, and off onto the floor. He was left completely naked and feeling rather exposed. He was uncomfortably aware of his erection now standing stiff and upright with nothing to cover it. As though talking to herself, she continued, “And once he’s naked, I could tie his ankles as well.” She picked up the other lengths of cord she had dropped on the floor and attached his ankles securely to the bottom of the bed frame, his legs spread wide apart. “You see,” she said, climbing onto the bed and kneeling astride him, “I really love my boyfriend and I’d never do anything he wouldn’t like.” She leaned forward and brought her lips firmly against his. Her lips parted, and her tongue wriggled its way into his mouth, not that he was resisting her. He felt the coarse material of her denim skirt rub against his erect cock as her body pushed against him, her large breasts under her sweatshirt pressing down onto his chest. It was a kiss like none other he had ever experienced. She seemed to put her whole life into, her whole sensuality into that one point of contact between them. When she finally broke contact, she sat up with her eyes closed. He felt the whole weight of her, as the rough skirt material covering her large, firm ass pressed his cock downwards. She must have been able to feel his stiffness pressing into her. She shuddered slightly and, her eyes still closed, she brought her hands to her breasts, cupping them, gently squeezing and massaging in a circular motion. She let out a deep sigh. She opened her eyes and looked down at him. “Right,” she said decisively, “I must get changed.” She climbed off him and headed for the door. “Hey. What about me?” She paused at the door and looked back at him. “What about you?” “Untie me.” “Oh.” She looked as though she had not considered untying him. “I thought you said it wasn’t uncomfortable?” “Yes. But you can’t leave me here.....” “Who said anything about leaving you? I’ll be back. I just have to get changed.” She left the room as he strained against the cords that were proving to be much stronger than they looked. There was no way he would be able to break them, and although he wriggled and pulled, there was no way he could twist his fingers round to untie the knots or reach any of them with his mouth. After several minutes of trying, his wrists and ankles were sore, and he gave up and lay still. He could hear her in the bathroom, showering and singing quietly to herself. He heard the toilet flush, and then the sound of the shower again. Then he heard her footsteps approaching the door of the bedroom. She paused at the door, then entered. She wore a long nightdress of a thin, shiny, black material. It was almost, but not quite, transparent. He could clearly see the outline of her body through it. “Do you think my boyfriend would find this sexy?” she asked, twirling it around her and running her hands all over it. “I just love the feel of this sort of material, don’t you?” “Look, “ he said crossly, “I’m not too interested in what your boyfriend finds sexy. Just let me go now. I’ve had enough.” She seemed surprised. “Have you? Really?” She stared at him, her eyes focussing on his hard cock. “I suppose you must be getting a little frustrated,” she said thoughtfully, and sat down on the bed reaching to take his cock in her hand. She encircled it with her fingers and squeezed gently, sending a tremor of pleasure through his body. She looked at the expression on his face. “You’re such a nice person,” she went on, “And I suppose you do have quite a nice body. But really, I couldn’t have you as my boyfriend, now could I?” As she spoke she squeezed his cock and started to pump him up and down gently. “Do you think, “ she continued, “My boyfriend would like this?” The pumping action became faster and harder, and she was clearly putting all her strength into producing maximum speed and grip. “Aghhhh.” Whether it was a groan of pleasure or pain, he wasn’t sure. He didn’t mean to make the sound, and within another second he would have had one of the most intense orgasms he had ever experienced. She stopped. She let go of him right at that second of maximum pleasure, apparently with no idea of what she had done. “You know,” she said, “I think that’s just what he would enjoy.” “Please,” he gasped, “Please don’t stop.” “What? Why?” “Because.....I...I was enjoying that.” “Oh.” The thought apparently confused her. “But we’re seeing what my boyfriend would enjoy, aren’t we? And what I would enjoy doing to him. And we’ve done that one.” “Now,” she was determined to move on, “Do you think he’ll find the feel of my nightdress exciting?” She slid one leg over him and then knelt upright, pulling the nightdress up and letting it fall around him. She sat back onto his stomach and slid downwards. He felt the soft yet firm flesh of her ass seeming to grab at his hard cock, then push it uncomfortably down level with his stretched legs. He groaned. “Look,” she said, apparently oblivious to the throbbing, twitching cock pressing on her ass. “Look how wonderful this material feels.” She pulled the loose fabric forward and spread it on his chest. She ran the palms of her hands over it, pressing it onto him and gently kneading it against his skin. With one finger of each hand she rubbed the silky material against his nipples, making little circles with her fingers faster and faster, watching closely as he reacted and his nipples stood up making little bumps in the material. Then she moved her hands to her own nipples, looking down at herself and pulling the material tight to see the protruding bumps created by the attention of her own fingers. “I think,” she said, “My boyfriend would like to be covered in material like this, and to feel my body underneath it.” She slid herself upwards onto his chest, and raised the nightdress. She threw it over his head, exposing her naked body to him underneath. She was no skinny, trim, catwalk model. Although not fat she was large, with wide hips, a well-padded ass, full and pendulous breasts nearly the size of his head. His eyes were drawn to those breasts first, then down her body to the hairy mound that pressed onto his chest. “He loves to lick me, my boyfriend does.” She raised herself from his chest and presented herself to his mouth. Cautiously, he pushed his tongue into her, hearing her gasp as he touched her. For several minutes she let him lick her, rocking gently with small moans of pleasure. Then she moved, adjusting her position to get his attentions to exactly the place she wanted. She pressed down onto him. “Suck,” she whispered. He found the spot, and sucked at her as her small moans became louder and longer until she exploded into a screaming, shuddering climax. Her juices flooded into his mouth and over his face. Her muscles tensed and contracted, her thighs gripping his head and his mouth and nose disappearing into her flesh as she seemed to suck him into her and cover him with her convulsing body. For several seconds he strained desperately at the cords holding him to tightly to the bed, frantic for release to be able to breathe and escape from the wet, clinging flesh that enveloped him. She relaxed and lifted herself. For a split second he felt a pang of regret as she moved from him; an urge to have her on him for longer; an intense desire for her body to once again smother and suffocate him. He breathed deeply at the cool, clean air. She recovered quickly and gazed at him. “Very good,” she said, “Very good indeed.” “Oh, better than your boyfriend then,” he tried to sound sarcastic. She was thoughtful, and didn’t speak for several minutes. When she did, it was in a small, quiet voice. “Yes,” she murmured, “Better. Much, much better.” Then she recovered herself and in a much louder voice, “But I haven’t tied him to the bed yet, have I? “And next,” she went on as though nothing particular had happened, “I take him to his climax.” She hoisted up her nightdress once more and quite roughly plunged herself onto his cock. He felt her wet, warm flesh engulf his stiff cock, and for all her size there was a tightness inside her that instantly gripped and pulled at him. She started a slow up and down movement, but after all the other sensations he had experienced in the last half hour, this was too much for him. Instantly he erupted, with an intensity and speed that both surprised him and sent him into squirming, straining, groaning ecstasy. She sat still on him, squeezing as he squirmed. Slowly and deliberately she brought both hands down to him, gripping and squeezing him with her strong fingers as she lifted herself from him, as if to drain every last drop from him and into her. She knelt on the bed next to him. To his surprise, she slapped him hard round the face. “What was that for?” he asked, startled and pained. “For doing it so quickly. That was bad.” “Anyway,” she went on, untying the cords and releasing him, “Thank you for your help. That’ll be useful for when my boyfriend arrives next week.” He really didn’t know what to say. He was just reaching for his clothes when she turned round and unexpectedly gripped his now-flaccid cock in one hand. “Just one more thing,” she said. “Yes?” “I have......” she said, speaking slowly and seeming to choose her words carefully, “Another boyfriend.” He felt her fingernails on him now. Three fingers and her thumb encircled his cock and the nails of each dug into him. “My other boyfriend.....” she went on, and her fourth finger was playing over the very end of his cock, “Keeps telling me.......” He felt the nail of the fourth finger tickling, scratching, beginning to hurt him. “.....about the close link between pain and pleasure. He tells me how much sex can be enhanced and orgasms can be so much more intense if combined with pain.” All her fingers were scratching and squeezing now, the discomfort was almost unbearable yet he felt himself start to stiffen again. “So,” she continued, now pumping his cock up and down with just her fingernails, not touching him with the fleshy parts of her finger or hand, and running a fingernail painfully over the end for a second or two every few strokes. “So I thought perhaps you could help me with that. You know - just to see what sort of pain worked the best, and to test out some proper smothering and suffocation. All that sort of thing.” He hardly knew what he was saying as she continued to play with his cock so painfully yet so sensually. He was nearing another orgasm. “Yes,” was all he could manage to say. “Good,” she gave him a final dig of the fingernails then closed her hand round his cock again and started to pump it with all the strength and speed she could manage. “Then......you’ll......be......here.......tomorrow.......night.......” “YES! YES! YES! YES!” At that second he might possibly have agreed to anything. A deep orgasm took hold of him and his knees buckled. She let go, and stood back. “Oh look,” she said. “All over my nice nightdress. That’s so naughty of you.” She looked at him for a moment, trembling on his knees with scarcely the strength to find his clothes and put them on. “I think,” she said decisively, “I’ll start tomorrow night with a punishment for you. That should be a good experiment, and you obviously deserve it.” “I’ll see you tomorrow. You can drive me home from work again

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Erotic massage is the use of massage techniques for erotic ends that is widely practiced by couples as part of lovemaking. For example, instead of draping the subject's body with towels, an erotic massage is usually conducted with the subject naked and undraped. Areas of the body such as the areas around the groin and intimate parts of the body, which are normally not touched in therapeutic massage, will be touched in ways that increase sexual arousal. Erotic massage may be utilized as a means of stimulating the libido, or increasing the ability of a person to respond positively to sensual stimulus. In some cases, erotic massage can be a form of foreplay without sexual gratification, intended to heighten the sensitivity of an individual prior to another engagement where sexual arousal and fulfillment is intended. In other cases, erotic massage may be used professionally to help men address issues of premature ejaculation. Methods employed may teach the recipient to circulate erotic energy and relax the musculature of his pelvis and thus prolong arousal and increase pleasure. It is also offered as a service by some massage parlors (not to be confused with establishments that offer only therapeutic massage). In this case, erotic massage may be considered to be a form of sex work, or a form of sex therapy. Sensual Meditation is the set of exercises made public by Claude Vorilhon in his book La méditation sensuelle.It is practiced by members of International Raelian Movement (IRM). The first of these exercises is usually taught in Raëlian Seminars. Although the IRM disagrees with consumerism, the sensual meditation they advocate is a practice in metaphysical materialism. First Activity: Harmonization with Infinity..The first step is to arrange a setting in which to meditate. Harmonious settings are preferred such as laying beneath a star-lit night sky, under good weather conditions. Or, prepare a room, decorated with pleasurable sights, textures, and smells. During the program of sensual meditation, being undressed or wearing soft silky material is preferable. Work clothes which are subject to pollutants and material which constrict blood flow and compress the sexual organs are not recommended. The goal of a breathing exercise is to improve the oxygenation of the cells within one's organism in order to balance the chemical secretions within the body. This involves a few to several minutes of deep regulated breathing and increasing of one's mental and physical awareness of the introduction of oxygen inside the many kinds of organs within the human body. Conscious awareness of these effects is important for a process of bodily feedback. The next step is to feel, from within oneself, all the cells and tissues one is made of, and to consciously link them through our central and peripheral nervous systems. After this feeling is felt throughout the body, one begins feeling the vibrations and pulses of musical sounds not only by the ears but through the pores and within the body itself.[1] In the following step, one feels the animate external environment through the many penetrating vibrations animating ones body from all angles and radial distances. This attentive awareness develops the sense of feeling harmony that surround one's organism. Lastly, one uses this feeling to become aware of the humanity he or she is a part of. Second Activity: Becoming Aware of Our Life Breathing begins again in a more physically arousing way by feeling the exchange of air inside the whole respiratory apparatus including the bronchial tubes inside the lungs, nasal cavity, and mouth. As the oxygenation is increasingly felt within, one then begins to feel the heart pulsating and pumping blood within one's chest. While being highly oxygenated and having the tactile sensuality developed in the previous exercise, the calming pulse of this blood is felt spreading from the heart and into the rest of the body. Third Activity: Body Awareness After having sensually connected the many cells and tissues in the body by developed the tactile sense of touch from within the body itself and feeling the pulsing phenomena within the body itself, the sensuality of external senses is developed. As one closes his or her eyes one begins to develop the sense of touch and does so intensely by feeling the parts of oneself by enjoying being the touched and toucher while feeling more intensely with the fingertips. The taste of one's own skin is then explored. The feeling of oneself talking is then guided by a hand touching the parts of the head which vibrate during speech. Then the eyes are opened to discover oneself by appreciating the moving of one's hands, a bit like a baby, however, now one can be fully conscious of his or her animation. One looks at oneself with new eyes, looking in places where one would not normally look, as if discovering our physique for the first time and with attraction rather than aversion. Fourth Activity: Meditation with Symbol of Infinity Decorations are placed around the room as well as posters to contemplate for their harmonious expression the various patterns and colors of lights they reflect. Among them is the symbol of infinity which in Raëlian cosmology represents the infinitely large particles and infinitely small particles that dance and intermingle among themselves as an animation which endures without beginning or end. Fifth Activity: Another Universe - Our Partner This exercise involves a massage by a partner, not necessarily sexual, (and vice versa) the purpose of which is to become conscious of one another's shape and constitution through the sensuous touching. This exercise need not be erotic when involving gentle kneading of the individual one feels in order to become aware of their contour of flesh and bones (and vice versa). The expectation of being touched in certain places turns into pleasure improves one's unity. This meditation is the last exercise for those without sexual partners. Sixth Activity: Eroticism and Mutual Excitement After the intense vaporous breathing exercise, which is performed at the beginning of each meditation, one lays down with their eyes closed while becoming aware and feeling another's gaze as it caresses their body which they present to the gazer. The person laying down anticipates the gaze of the other as though it were are source of a soft diffuse beam of light. Erogenous zones are later excited though a very light and delicate massage by the partner of the one lying down. Sensual feedback is expected between the massager and the massaged so that individual preferences and sensitivity are accounted for which allows both partners to receive maximum pleasure from the exchange. After seeing, touching, and hearing, the senses of taste and of smell are introduced. Breathing in with the nose enhances smell whereas breathing out through the mouth allows for exhalation on the skin of the one lying down to occur more sensually. This, as well as kissing, encourages the exchange of hormones between the caresser and the caressed. At the end of this exercise, it is repeated, where the massager now becomes the massaged and the massaged becomes the massager. Sensual play is a generic term which refers to a variety of forms of sensual play. It must be understood that sensual, as referred here, does not mean (or relate to) only sexual appeal. This comprehension can be extracted of etymological and semantic issues. For what, lato sensu, "sensual" is all that reports to a sense — all and everyone existing in human life. So that "sensual play", also sensual touch, means all forms of sense-playing or sense-touching one that can recognize, say, "sense" it. This most extensive comprehension, furthermore, includes all living things, not only or exclusively human being.Despite of this, however, the most frequent or usual, current comprehension claims to "sexual play" or "sexual touch", more when referring to or related to human experiences, say senses.The term may include forms of pain play for those who like pain but more often the term is used to refer to more subtle sensations. Sensual play can include feathers, tickling, temperature play including wax play and ice play, food play, light caresses, very light flogging or spanking, sensual massage, drumming fingers, sensory deprivation, soft music, candle light, and a variety of other things which stimulate our tactile, heat, cold, auditory, olfactory, and visual neuroreceptors. A cuddle party is an event designed with the intention of allowing people to experience non-sexual group physical intimacy through cuddling. Cuddle parties are described by organizers as "workshop/social-events" that gives adults an opportunity to "give and receive welcomed affectionate touch in a no-expectation, friendly setting, according to your needs, desires, interests, and boundaries." Cuddle parties are described as non-sexual events but kissing may occur at some parties.A cuddle party is a group experience, while the one-on-one analog is a cuddlebuddy relationship. A cuddle party is described by organizers as having the following format: A "Welcome Circle" led by the event's facilitators, the purpose of which is to establish the structure of the event, and in which participants are given an opportunity to introduce themselves, be led through several communication/ice-breaker exercises, and learn the Cuddle Party rules. A two-hour socializing/cuddling portion of the event, in which participants socialize and cuddle, in accordance with the event's rules. A "Closing Circle," in which the facilitators sum up the evening's activities. Rules...According to the Cuddle Party website, the rules of Cuddle Party are as follows: Pajamas stay on the whole time. You must ask permission and receive a verbal "yes" before you touch anyone. (Be as specific in your request as you can.) You don't have to cuddle anyone at a Cuddle Party, ever. If you're a yes, say yes. If you're a no, say no. If you're a maybe, say no. You are encouraged to change your mind from a yes to a no or a no to a yes anytime you want. Respect your relationship agreements and communicate with your partner. Get your Cuddle Lifeguard On Duty or Cuddle Caddy if you have a question or concern or need assistance with anything during the Cuddle Party. Tears and laughter are both welcome. Respect people's privacy when sharing about Cuddle Party and do not gossip. Arrive on time. Be hygienically savvy. Water Lovers Beware...lmao Hydro massage is a type of massage based on the therapeutic use of warm water. The essence of hydro massage is applying massage techniques to the human body (thermally, mechanically, or chemically) through the water (which can be mineral, acerous or any other). Hydro massage helps to relax muscles, increase blood circulation, and relieve muscular pain and tension.Hydro massage therapy can help alleviate muscle and soft tissue injuries caused by low back pain, arthritis, chronic and acute pain, neck injuries, TMJ, sports injuries, pregnancy discomforts, Crohn’s Disease, insomnia, spondolylosis, multiple sclerosis, lupus, fibromyalgia, tendinitis and stress management and many more diseases and ailments.Hydro massage therapy is excellent especially with stress management techniques. History of Hydro massage....Hydro massage as a proven natural remedy has been known and used for years. The history of hydro therapy goes centuries back, as far as ancient Greece, but it was truly made popular by Romans, who introduced the benefits of bathing and massage to the countries they conquered. Roman public baths were always recognized as a great source of relaxation where members of high society and all free people alike could enjoy the benefits of hot and cold water as well as massage.The modern history on hydro-massage begins with a man named Tobias Smollet. He wrote an essay on the water cure, which remarked that the pumped water was good for "hysterical disorders, obstruction of the menses and all cases which it was necessary to make a revulsion from the head and to invite the juices downward". Since the sixties of the twentieth century, hydro massage has been gaining popularity. Every year more advanced hydro massage tools and equipment appear, making it easily available to many people, as these tools and equipment can be easily used at people's homes. Today the hydro-massage is still widely popular and used for the ailments and conditions listed and much, much more. It is one of the most requested and popular forms of massage. Hydro massage methods..There are many hydro massage methods, for instance, underwater manual massage, jet massage in the air, high-pressure water massage and many other. Hydro massage effect Hydro massage creates awareness of the body, reduces anxiety levels, gives a sense of well-being, improves the ability to monitor stress signals, gives a feeling of peace of mind, it also helps to alleviate discomfort caused by pregnancy, provides with a relaxed state of mental alertness, helps treat athletic or job related injuries, tension related headaches and post-operative rehabilitation. I KNOW YOU LADIES KNOW THE EFFECTS OF VISITING THE WATER PLANT BOARD DONT YA? SCOOT YOUR ASS UP UNDER YOUR TUB FAUCET AND LAY BACK AND EXPERIENCE THE MULTIPLE ORGASMIC RELIEF THAT OCCURS WHEN YOU ALLOW THE WATER TO RUN OVER YOUR CLIT...THIS WILL TAKE YOUR BREATH AWAY...I PROMISE... NOW FOR YOU MEN... Prostate massage and prostate milking are terms used to describe the massage or stimulation of the prostate gland (also referred to colloquially as the "P-spot", or the "male G-spot") in males, either for medical or sexual purposes. The prostate is a part of the sexual response cycle in males, and is a key contributor to male orgasm. Located adjacent to the rectum, it can be stimulated manually. Seminal fluids collected in the prostate are released during orgasm. SEXUAL PROSTRATE MASSAGE Done internally either by lubricated finger(s), a prostate massager or other medical instrument, prostate massage may result in ejaculation without any genital stimulation. The prostate can also be indirectly massaged externally through the perineum, although this may not be effective in the removal of fluid. No more pressure should be used than for rubbing an eyeball. The procedure is initially undertaken gently using the index finger and a latex glove by massaging the lobes on either side of the prostate, taking care not to rub vigorously on the nerves in the middle. If the prostate is full and stimulated sexually in some cases it may consciously and voluntarily be contracted, thereby emptying itself in the same way as during ejaculation but with none of the surrounding organs stimulated, without actually squeezing it digitally. Electroejaculation is a procedure in which nerves are stimulated via an electric probe, which is inserted into the rectum adjacent to the prostate. It is most commonly encountered in animal husbandry for the purpose of collecting samples for testing or breeding. Prostate milking is also encountered as part of sexual activities, particularly involving the use of sexual denial. Prostate massage, in the sexual context, can refer firstly to the stimulation of the prostate as part of conventional sexual activity - for example, as part of autoeroticism/masturbation, or as performed by a sexual partner on a male as part of normal, non-fetishistic sexual intercourse, in which case the purpose is predominantly the enhancement of sexual pleasure in the male - stimulation of the prostate and anus in itself, tends to increase the intensity of male ejaculation and orgasm; additionally, massaging the prostate tends to increase the volume of fluid that is accumulated in the prostate prior to ejaculation, thus increasing the volume of ejaculation and the pleasure that is associated with ejaculation. A second, alternative type of prostate massage, also referred to as "prostate milking", predominantly refers to the sexual practice, common within the BDSM community, of relieving the buildup of seminal fluids within the prostate, by discharging the fluid through massage, without the male experiencing orgasm. Prostate milking is commonly practised by/upon participants of a sexual fetish known as erotic sexual denial that involves abstention from orgasm and ejaculation for considerable periods of time (often many weeks or months). In such cases, the purpose of the massage is to temporarily reduce the level of sexual arousal in the male recipient by prompting the release of the prostatic fluid that was accumulated during the period of time in which the male had not ejaculated. The term "prostate milking" appears to carry a more specialized erotic meaning as compared to the general term of "prostate massage", since it specifically invokes a fetishism of the male seminal fluids (i.e. to "milk"); and as such, the term "prostate milking" is seldom used, if at all, outside of the communities which are involved in the sexual fetishes in question. When referring to stimulation of the prostate under more conventional circumstances (i.e. enhancement of the immediate orgasm as part of normal sex), the more general term "prostate massage" would probably be more appropriate. In the BDSM realm, the term "sissy milking" also refers specifically to prostate milking, as part of feminization, where 'feminized' males are popularly called "sissies" by others who share the fetish. THUS WE ENTER INTO..(NO PUN INTENDED) LMAO Anal sex is a form of human sexual behavior which encompasses many sexual acts involving the anus, anal cavity, sphincter valve and/or rectum. The term anal sex, however, is often restricted to anal intercourse: the insertion of the erect penis into the rectum. It is a form of sexual behavior considered to be comparatively high in risk, due to the vulnerability of the tissues and the septic nature of the anus. As the rectal mucosa provides little natural lubrication, a lubricant (such as a personal lubricant, for example) is most often required or preferred when penetrating the anus. Male-female In modern Western countries anal sex is reported as being a widely practiced, if still minoritarian, form of intercourse between men and women. In some cultures, receptive anal intercourse by heterosexual partners is widely accepted.One reason is that there is very low risk of unwanted pregnancy via unprotected anal intercourse (though this is not an absolute guarantee, because semen can leak from the anus, cross the perineum, and enter the vagina). Also, anal sex is sometimes seen as preserving female virginity because it leaves the hymen intact. Another reason is that the anus is considered to yield more tactile pleasure for the penis, being tighter than the vagina. The Renaissance poet Pietro Aretino advocated the practice in his Sonetti Lussuriosi (Lust Sonnets).Alternatively, the male may take the receptive role in heterosexual anal sex, usually aided by sex toys. The practice of pegging, in which a woman wearing a strap-on dildo penetrates her male partner, is gaining acceptance. Moreover, due to the proximity of the prostate gland to the rectum, it has been suggested that males may derive greater satisfaction in this manner than females. Anal sex and female virginity Though more often applied to first penetration,the concept of "technical virginity" is sometimes conceived as resting solely on vaginal penetration.In Norman Mailer's novel Harlot's Ghost, a character states that in Italy, an unmarried woman had to be "a maiden before and a martyr behind", implying that such women were obliged to submit to anal sex and that anal sex was painful. In other cases, first anal intercourse is conceived of as ending a separate virginity from first vaginal intercourse,with varying degrees of seriousness. In a Rolling Stone interview, comedian Sarah Silverman joked: "I didn't lose my virginity until I was twenty-six. Nineteen vaginally, but twenty-six what my boyfriend calls 'the real way.'" Frequency Determining the proportion of people that engage in anal sex, and the frequency with which they do so, is rather difficult. Sexual surveys tend to reflect whether those surveyed have ever had anal sex, or whether they have had anal sex in the last year, instead of distinguishing between those who have tried it one or a few times and those who regularly have anal sex. It is also thought that a reason for the difficulty is the difficulty of collecting data on a practice that remains highly stigmatized in many countries. According to a 2004 report, "Some research suggests that one in four heterosexuals in the US has tried anal sex and for one in 12, it is an occasional or episodic practice. Other surveys suggest that seven times as many women as gay men engage in anal intercourse, a figure reflecting the greater overall heterosexual population." Other anal sexual behavior A butt plug is one of many sex toys specifically designed for anal usage. Anal sex need not involve penile insertion. The active partner (male or female) may use appendages other than a penis, such as the fingers and a fist. The use of the mouth and tongue on the anus, called rimming or anilingus is also common, often in conjunction with other sexual acts. He or she might also use an artificial device, often a phallic reproduction (dildo) or one that is generally engineered specifically for anal penetration (butt plug). A female using a strap-on dildo to anally penetrate a male is often referred to as pegging.Due to the proximity of the prostate gland to the rectum, it has been suggested that males may achieve greater satisfaction in this manner than females. Prostate stimulation The prostate gland, also known as a "male G-spot", "P-spot", or "A-spot" can be stimulated during anal intercourse. Stimulation of the prostate gland can result in pleasurable sensations and can lead to a distinct type of orgasm in some cases. The prostate is located next to the rectum and is the larger, more developed male homologue to the Skene's glands, also known as the "G-spot"or "female prostate", which are located around the urethra and can be felt through the wall of the vagina. Risks Anal sex exposes participants to two principal dangers: infections, due to the high number of infectious microorganisms not found elsewhere on the body, and physical damage to the anus and the rectum due to their vulnerability. Recent reports have documented that risky behavior is on the rise among men who have sex with men. Likewise, among men who have sex with women, a 1992 study of socially and sexually active Puerto Rican men indicated that of the more than 40% who reported having anal sex with women, very few had used condoms. Cultural issues Historically, a number of cultures have recorded the practice of male-male anal intercourse. The males who participated in such relationships often did not do so exclusively, as participation in these male-male relationships did not preclude sex with women. Such relations have also been documented as taking place in houses of prostitution, which provided youths or young men. IM CUMMING ARE YOU? An orgasm (sexual climax) is the conclusion of the plateau phase of the sexual response cycle, and may be experienced by both males and females. Orgasm is characterized by intense physical pleasure, controlled by the involuntary, or autonomic, nervous system. It is accompanied by quick cycles of muscle contraction in the lower pelvic muscles, which surround the primary sexual organs and the anus. Orgasms are often associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in other areas of the body, a general euphoric sensation, and, frequently, vocalizations. After orgasm, humans often feel tired and a need to rest. This is attributed to the release of prolactin. Prolactin is a typical neuroendocrine response in depressed mood and irritation. Ongoing research at the University Medical Center of Groningen, the Netherlands, studies brain events that accompany orgasm in men and women. Techniques used involve Positron Emission Tomography (PET) and fMRI. Male and female brains act almost the same during orgasm. Brain scans showed that large parts of the cerebral cortex temporarily reduced their activity. Achieving orgasm One of the main ways of achieving orgasm is by direct or indirect stimulation of the penis or clitoris. Such stimulation can come from a variety of activities, including but not limited to sexual intercourse, manual masturbation, anal sex, oral sex, non-penetrative sex, a sensual vibrator, or an erotic electrostimulation. Orgasm may also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples or other erogenous zones. In the absence of physical stimulation, orgasm can be from psychological arousal alone, or during dreaming (a nocturnal emission or "wet dream" in males). Important in sexual stimulation are internal glands, called the Skene's glands in women and the prostate in men, two homologous structures. In common use, the term G-spot refers to these areas. The stimulation can come from receptive intercourse, fingering, fisting, or penetration with a dildo. With sufficient stimulation, the prostatic structure can also be "milked." Providing that there is no simultaneous stimulation of the penis, prostate milking can cause ejaculation without orgasm. When combined with penile stimulation, some men report that prostate stimulation increases the volume of their ejaculation. Vaginal orgasm The female body can achieve orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris and from stimulation of the G-spot. The Gräfenberg spot, or G-spot, is a small area behind the female pubic bone surrounding the urethra and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina. Many scientists believe that only certain women possess a G-spot. The G-spot orgasm is sometimes referred to as "vaginal," because it results from stimulation inside the vagina, including during sexual intercourse. However, only stimulation of the G-spot, and not other intravaginal stimulation, results in a "vaginal orgasm." The "two-orgasm theory" (the belief that in women there is a vaginal orgasm and a clitoral orgasm), has been criticized by feminists such as Ellen Ross and Rayna Rapp as a "transparently male perception of the female body".The concept of purely vaginal orgasm was first postulated by Sigmund Freud. In 1905, Freud argued that clitoral orgasm was an adolescent phenomenon, and upon reaching puberty the proper response of mature women changes to vaginal orgasms. While Freud provided no evidence for this basic assumption, the consequences of the theory were greatly elaborated, partly because many women felt inadequate when they could not achieve orgasm via vaginal intercourse that involved little or no clitoral stimulation.Recent discoveries about the size of the clitoris - it extends inside the body, around the vagina complicate or may invalidate attempts to distinguish clitoral vs. vaginal orgasms. Recent anatomical research shows that there are nerves connecting intravaginal tissues and the clitoris.This, with the anatomical evidence that the internal part of the clitoris is a much larger organ than previously thought, could explain credible reports of orgasms in women who have undergone clitorectomy as part of female circumcision. The link between the clitoris and the vagina is evidence that the clitoris is the 'seat' of the female orgasm and is far more wide-spread than the visible part most people associate with it. But it is possible that some women have more extensive clitoral tissues and nerves than others, and so that some women can achieve orgasm only by direct stimulation of the external part of the clitoris. Anal stimulation Anal orgasm is an orgasm brought on by anal stimulation, such as from anal sex, an inserted finger, or a sex toy. Anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or "vaginal" orgasm, though for many others the distinction is less clear. In both sexes pleasure can be derived from the nerve endings around the anus and the anus itself. Hence, anal-oral contact can still be pleasurable without stimulation of the clitoris. Jack Morin has claimed that anal orgasm has nothing to do with the prostate orgasm, although the two are often confused. Breast and nipple stimulation A breast orgasm is a female orgasm that is triggered from the stimulation of a woman's breast.Not all women experience this effect when the breasts are stimulated; however, some women claim that the stimulation of the breast area during sexual intercourse and foreplay, or just the simple act of having their breasts fondled, has created mild to intense orgasms. According to one study that questioned 213 women, 29% of them had experienced a breast orgasm at one time or another, This shows that it is not common, but it is possible. An orgasm is believed to occur in part because of the hormone oxytocin, which is produced in the body during sexual excitement and arousal. It has also been shown that oxytocin is produced when an individual's nipples are stimulated and become erect. Spontaneous orgasms Orgasms can be spontaneous, seeming to occur with no direct stimulation. Occasionally, orgasms can occur during sexual dreams. The first orgasm of this type was reported among people who had spinal cord injury (SCI). Although SCI very often leads to loss of certain sensations and altered self-perception, a person with this disturbance is not deprived of sexual feelings such as sexual arousal and erotic desires. Thus some individuals are able to initiate orgasm by mere mental stimulation. Some non-sexual activity may result in a spontaneous orgasm. The best example of such activity is a release of tension that unintentionally involves slight genital stimulation, like rubbing of the seat of the bicycle against genitals during riding, exercising, when pelvic muscles are tightened or when yawning or sneezing. It was also discovered that some anti-depressant drugs may provoke spontaneous climax as a side effect.There is no accurate data for how many patients who were on treatment with antidepressant drugs experienced spontaneous orgasm, as most were unwilling to acknowledge the fact. Multiple orgasms In some cases, women either do not have a refractory period or have a very short one and thus can experience a second orgasm, and perhaps further ones, soon after the first. After the first, subsequent climaxes may be stronger or more pleasurable as the stimulation accumulates. For some women, their clitoris and nipples are very sensitive after climax, making additional stimulation initially painful. There are sensational reports of women having too many orgasms, including an unauthenticated claim that a young British woman has them constantly throughout the day, whenever she experiences the slightest vibration. It is possible for a man to have an orgasm without ejaculation (dry orgasm) or to ejaculate without reaching orgasm. Some men have reported having multiple consecutive orgasms, particularly without ejaculation. Males who experience dry orgasms can often produce multiple orgasms, as the refractory period, is reduced.Some males are able to masturbate for hours at a time, achieving orgasm many times.In recent years, a number of books have described various techniques to achieve multiple orgasms. Most multi-orgasmic men (and their partners) report that refraining from ejaculation results in a far more energetic post-orgasm state.Additionally, some men have also reported that this can produce more powerful ejaculatory orgasms when they choose to have them. One dangerous technique is to put pressure on the perineum, about halfway between the scrotum and the anus, just before ejaculating to prevent ejaculation. This can, however, lead to retrograde ejaculation, i.e. redirecting semen into the urinary bladder rather than through the urethra to the outside. It may also cause long term damage due to the pressure put on the nerves and blood vessels in the perineum. Men who have had prostate or bladder surgery, for whatever reason, may also experience dry orgasms because of retrograde ejaculation. Other techniques are analogous to reports by multi-orgasmic women indicating that they must relax and "let go" to experience multiple orgasms. These techniques involve mental and physical controls over pre-ejaculatory vasocongestion and emissions, rather than ejaculatory contractions or forced retention as above. Anecdotally, successful implementation of these techniques can result in continuous or multiple "full-body" orgasms.Gentle digital stimulation of the prostate, seminal vesicles, and vas deferens provides erogenous pleasure that sustains intense emissions orgasms for some men. A dildo device (the Aneros) claims to stimulate the prostate and help men reach these kinds of orgasms. Many men who began masturbation or other sexual activity prior to puberty report having been able to achieve multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms. Young male children are capable of having multiple orgasms due to the lack of refractory period until they reach their first ejaculation. In female children it is always possible, even after the onset of puberty. This capacity generally disappears in males with the subject's first ejaculation. Some evidence indicates that orgasms of men before puberty are qualitatively similar to the "normal" female experience of orgasm, suggesting that hormonal changes during puberty have a strong influence on the character of male orgasm. A number of studies have pointed to the hormone prolactin as the likely cause of male refractory period. Because of this, there is currently an experimental interest in drugs which inhibit prolactin, such as cabergoline (also known as Cabeser, or Dostinex). Anecdotal reports on cabergoline suggest it may be able to eliminate the refractory period altogether, allowing men to experience multiple ejaculatory orgasms in rapid succession. At least one scientific study supports these claims.Cabergoline is a hormone-altering drug and has many potential side effects. It has not been approved for treating sexual dysfunction. Another possible reason may be an increased infusion of the hormone oxytocin. Furthermore, it is believed that the amount by which oxytocin is increased may affect the length of each refractory period. A scientific study to successfully document natural, fully ejaculatory, multiple orgasms in an adult man was conducted at Rutgers University in 1995. During the study, six fully ejaculatory orgasms were experienced in 36 minutes, with no apparent refractory period.It can also be said that in some cases, the refractory period can be reduced or even eliminated through the course of puberty and on into adulthood. Later, P. Haake et al. observed a single male individual producing multiple orgasms without elevated prolactin response. Definitions of "orgasm" There is some debate whether certain types of sexual sensation should be accurately classified as 'orgasm', including female orgasms caused by G-spot stimulation alone, and the demonstration of extended or continuous orgasms lasting several minutes or even an hour. The question centers around clinical definition of orgasm. Orgasm is usually defined in a clinical context strictly by the muscular contractions involved. In these and similar cases, the sensations experienced are subjective and do not necessarily involve the involuntary contractions characteristic of orgasm. However, the sensations in both sexes are extremely pleasurable and are often felt throughout the body, causing a mental state that is often described as transcendental, and with vasocongestion and associated pleasure comparable to that of a full contractionary orgasm. For this reason, there are views on both sides as to whether these can be accurately defined as orgasms. Purpose of female orgasm The clitoris is homologous to the penis; that is, they both develop from the same embryonic structure. Stephen Jay Gould and other researchers have claimed that the clitoris is vestigial in females, and that female orgasm serves no particular evolutionary function. Proponents of this hypothesis, such as Dr. Elisabeth Lloyd, point to the relative difficulty of achieving female orgasm through vaginal sex, the limited evidence for increased fertility after orgasm and the lack of statistical correlation between the capacity of a woman to orgasm and the likelihood that she will engage in intercourse. Sensation As a man nears orgasm during stimulation of the penis, he feels an intense and highly pleasurable pulsating sensation of neuromuscular euphoria. These pulses begin with a throb of the anal sphincter and travel to the tip of the penis. They eventually increase in speed and intensity as the orgasm approaches, until a final "plateau" of pleasure sustained for several seconds, the orgasmDuring orgasm, semen is ejaculated and may continue to be ejaculated for a few seconds after the euphoric sensation gradually tapers off. It is believed that the exact feeling of "orgasm" varies from one man to another, but most agree that it is highly pleasurable. In women A typical woman's orgasm lasts much longer than that of a man. It is preceded by erection of the clitoris and moistening of the opening of the vagina. Some women exhibit a sex flush, a reddening of the skin over much of the body due to increased blood flow to the skin. As a woman nears orgasm, the clitoral glans moves inward under the clitoral hood, and the labia minora (inner lips) become darker. As orgasm becomes imminent, the outer third of the vagina tightens and narrows, while overall the vagina lengthens and dilates and also becomes congested from engorged soft tissue.The uterus then experiences muscular contractions. A woman experiences full orgasm when her uterus, vagina, anus, and pelvic muscles undergo a series of rhythmic contractions. Most women find these contractions very pleasurable. Recently, researchers from the University Medical Center of Groningen, the Netherlands, showed that it is possible to objectively recognize orgasms just by the specific frequencies of these contractions (abstract). After orgasm, the clitoris re-emerges from under the clitoral hood, and returns to its normal size, typically within ten minutes. In tantric sex Tantric sex is the ancient Indian spiritual tradition of sexual practices. It attributes a different value to orgasm than traditional cultural approaches to sexuality. Some practitioners of tantric sex aim to eliminate orgasm from sexual intercourse by remaining for a long time in the pre-orgasmic and non-emission state. Advocates of this, such as Rajneesh, claim that it eventually causes orgasmic feelings to spread out to all of one's conscious experience.Some advocates of tantric and neotantric sex claim that Western culture focuses too much on the goal of climactic orgasm, which reduces our ability to have intense pleasure during other moments of the sexual experience. Eliminating this enables a richer, fuller and more intense connection

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Entry for March 03, 2008 HOW HOT DO YOU LIKE IT? HOT WAX FETISH For a first foray into the realm of bdsm many lovers choose to use wax. It is a very distinctive and unique sensation. One people usually love or hate. I thought I'd put together a few tips for beginners so they can do this with a maximum amount of safety. First a word of caution. Wax can burn very badly. If you want to care for you partner in a way conducive to your being able to play again, you need to be careful. TYPE OF CANDLES and WAX There are many different types of candles available. The degree of heat of the dripping wax varies depending on the materials from which the candle is constructed. Beeswax is the hottest, and something that a beginner should avoid. I would recommend that a person not use it at all, but some experienced players do use this type of candle. It can cause second or third degree burns as there is often honey left in the beeswax which gives the candles their distinctive pleasant smell, but also holds the heat. Other types of materials also cause the candles to burn hotter. You may see information that says the color of the candle makes a difference, and that is not actually true. Additives do make a difference, but the ones to watch out for are hardeners such as those used in dripless candles. Often the most expensive candles are the ones that burn with the highest degree of heat, for a beginner you will want to start with cheap, paraffin based ones. In my experience whether the candle is white or red or yellow actually makes little difference. My favorites for someone just starting out are the novena candles available in the Hispanic section of most grocery stores (at least those in larger areas). They come in tall glass containers, and you can buy them without the religious pictures. The wax is very cool compared to most others, so a good choice for a first time. Another possibility are the emergency candles sold for times your electricity goes out. They too are usually very low temperature. WORKING WITH WAX The best way to see how a candle feels is to test it out on yourself. Allpeople do not have the same degree of pain tolerance but it will give you an idea. Light the candle, making sure you have a good place to set it down. If you have the novena candles the container is built in, if you are using a taper candle, make sure you have a holder that the candle fits snugly into, and the base is wide enough to avoid easy tipping. Never forget that you are literally playing with fire, and the few extra cents spent on a good candle holder are little weighed against a fire from a tipped candle. Oh... I always have something nearby just in case a fire does get started, after all, if you have a bound and helpless person under your care, you will want to do your best honor their trust. A small fire extinguisher is not that expensive. At the very least a container of water and something to use smothering the fire should be nearby. Okay, that said back to testing. Light the candle and set it aside to burn for a few moments. This will allow a small pool of wax to build up around the burning wick. Once you see a pool there hold your forearm out and holding the candle about a foot from your arm, tip it until one or two drops fall onto your arm. Use the sensitive skin on your wrist or elbow to get a feel for how hot this candle is. I find the pain from wax to be a unique feeling. Very intense, but concentrated in a very small area. It happens to be one of my favorite kinds of painplay. Once you know what kind of candle you are going to use (and you might choose a couple, a cooler one to begin with, graduating to a hotter one) you will be ready to experiment with your partner. Many people find that being tied and blindfolded during wax play heightensthe sensations, not knowing where the next drop will fall, and being unable to move away from it can add a great deal to the erotic sensations. Where to begin dropping the wax is mostly a matter of preference. But I would recommend, especially in the beginning, starting on the belly or back. Drop a few drops and carefully note your partner's reaction. You can vary the heat of the drops by holding the candle lower or higher. Again, make sure you have a good idea of just how hot this is. Burns, especially on sensitive tissue are not usually much fun. I have found in my experience that some of the most sensitive areas on both sexes are the inner thighs, the area of the belly that joins the hip, the nipples, and the genitals. I begin in a less sensitive area, moving to an occasionally drop on a highly sensitive one. Remember that if you drop wax on top of wax, it will hold the heat in and possibly cause burns, so be careful when you layer. REMOVING THE WAX Peeling bits of wax off, is almost as much fun as dropping it. As it pulls away from the skin, the sensation is again intense, and running a feather or fingernails or even a tongue over this sensitized skin is a very sexy way to prolong the 'waxing' session. Wax cleanup is a pain, and I always put down a shower curtain that I cover with an old sheet, and have my partner lay on that. I do not want to ruin my sheets and wax is not washable, so I use an old one I can just toss after awhile. Some people advocate oiling the skin before you drop the wax, this makes cleanup especially areas with hair, as in pubic areas or the chests of some males. This will make the cleanup much easier, as the wax does not adhere, but you must remember the oil will make the wax seem a bit hotter, and you cannot do the trick with the pulling away of the wax. I have seen people use vampire gloves or those pet brushes sometimes used for sensation play, as an easier way to take the wax off, they work well, and do add another twist to your session. Remember, wax has the potential to damage your partner... play safe. NOW ONTO THE THOUGHTS OF BEING INVOLVED WITH A SUBMISSIVE Above all else the Dominant cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift. He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character. In times of trouble, a Master Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own pleasure. To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust his direction. He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and depend on. He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in those differences. When it comes time to teach his submissive her lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. He would never set a trap for his submissive so that he could punish her when she falls into it. Never does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand. He is a careful guide, with safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. Using pain is a specific method of foreplay used to enhance the sexual pleasure and experience. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights. He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they. He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to him out the want of pleasing him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him. He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Openminded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Commands for my Submissives Silence: Lower eyes and be silent. Present: Remove clothes, kneel with knees spread wide, back straight and head up, and eyes lowered, wrists crossed behind your back then say; "Presenting Master". Wait patiently for examination or instructions. Restrict: Simply cross wrists behind back. Rest: Kneeling & Sit on heels, legs spread and hands (palms up) on top of legs. Submit: Kneeling & Sit on heels, lean forward until head touches the ground. Place arms overhead with palms up and wrists crossed. Expose (or Gorean) Submit: Kneel then sit back on heels, lean back until your back rests on the ground and keeping legs wide apart, place your hands over your head with wrists crossed. Resume: Cancels Previous Command. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Basic rules Always ask permission to cum.... Never be disrespectful to your master or OTHERS. Do not submit to be passed around as a sexual favor between Doms. Use your safe word to stop unwanted activity. We can talk about why after. You will never be punished for using it. Always respect the female Domme.... always address her as Mistress. Remain constantly alert attempting to anticipate your Masters desire. Follow instructions exactly and immediately. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Safety rules Do not allow permanent injury, scaring, cutting, burning. Never leave nipple clamps on for more than 15 minutes. Allow blood to circulate. Never allow yourself to be struck on ovaries or kidneys. Always use the safe word if suspended and limbs become cold or numb. Never allow yourself to be hit with whip or crop on the tailbone, head or neck. DOMINATION THOUGHTS ...IS IT A PASSING FANTASY OR ARE YOU SERIOUS? LeatherViews The free weekly column of serious leather sex information and advice. Feel free to pass this on to a friend, or better yet, ask them to subscribe. To get your own FREE subscription go to http://www.LeatherViews.com/myezine.htm. If this column was forwarded to you, please come to our website and subscribe... for Issue number 35 Monday, August 12, 2002 Things To Know about Training a Slave by Jack Rinella At the recent Ms. World Contest my friend Beverly, who loves to sell books at her vendor booth, asked me to name the title of a "good" slave training manual. "Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual" is unfortunately out of print, but I hear it will soon return. Obviously you can also consult my two books, "The Master‚s Manual" and "The Compleat Slave." I also recommend Guy Baldwin's "SlaveCraft." In the meantime here's my scope on it, with apologies to those who aren't into D/s as deeply as some of us. Know what you Want | The Real Dynamic | Inspire | Communicate your Desires | Teach Technique |Reward Often Communicate your Feelings | Explain when you Train | Punish when Necessary | Show and Share your Pride 1. Know what you want. A master must be able to inspire confidence in others because he or she knows what they want, which implies that you know yourself and have scoped out what you want your slave to be and to do. You're going to have to share your fantasy master/slave relationship with your prospects anyway, so this first step in training must happen if you want to find someone to agree to help you achieve your goals. I wrote my expectations out, refining them over weeks and then years until it was fairly comprehensive. Putting your fantasy on paper will help you to know it, and share it better. Be careful, though, since what is written will seldom, if ever, become what is lived. It is only a tool, and has neither the power of law nor scripture. Let it live, grow and change with you and your understanding of what you really want. 2. Understand the real dynamic. Master/slave relationships are best built on principles, not rules and regulations. Getting someone to do something, for instance, works in the short run, getting them to obey is better for the long term. If you pile high the rules they will stifle both of you and be quickly discarded anyway. Well thought-out principles, on the other hand, will stand the test of time. Remember, too, that things are always what they appear to be. What is he or she thinking? What is not being said? What are the underlying issues that are affecting your relationship? When it comes to relationships, superficiality is our worse enemy. The real dynamic here is that this is a relationship not a scene and if you treat it as a scene, it will be over in the morning. 3. Inspire. Assuming that you have found the right person, which is not easy and assumptions are dangerous, you and he or she have to agree that what you want is what both of you want. Together you must come to a mutually-shared vision of what it means to be a master, a slave, and a master and slave in relationship with each other. It's for that reason that knowing what you want is so important, since the vision you have you must be able to share. Slaves, of course, have the same responsibility. Their task, really, is to find a master who will understand their vision for life and own it as his own as well. Returning to the idea of dynamic, each is going to empower the other to attain their own goals. 4. Communicate your desires. This step covers both the grand picture and the devil that is in the details. What does it mean to "clean the bathroom"? How clean do you want it and what will it look like when it is cleaned to your satisfaction? How should the slave stand? More importantly, why does the master want the slave to stand that way? Share your desires from their depths. Give reasons, purposes, and explanations to the best of your ability as to why you want such and such done in a certain way. Let them know what you‚re thinking, feeling, and desiring and why this certain detail is so important. If it's not important then get over it and let it go. 5. Teach technique. Never let a teachable moment pass without sharing the lesson. Remind the slave as to what is needed on his or her part. Say helpful things like "Breathe. It'll make the pain less intense," or "This is the way I like my drink mixed." Unless you give clear instructions you will never get what you want. The master is required to communicate his or her desires. Masters who expect their submissives to be mind readers are asking for failure. 6. Reward often. The master/slave relationship, like all other relationships, is a two-way street. Both of you have to find pleasure in it. Unless the slave realizes real benefits from his or her service to you, there will be no incentive to continue. Reward verbally, especially when it‚s least expected. Praise often. Use small gestures, touches, and phrases to slip in compliments and thanks often. Pat his or her ass. Tell him he's done a good job. Say you liked what you liked. Allow them their pleasures as well, be it sexual release or cuddle time or a fancy dinner out. Give to them liberally and they will return your gift with love and devotion. 7. Communicate your feelings. I really do have to emphasize the mind-reading problem. Not only is it imperative to reward verbally, but it is equally necessary to let your slave know what is wrong and what behaviors you wished changed. Be careful not to do so in anger. Instead establish regular times when you can both discuss the relationship and how each of your needs can be met. The "your" in the last sentence is plural. Both of you have needs and all of them need to be addressed, if not satisfied. 8. Explain when you train. We are dealing with humans here, folks. Though there is a component of training that can be rote, giving reasons will both reinforce the activity and make it more meaningful to the slave. This step could also be written as Train holistically." Let your training include the mind as well as the spirit and the body and every other aspect of human life. 9. Punish when necessary. Punishment is never to be done for pleasure. You can take your sadistic pleasure anytime you want. Punishment is meant to be disincentive to repetition of the activity. Make it fit the crime, so to speak and make it rather immediate. Once administered let it be done, and done forever. Never punish in anger. If you're angry, figure out why and let your anger be channeled somewhere else in a constructive way. 10. Show and share your pride. Let others know how happy you are with your property. It is a high form of praise and an excellent reward. Yes, they will blush but will be pleased anyway. Believe me, slaves need to be pleased. In fact without giving them their share of pleasure there will be no slavery. Without slavery, there will be no master

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Dreaming mind, running mind Outta sight but not of mind... Thru the dimensions I find you there, All alone no ones there.... We talk and share what knowledge we know, At the table of our masters home... Haunting chills, goose bumps still The very mention of time stood still... My phantom my friend, Youre always there no more worry no more fears
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