Hi Im Brett, I was in the lifestle for many years to abandon it for a 10 year Vanilla relationship! LOL! I am back & looking looking for someone who is, submisive, open minded, highly inteligent, experimental, and a willingness to grow your and my needs within this type of relationship! For me, the lifestyle is not a belief or even a way of life ( Despite the dictionary meaning of lifestyle. ), but as a road map in which together those pathes can be chosen consensually and enjoyed most fully, leading us to greater awareness and understanding of ourselves! It is being truest to human nature! Modern instatutions fight this nature in there guidelines and I think is why people have such difficulties with lasting, loving relationships!­ Submission,trust and love are gifts of the heart, mind and soul! I feel great satisfactoin in accepting those gifts and do well to meet the emotional and phyisical desires of the barer of these gifts with trust and respect! Master Brett BDSM is not a religion, but it can lead to a spiritual awakening. As you learn more about yourself and your partner and you are playing in trust and comfort with the ability to go into your Top or bottom headspace, your many layers of self-protection are broken down and you can freely travel to a spiritual place within yourselves, to that most vulnerable place at the core of your being. Entering into your spiritual core puts you at one with yourself and your partner; it cleanses you from the frustrations and stresses of the outer world, and it creates an incredible peace, exhilaration, and freedom, making the world around you that much clearer. "Twenty years from now you will be more disapointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." - Mark Twain Welcome! First and for most I would like to mention that this to be a place where you can be yourself with other people and share your interest! Whether you be Dom or sub you should always be yourself! It is a quality which brings others to long for you! I encourage that you ask questions and chat with one another and explore your desires! As for haters! There are a couple here on this page yet they do not remove themselves from my friends list! This in its self says a lot! I do not have a problem with it as long as they do not venture outside the realm of constructive arguement with the people that have joined here or myself! I will not tolerate abuse and you will be blocked if you can not behave! In fact I welcome such people and together, perhaps,we can clear up the misconceptions they have! Which brings me to my next point!...... to be cont! ".Master."'s URL http://tagged.com/secretf3tish What Im Into! What I am into? Photography, more specificly Erotic Art, a whole lot of Kink & Bondage ( Shibari & ROPE bondage is a passion) and much more! I was In the past an acomplishided, working musician and expect it will be becomeing a part of my life again! I am very much into the fashion end of the lifestyle and that extends from my days in the entertainment biz! Tips I cant take credit for these tips as they come courtesy of a Tagged Friend Master Jack! I Could not agree more and engourage you read them!~~ TIP's I will give you (4) tips here to always keep in the back of your mind at all time when looking to get into this lifestyle that will help you keep your journey a good one. #1. Keep your mind and options open until "YOUR" ready to lock it in on one thing. Try to meet and have conversations with many different Dom men. It is important that you not allow any one particular man (or woman, or couple) to monopolize your time and attention. Remember that the slightly more reserved people are often the better people to become involved with in the long run. #2. Given that the competition for new subs and slaves can occasionally be intense (by the way, don't let me scare you too much on this point), keep in mind that the person who shows the most aggressiveness in meeting you face to face may not be the best person for you to become involved wit #3. More to the point, it would be very dumb of you to depend upon only one source of information, no matter how "convincing" or "authoritative" that (usually male) source of information tries to appear. Try to read info from many different authors as well as talk to others within the lifestyle as well. #4. You are under absolutely no obligation to act in a submissive manner towards a man until after the two of you have negotiated and came to an understanding of what your about to do. If some jerk tries to insist that you call him "Sir" or "Master," or tries to give you orders, or touches you in an overly familiar way, or says that you're not being properly submissive when you haven't previously agreed to be submissive specifically to him, your "creep alarm" should start ringing loudly -- and you should head elsewhere, fast.