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This was written by a man on a different website. I have adjusted it to be more fitting for all situations as he already had over 300 comments in just 3 days saying this fit for all situations.
"This subject has come up in my life a lot recently, and tends to make me rant a little, so I am writing about it.
I am talking about the way some men treat others. I am sure there are those who will say it's none of my business how they interact with people, but I am here to tell you it is my business. The behavior of each of us affects how we all are perceived. When someone's actions affect how men in general are viewed, I have a right to speak up about it.
Every time a man approaches a potential partner here with a crude demand for sexual service, it propagates the stereotype that men are selfish assholes that think only with their cocks.
As a result of this kind of behavior, those of us that treat people respectfully, care about our partners, and want to get to know people have to go above and beyond to prove that we're “not like all the other guys”.
As men, we're letting a very loud, very obnoxious minority distort the way we are all viewed.
Most of us know this already, but some don't seem to: We're not entitled to anything.
Nobody owes us sex, no matter what their orientation, gender, kink or role is. Nobody owes us any explanation for why they don't want to play with us. Nobody owes us any sympathy because we can't find someone. Nobody in the community owes us anything at all, beyond basic respect. It doesn't matter if we call ourselves tops, doms, or Lord Master Supercock the Almighty – until someone has agreed otherwise, they deserve to be addressed with dignity and respect.
When someone says “No” to us, that doesn't give us the right to call into question their orientation, their submissiveness/domliness, or demand the reasons why not. As the one asking, is always up to us to offer a potential play partner a compelling reason to play with us, and not up to them to come up with excuses for why they don't want to.
For those of us that do choose to treat all people respectfully, that's great, but it isn't enough. We can't stay silent when we see or hear of other guys in the community acting like demanding whiny spoiled brats. We need to let them know that their abusive behavior affects us all, and that it's not OK with us."
From Red
· This also applies to women. We need to treat men with respect as well. When we see other women treating men without respect, call them out. It is not ok.
· This applies not just in the bedroom, but in everyday life as well. We all need to step up to the plate and treat each other with respect – PERIOD. If you cannot, you will always be little boys and little girls.
