I search and seek for a balance of both vanilla and BDSM worlds, ( A lady in public and a submissive to me in private). I have been in the lifestyle for over 15 years, and have experienced the majority of ups and downs. What I am looking for is a submissive/slave wife. So that means no online or casual. I would love for us to know more about each other.(seriously). No, I do not believe you learn to be friends "after" marriage or after you commit to a relationship, If and when I marry I want to marry my best friend, not some stranger. If all you want to discuss is what I will do to you in BDSM please move on. You should be interested in me as a person, first. We already know we have BDSM in common, and trust me, we will be going into "intense" detail when that time comes. For it is a very necessary and important part that has to be focused on, that is why we need to know and be comfortable with each other first.
A lot of you do not seem to understand what I mean by "relationship" so before you read on let me help you. Definition of a relationship for me: It means growing and changing and living through the good times as well as the bad. It means loving each other even when it’s difficult. I want your tenderness and affection, your kindness and your strength. I want to be there for you when you feel on top of the world, and I want to be there when your spirit is crushed. I want to feel protected and secure in your love and to trust you at all times. I want you to feel safe with me and never to be ashamed to talk about your fears and weaknesses. I want to encourage you to stand up for your beliefs and always to do what is right. I want to stand beside each other as we go through life together. NO CYBER LOVE PLEASE. You can't love someone you don't know. And you certainly can't trust them, and you definitely need trust for this lifestyle. Hope this helps.
What I want is monogamous relationship in which you are content being mine and mine alone. I want a woman who likes to please her mate in any way possible. A very affectionate person, one who can sit on a couch and have long make out sessions, someone who is not stuffy or conservative, who is spontaneous, can pack a bag, jump in the car, and just go driving for the weekend. She likes to stay in bed and play on cold rainy weekends. A woman who will cook, clean, do laundry, but at the same time, will come to the defense of her Master at a moments notice if need be. One who is sensitive, kind and caring. I feel open displays of affection are important. I want a relationship, in which we give to each other freely, in a Dominant/Master -submissive/slave setting without conditions. When I am in love with a person I show it and wish for the same from her. I want a very attentive person, romantic, very "touchy/feelly" I am a Dom/Master, but I am a man and this will be a relationship, so yes I do want romance. When people see us they can see we are in love. I want a woman who will put my needs first, as I will hers, be attentive and loves to kiss and touch. A woman who will spoil me with a lot of little things, like always wanting to hold my hand wherever we go, who will not be afraid to share with me, show me her emotions, and is woman enough to let me do the same. I want a woman that will gladly go the extra mile and takes pleasure in doing it. Someone that wants to be a submissive/slave to a very loving Dom/Master, who I derives a lot of pleasure from doing for her mate. I resent those that call this "kink", this is a lifestyle, and the one I’ve chosen that I think brings about a deeper kind of love and trust than vanilla. Honesty and loyalty are very important to me. You must at least be in your 30's, and no more than 65 (this could be negotiated depending on the person) I love women who are "bi" or at least "bi curious" Sometimes I might use other women for training purposes, THERE ARE DIFFERENT DEGREES AND WAYS OF DOING THIS. So don't be so close minded and think the only way to accomplish this is through intercourse...it may just be a touch, might be her only touching you in front of another, might just make you "take care of yourself" on camera while another watches..it depends on the individual, I may not use this avenue at all. I know people are different and once I get to know you, I can tell you how I would use this portion of training in regards to "you", or if I even use it at all. This is not set in stone. I am not about to pass up someone who would be a good fit for me as a submissive/slave on this point. I have PLENTY of other ways to train....so CHILL OUT. hell, if you can get past that PIC of mine you can get past anything....lol Are you still here? great! LOL…
What you will get: I am a sensual Dom/ Master., You will find your submissive/slave may be a gift but so are my direction, dominance, guidance, heavy hand, and security, all of the promises that come with my collar. If I choose I will by means of grabbing hands, binding ropes locked cuffs, spanking, or flogger then own you it is a right you have given me and one that I will use. I like to sexually tease. I use paddles, belts, crops, etc. I am not gentle in spanking, but I do go slowly to build up your tolerance. I do use humiliation, but not in a form that degrades, when we get to know each other and we are into the BDSM discussion phase, I will shed a little more light on this. I am very much into bondage, rituals and tasks…. I'm creative and adventurous in play; boredom will definitely not be in our game plan. I'm very nurturing and caring, I love to really take care of my submissive/slave in "every" way...to the fullest extent. I am extremely careful, so you must do exactly what I say or I will end it. I mean the whole relationship, no one gets hurt around me. I am a man who knows what he wants. I am a very strong man, confident in what I want and have no problem in saying what I want or how I feel. I can be very strict and hard at times, especially at first, until you are trained and learn how to serve me, BDSM in a lifestyle relationship has many many facets to it, and a lot do not understand this. At first, we get to know each other. This is the stage were women misunderstand the most. Just because I’m being nice and kind does not mean I’m not a strict Dom. I don’t play net games, so I’m not going to put on some "dom." roll for a total stranger, you will be treated just like any other person I am first meeting. The next stage is yet a little more difficult, especially for the first time submissive/slave. This is where we have decided to try this as a couple. This is where you will have your "interview" and we will be discussing BDSM in great detail and you will be physically tested. This means our lives are basically split in two. We still growing as a girlfriend/boyfriend, but now the Dom/Master -submissive/slave relationship is entered into it, so you have got to be able to function in more than one realm. It’s kind of like being four different people. The third stage is when we have blended both worlds effectively together. There is no set timing for these stages, could take a day, a week, a month, it depends on how we relate to each other. But if we are supposed to be in this for the long haul…what’s the hurry?

IMPORTANT INSTRUCTIONS:

1. First of all please approach me as a man and not as a Dom/Master. Until you are collared we are two equal people. I DO NOT want to hear how submissive/slave are supposed to be and how they are supposed to behave, I already know all this. Also, my name is not Honey, Baby, etc. The excuse I hear is that Dom. like to be called this...do not stick me in some category I am an individual and I do NOT like to be called this, just say "hello" and start talking.
2. I am into ANY color, which means I AM into interracial relationships. So in other words, please DO NOT bore me with what color you are, how many black people you’ve been with, your opinions on black people or anything about your race, that’s a waste of time for me. I am not a piece of clothing, not something you pick to match the color of your eyes are hair, you should want to contact me because you think we can relate as "people" not colors. I hope that takes care of that! HAVE A PIC FOR ME TO RESPOND. (It’s only fair, I have one on profile). FULL BODY SHOT PICTURES ONLY which are no less than six months old, headshot will be immediately deleted.
3. A lot of guys think being a "brat" is cute, well I’m not into those either, it waste a lot of good training time. I detest constant arguing, bitching back and forth and constantly being questioned or challenged on what I command. You want to be in charge, become a Dom and don’t bother me. I have much better uses for our time. What? Too bossy for you? Isn't that what you wanted? LOL Favorite Quote: "kneeling naked, her nipples leashed and held tightly by me, as she kneels between my legs, servicing my cock while I stroke her hair and tell her what a good little girl she is".
4. Once we have decided to meet don’t assume wearing just any old thing is OK. Ask what would be appropriate, as this is a part of your interview process.

I am not interested in a cyber relationship, only in real time. I am D/D free and so is the submissive/slave I have yet to meet. I am available in all ways and so is my submissive/slave. She understands the needs, emotions and desires of a Dom/Master, and is comfortable with the responsibilities of being my submissive/slave. I seek only a monogamous relationship, a complete relationship, in which kink is the "icing on the cake" but not the primary focus. This will be our journey. Contact me if you are interested and add me to your favorites Let’s begin.
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