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Great news. I tried C + F with a girl I've known
for over a year as a friend but would never dream
I asked her advice about fashion and took her
shopping with me for clothes. I busted on her the
whole time about looking at my ass, etc. So a few
days later I get a call. "What do you like to
drink? How 'bout I stop by with some beers and
Between our second and third lovemaking sessions
she apologizes for taking up my time, and
confesses that she's not really looking for a
relationship right now. Hopes I'm not mad. Pure
gold, man. This woman is ten years younger and the
highest paid stripper at a local bar. I'm broke,
short, bald, cocky, and funny. Go figure. Thanks a
million. Don't print my name, but DO send me your
advanced class ASAP!
Yeah, bummer... isn't it?
While you might not have found the ultimate
"wife" material, it doesn't sound to me like you
mind the free fashion advice (oh, and free BEER).
Why is it that the highest paid dancer at a
local bar... one who has literally hundreds and
hundreds of men around her that would pay her, buy
her anything, and worship her like a queen...
would rather buy beer and bring it to an older,
short, bald, cocky, funny guy and then say "I'm
sorry if I'm wasting your time... I'm not looking
for a relationship"?
Because she doesn't need a clingy, loser,
psycho, WUSSY, sketchy jackass who calls her 47
times a day to ask her what she's doing and say "I
miss you, when can I see you again".
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
I would be most grateful for some help/advice if
you could assist. = I am bi sexual fem women,
and have recently met a beautiful women, my type
very fem, and I really like this women. She has
been hurt by men in the past, and is just going
through a phase in her life at the moment where
she needs to be with women. She has been with 2
other women including me before.
To cut a long story short, I dont know how to
charm her, make her like me more and become a
magnet towards her?. I'm not chasing after her
because i suspect that most men have done this
before, and because I am a women i want to play it
cool. She has already indicated that she wants
fun then see what happens, but I understand that
nothing could ever come of it because her family
and friends dont know she is bi, and she comes
from a relatively posh family.
Have you got any suggestions you could give me
Thank you for spending time in reading the
above, and I await to hear from you in great
You know, why is it that when you finally get
an email you WISH was longer, it says "To cut a
long story short"?
OK, I'm closing my eyes right now... and making
an image in my mind of you and your new-found babe
in a room together...
You're wondering how to make her feel A STRONG
ATTRACTION to you... but you just can't figure it
All of a sudden, the door opens up, and I come
walking in to the rescue...
I sit down between you and your girlfriend, and
I give you that knowing look...
You instantly understand that I'm going to help
you get what you want... and you feel a deep and
profound appreciation for me...
You know, this imaginary thing never was very
good for me.
OK, back to reality...
Look, you're asking a question just like a
Wussy guy would ask.
You're in a TEXTBOOK situation...
And if you don't get control of yourself and
your emotions, you're going to screw this up real
Pause. Deep breaths. Sit in the lotus position
Here's the formula for making this girl want to
be with you:
Great Experiences + Missing You
When you're with her, make it ENJOYABLE.
Don't put any kind of weird emotional pressure
Don't ask "Do you think you could be with
someone like me in a long-term relationship?".
Don't call her all the time.
When you do spend time with her, make sure you
and she are having a GREAT TIME.
And then end every interaction with her while
it's on an UP note... and just a little bit too
Like a great movie, end it at a "climax".
"Huh... Huh... He thaid "climaxth". Yeah Yeah!"
And as you've heard me say before, give her the
GIFT of MISSING YOU.
You're on the right track by "playing it cool".
Now add fun, excitement, and MYSTERY to the
Give her experiences she can't forget, and then
give her room to think about you, wonder where you
are, and chase you until she's caught.
Just what kind of conversations are you having
with these lil girls? Don't you find it better to
have someone that can stimulate your mind as well
as your member? I must say that my personal
opinion is that you have low self-esteem and base
your self worth on the trophy you carry by your
side...Grow up ya mental midget.......
I've included this to make an example... this
is the type of person to watch out for while
you're learning how to be successful with women
and dating... they have nothing useful to offer,
This is someone who doesn't get it, doesn't get
ANY, and isn't going to help you.
This person would be glad to sit all night and
tell you why it's a bad idea for you to have fun
dating all the fun women you're dating because
none of them are "marriage material".
But while you're FINDING that rare and
fantastic woman who can stimulate your mind, body,
emotions, and "member", you might as well enjoy
And to answer the question:
The kind of conversations I'm having with these
"lil girls" is the kind that challenges them,
makes them feel ATTRACTION, and makes them realize
how BORING negative people like you are.
Where do I even begin to tell you about the
changes that have taken place in my life since I
read your e-book?
I used to be the classic wussy. While reading
your book, and reading about the things that you
said were exactly what NOT to do, it was painful
for me. But a wake-up call at the same time! It
allowed me to pinpoint what went wrong in every
failed relationship or unsuccessful interaction
with females I've ever had.
I've always been naturally cocky and funny, but
I never figured it would be a successful method to
use around women as I was too focused on coming
across as, "A nice guy she could take home to
dad." I used to ALWAYS become a submissive wuss in
frilly pink panties everytime I was around
attractive girls. Maaannn, was I ever wrong, and
thank you for showing me the light!
I'm currently in sales, and a few months ago had
found myself falling for a customer service rep
for one of the companies whos products I sell. She
has every quality a man could want. She's 23, (I
just turned 20) gorgeous, confident, intelligent,
and she has a cheeky little attitude that is
sooooo easy for the cocky and funny man to have
fun with! From the start, I just continued to bust
her balls non-stop and I LOVE teasing her for her
minor insecurities (she is short, claustrophobic
and has a bit of a bratty attitude, among many
others). I call her a bratty little child, laugh
at her and call her "cute" in a sarcastic tone
when she tries to act cocky. I told her I was
going to show her the city and she could buy me
dinner for my effort! lol. It worked like a
Shes definitely a keeper, and its time to take
things to the next level! I don't expect I will
have ANY problems maintaining this one thanks to
the gold that IS your e-book!
Not to mention, my newly improved attitude and
high level of inner confidence have ran-off into
all aspects of my life. I've never felt better!
$19.97 changed my life!
B in BC
And the reality is that YOU changed your
life... and I'm glad I could help.
Make sure you don't forget what you're learning
and turn into a girly-man in about 6 months like
most guys do.
Keep up the good work, and keep the girl.
Like everyone else I have to say your book did
wonders for me. I wouldn't dream of asking a girl
for her# after just meeting her (classic wussy
rejection fear). Now, what do I care if she gives
it to me or not there's another looker 10 feet
One thing I would like to add to the table,
maybe i missed it the first time i read the book,
what do you do if C&F doesn't have enough F and
you jut offended her?
My personal situation that happens often because
I like to see live bands, is that I'll be talking
to a girl and (long story short) say "Man, this
band really sucks" to which she makes a comment
walks away. I have since learned to apologize...I
don't feel it's wussy if it works. Now the
"This band really Sucks. 'Hey, I like this band.'
"Oh Im sorry....Not for saying that, but that you
like this band."
Every time I pull out that comment the girls
turn around and continue conversation.
So thanks dave for turning my social life around.
I still have a lot to learn though, so men of the
world dont just send in your success stories send
in the tip that you had to figure out on your own.
PT Superior, WI
I like the direction you're going...
But, I think you need to tweak it just a
Saying "This band sucks" to a total stranger
just isn't funny.
If you say, "Hey, do you LIKE this band?" and
she says, "Yeah" and you say, "Doesn't surprise
me, what - are you the guitar players sister?"...
That's a little more where you want to go.
It's funny, but it's also kind of unclear. It
involves the woman you're talking to without her
really being able to catch on to what you mean.
You answered your own question: ADD MORE FUNNY.
Cocky guys attract women... that's reality.
But, guys who are ONLY cocky also upset and
offend a lot of women... but they don't care,
because they only care about themselves.
Add more funny... it's much better for her, and
I try to read all your newsletters -- I'm
married for 12 years and trying to figure out how
to de-wussify my self. It's not easy, and you
don't help even a little because you don't give
"relationship advice." But I try to find ways to
be unpredictable and cocky + funny with my wife...
And any other woman I meet. I'm a religious
professional, so I've got some real limitations to
work within, but I'm pretty sure teasing women
isn't a sin, and it lights me up.
I went through a phase where I figured you wrote
the letters. But having read them for a while now,
I'm convinced you're not that kind of genius.
"Pick the one with more money." -- I was worried
someone at my office was going to ask me why I was
laughing so loud. "You suck and all men wish they
were you." Well, as a religious professional, I
have to say you suck double.
Here's one example of what I did right. (I think.)
She was in the shower, so I walked in too. Her:
"You came into my shower." Me: "Wouldn't you if
you were me and there was a beautiful, steamy,
sexy naked woman in here?" Her: "I suppose so."
Me: "But you'll have to do." Her: (Total shift in
attitude.) "Hey, mister, you're loosing
opportunities that way." Me: "I've got
opportunities coming out of my ears."
(I'm not sure she believed that, but I couldn't
think what else to say.)
She didn't make any moves that day, but the next
day she was happily receptive.
Still if you have any advice on how to stimulate
attraction in a woman who's seen you at your
wussiest I'd love to hear it. I'm not walking out
of the relationship or going to introducing
"distance" that would be unfitting for a couple
married for a long while, so don't go there. But
I'd love to get some more ideas of how to push her
I don't know, there's just something about a
guy who tells me "You suck double" that I just
can't resist... OK, so you tugged at my heart-
strings a little with the "I'm a religious
professional who's been married 12 years and I
want to make my wife dig me more" bit.
You're doing pretty well.
I like the whole shower routine... right up
until the very last part.
When she shifted tone and said, "Hey, mister,
you're losing opportunities that way" and you
answered, "I've got opportunities coming out of my
ears", you went off course.
Instead, when she says, "You're losing
opportunities that way", say, "I'm the opportunity
here, and you might want to take advantage of it
while it's available"... then splash some water on
her, shower her, wink at her, and GET OUT.
Have you ever played with a dog?
How do you make a dog LOVE you?
You chase it, then run away.
What does the dog do?
Of course, it chases YOU.
Then it might get tired... so you chase it a
little again... and then run away.
You've been acting like a Wuss for 12 years.
Keep evicting the inner Wuss more and more over
time, and who knows? You might actually become
interesting to your wife again...
You know, you might also want to read THIS:
You have no idea how much I appreciate what you
are doing for me and so many other guys out there.
It's truly amazing stuff. The details about me are
unimportant, but I read your book thought to
myself wow that's awesome and then continued to
think "oh but I"ll never change I like who I am
even if I'm incredibly unsuccessful with women."
But I had a crush on a girl I worked with and
tried your cocky comedy technique anyway in spite
of myself. I only let myself appeared moderately
interested if at all and eventually asked her if
she wanted to take a ride on my bike. (one of the
main things we had talked about before was about
me buying a motorcycle, she had already asked me
to take her for a ride.) That was the best date of
my life and she's all I hoped for I made a list of
all the other books you recommended in your ebook
and have gone out and read them too becasue I
really like the way i feel when i'm in control of
the relationship. Best part is dave she's three
years older than I am and I still have her wrapped
around my finger.
To get to my question though dave it's coming up
her birthday and because I really do love her I
need to make sure i don't screw up when it comes
time to give gifts and really make her feel
special. I know you don't like relationships as
much as single dating but could you offer
whateveradvice you might have. Thanks a lot Dave,
you're definitely a wealth of all things dating.
M, Chicago area
Yeah, OK... I know I'm breaking my rule of not
giving relationship advice AGAIN, but this answer
will be useful to all guys...
And by the way, it's not that I "don't like
relationships as much as single dating" at all.
In fact, I believe that MOST guys would really
like to find a great woman to have a fantastic
long-term relationship with...
I just FOCUS on the "meeting and dating" part.
So, here's the problem:
If you meet a girl that you really like, at
some point early-on in the relationship, some type
of holiday or occasion is going to turn up...
Valentine's Day, New Year's Eve, her
And you don't want to look like a TOTAL jackass
by doing nothing... I get it.
Here's just a little bit of advice:
You can make the occasion FANTASTIC without
being a WUSSY.
You can do something that will blow her mind
without coming across as a needy, clingy, girly-
man who is trying to impress a woman because he
doesn't feel worthy.
An example of what most guys do:
Call her up, tell her that you really like her,
ask her where her favorite restaurant is because
you want to take her there for her birthday, ask
her what else she's like to do, and then keep
asking after she says "I don't care what we do, I
just want to have fun" a hundred more times.
An example of what to do instead:
Call her and say "Hey, put on something cute
tomorrow night, and be ready at 8... I'm going to
pick you up". If she asks what you're doing, just
say "Be ready, no questions". Pick her up, take
her to dinner, choose the food, and then bring her
home and put a candle on a cupcake and sing her
happy birthday. No asking her what she wants, no
telling her where you're going, and no seeking her
Get the difference? If not, read it again.
There's a way to do everything without coming
whats the best way to ask a girl out and is it
wrong if one girl says no when i ask her out i try
for another girl the same day?
The best way to ask a girl out is to say "Will
you please, please go out with me?" and if one
girl says no when you ask her out then it IS wrong
to try for another girl the same day. You must
wait at least 17 days after one "no" before you
may ask another girl out.
DOH! I broke my rule of not answering jackass
I am writing to tell you how much I enjoy your
tips. You will probably laugh because I am a
woman. I think that your advice is just as good
for women too. Have you considered writing a book
for women? You have the advantage of a male's
perspective and you could give good insights. I do
what to keep the chemistry going in my
relationship, to make my boyfriend feel proud and
happy and more manly. (I live in Europe and
English is not my native language, so please
excuse me if I made any mistakes.) Sincerely, AB
What is this world coming to?
We've got women who are working to make their
men feel proud and "manly".
Maybe you could get him some testosterone
replacement therapy or something?
Have him write to me... I'll verbally slap him
around a little... maybe that will get him to act
like a man all on his own.
But probably not.
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for providing me with an awesome product of great
value and I am extremely trilled reading it on and
on. Your material is worth like cash money even
more. I cannot describe how powerful it influences
repeatedly my best attention in this very hour of
crisis. I am impatiently awaiting the next
information of yours and reading your material is
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great day there and thank you very much for your
guidance. Best regards, S
I wish to honestly and forthrightly accept your
limitless thank you, and convey my own profound
appreciation for your expression of gratitude.
Influencing your attention repeatedly in your
very hour of crisis is my only desire.
And you're welcome, too.
***COMMENTS FROM YET ANOTHER WOMAN***
As I was re-reading your "Challenging Woman"
newsletter, I had to say: "That's soooo me!" And
you make me want to share one of my fave C+F
memories of a man who gets what you talk about.
(Perhaps not one of the most thrilling examples of
C+F you've ever read, but this guy was just the
zen master of it, and just makes me appreciate
that which is male so much more! :D )
I met "M" on a datesite, and finally decided to
meet for lunch. Now, M. is not the kind of fella
that one would think as a chick magnet. At 5'6"
(and that's being generous) and a bit of a stocky
physique because of his short stature, he does not
strike one as handsome in the typical way most
people envision. But he had a lovely face, a
charming smile, and a gleam of sunny happiness
that just make me take notice of him at first
We sat down and got acquainted, and as I felt he
was comfortable with me, I started the female
version of Cocky and Funny: I call it "Feisty and
Sassy". And he clicked right in on my wavelength.
We kept this at a comfortable level, interjecting
personal info amongst good natured jabs. This guy
was fun and funny! So it got to the point were
he had made some statement that hinted he might
like me. And so I folded my arms and asked him in
my snottiest challenging smug voice, "So you admit
you like me then, eh?" He leaned back in his
chair, studied me for a moment, turned his head as
if to look out the window, flipped his hand
negligently at me, and sneered boredly, "Nah.
Don't like ya. Can't stant ya."And after a
pregnant pause of a few seconds, him still quietly
staring off to the side, he suddenly shot me a
mischievous glance with a cocked brow and a
naughty smirking grin. 'OOOOH!! Brat!! You
brat!! You complete brat!! Oh oh oh oh OH!!
(Think like a Sam Kinison scream!)' I didn't know
if I wanted to kiss him on the mouth or punch him
in the arm! Or both!! I was exasperated and
delighted at the same time. And I couldn't help
but shoot him back my pointy-toothed kitty-cat
smile. 'Oh you are SOOO asking for trouble!! And
you are gonna GET IT!!' And... uhm, let's just
say that he did. And I most enjoyed it, like I
knew I would. ;)
My theory, founded or not, is that if you ain't
much fun OUT of bed, you probably aren't that much
fun IN bed. Or anywhere else in the house, for
that matter. M. was just fun, period. Oh man, was
And I get mad when I hear some of your readers
write: "I'm short! I'm bald! I'm old! I'm fat! I'm
(whatever fault they perceive)! I don't stand a
chance, Dave!" Bullsh**. This is just insecurity
making excuses. (One of my fave professors in
college weighed 350lbs, balding, mid 50's, and
often dressed in shorts and threadbare T-shirts
during the summer. Not exactly a feast for the
eyes, but when his utter, almost arrogant,
confidence came thru, he was absolutely master of
his classroom domain. And when his kingly presence
filled the room, it was such a turn-on! Like
you've said, attraction is not logical, it is a
reaction. And something in me just when 'Whoa. Now
THAT's a man!')
M. was really short for a guy, and I didn't bat
an eye. His self-confidence and great attitude
just made me want to know him more. His sunniness
just preceded him, and when he opened his mouth,
he had the real deal to back it up. A man who
might have been using the C+F routine on me, but
he wasn't pretending to be confident: he WAS
confident! And a real sweetheart underneath.
Though I was intrigued from the moment I met him,
he clinched the deal with that little zinger. I
knew I was a gonner from that moment on. A man who
is genuinely comfortable with himself is a man who
I can be comfortable with. And know that he will
rise to the challenge and allow me to free the
depths of my passions, and he can handle it.
Because he can be himself, I can be myself. And
makes me want to reveal to him the inner-most
parts of me.
Let me tell ya, Dave, there are quite a few
advantages to being a "challenging woman". Just
too bad there aren't more players in this game.
Too many who meet my curious gaze and back down
before they even open their mouths. So sad, when I
saw something in them to even want to go out with
them. And they do not see that for themselves, and
do not believe in themselves. And the game is
lost before it ever started.
And when I think of your C+F techniques, I think
of Mitch, and wish more men had the confidence to
like themselves despite whatever their perceived
short comings. That little man was the gentle
master of C+F to me. And as far as I'm concerned,
he is the biggest man in the room, no matter where
Thank you, Dave, for giving men the tools to
meet the challenge, and challenge me in return.
How fun life is with a gleam in your eye. ;)
Long live the Sassy and Feisty, Ms. E LA, CA
"...if you ain't much fun OUT of bed, you
probably aren't that much fun IN bed. Or anywhere
else in the house, for that matter."
DAVE i can't front... your material is the
bomb.. no doubt.. im young, hip hop influenced,
and african american and what you convey crosses
any barrier... and you know how much attitude
women of our culture have, but it dont mean a
thing when a man knows whats really going on...
but anyway thanks, you tight, yada yada, down to
business. i got your ebook a month ago, and
studied it cover to cover, everyday so that the
information would go into my subconscious. at
first, i had trouble developing the C&F character
you talked about because i had to do a complete
360 from what i used to do. letting women punk me.
looking back, i had no spine but now, i get it...
TO MY SUCCESS... recently i went out to a live
club that alot of gorgeous women go too. i was
with 3 of my cousins who are used to me being just
okay when it comes to women. now clubs are not my
thing, but i said to myself lets do it. now before
i went in i kept in mind 3 things you talked
about. having a blase' persona, slowing down my
body movements, and the ''next'' attitude. so when
i first went in, i did a whole tour of the entire
club (away from my cousins) with my mind geared on
nothing but eye contact with women. just so i
could watch who was watching me. i had to laugh at
myself because some women were so obvious, wanting
my attention, but i played it cool. now usually, i
go straight to the dance floor, but this time i
decided to go to the lounge area and sit by myself
in a big booth, still keeping those principles in
mind. thats when it got crazy. i said to myself
whoever comes to sit, im on them. two twins come (
at least 8's ) and i bus on them. them: why you
chillen by yourself? me: you gotta come better
than that doublemints. them: ( astonished looks )
excuse me? (laughing, gradually turned into
smiles) me: i tell ya. girls here are so thirsty
for a guy like me. i heard that line 3 times
already. them: ( uncontrolable laughter ) you are
long story short, emails from both. and the rest
of the nite women approached me. and thats never
ever happened to me before. came away with 4
numbers and five emails, and didnt care if they
called ( 3 the next day did), and hardly gave the
effort. it was so natural. thanks
QUESTION there was a group of 3 girls that i
busted on and later got all there emails at the
same time, but didnt ask for ther numbers like you
advised, because i didnt want to have one of them
act up, and all of them leave. what do i do in
that case? ask for all the emails and then all the
numbers up front? there was only one pen so they
had to take turns using it. also what are some
good C&F responses for when a woman who is a 10
tests you, to bypass her multiple intial tests in
dg from ohio
Word (East-coast style)... (even though I'm
from the Westside and faking every bit of what I'm
about to say)...
See, tha thing is... if a fly ass hizzoe starts
frontin' and flexin' on your game, you got to roll
up on her and DROP THE KNOWLEDGE on her ass.
She be all bad and like, "I'm da bomb" (even
her "good hair" is a weave, and y'all know it)...
So you got to demonstrate that youz a BIG
baller... not one a these fake-ass thuggin MCz.
Keep yo game TIGHT.
[Hip-Hop voice turns back to my usual whiteboy
Just look her in the eye when she tests you,
and give her that cool, calm, sly smile that says
"That was almost cute, little girl".
Hot women are testing to find those little
clues that tell them that you're FAKING IT... that
you're just another loser who's trying to act
Don't drop the ball.
Give her a sly smile, and say "Cute"... and
then say "You love me".
Oh, and about your three hunnies...
Just tell them to write their numbers down!
The fact that they were sharing a pen and paper
is FANTASTIC. Really. Go with it.
You're doing fine... fine. Keep up the great
work, and I'll keep working on my Hip Hop.
Hey Dave, how goes?
So, I've been getting the letters for some time
now. Though the ideas made sense, the insight was
difficult for me to "GET" as you would say. I knew
how it made sense, but didn't. (Like your telling
someone how to drive a car comparison) Though I
wanted to understand, so I got the e-book.
Helpful, a very good read, but sadly I've never
been that greet with retaining information that
way. Not without reading it five billion times.
(Which I'm just trying to read more in general,
that might help) So, once again in effort to
understand I got the Adv. Series. Much, much
better. Watching, hearing the discussion, hell you
slamming those guys for their own good helps
understand the mentally of getting it, attraction,
and it being my reality. What I have found the
most beneficial is all the Inner Game material.
Don't get me wrong. I'm all about having 5
beautiful women fight over my attention, wanting
to buy me dinner & showing me what they recently
got at Victoria Secret. So, the dating tips are
nice. It is that the inner game material is
helping on the path to improve myself overall.
I've always been an Alpha male type, incredible
strong & independent. However it was all based on
conviction and not faith in myself. I say was
since I've been for a long time now trying to
change that. With that, your series has helped me
gain more ways of finding my way, believe in
myself, etc. For that I would like to thank you
personally. Thanks Dave.
Now don't get all mushy on me or anything....geez
N in Denver
Me get all mushy?
Dude, I thought you were going to try to hug me
there for a minute.
I saw that scene at the end of American Beauty
where Kevin Spacey was in the garage, and the dad
from next door was out in the rain...
Don't even go there.
Yeah, I kind of enjoy busting on guys for their
own good. It's not only fun, it's helpful.
I actually got a letter awhile back from a guy
who came to one of my seminars and commented that
he felt I was a little too harsh and condescending
with the guys that attended...
I thought to myself, "Huh? Did you travel all
that way and pay your good money to hear me tell
you that you're a wonderful, sweet, special human
being and all you need to do is believe in
yourself and everything will work for the greater
good in the end?".
We all need tough, brutally honest, Cocky &
Funny friends to help us wake up and see the
I'm glad you enjoyed it as much as I did.
Yesterday I was seeing DVD#6 of the Advance
Dating Program. And when I heard Brent's interview
I just couldn't believe it. This guy literally
blown my mind away and my perspective of see
reality change at the very moment. I gotta tell
you that when you ask for Brent's standing ovation
I was at my home applauding like a lunatic and
thanking god for I have find your information. So
my comment for your products are: They are an
excellent, brilliant and exceptional source of
packaged wisdom for us men.
Best Regards, VVG San Juan, PR
Glad you're enjoying them.
That last DVD in the series is amazing, isn't
The interviews that I did with those guys
ROCKED... There's nothing like being able to
actually see and hear guys who really know what
they're doing with women... and get a feel for
their body language, voice tone, and gestures.
I won't tell anyone that you were applauding to
I recently bought your book and I'd like to say
that it's great (I knew after 15 minutes that I
wouldn't need to ask for my money back - it really
IS that good). I've read it a few times and I
reading again to try and absorb all the material I
can. I'm practicing on a regular basis and I'm
still the the Apprentice stage of my
transformation (but loving every new
interaction!). I joined an online dating service
and I'm trying to figure out how to use the C+F
approach effectively without coming across as a
total jerk or worse. I realize that there are
probably tons of wusses on these sites as well so
what's the key to writing an email that will catch
their attention? I'm sure most of the hotties
(and average chicks) get a load of email from guys
that say crap like "I love to hold hands and go
for long walks on crisp, fall days...". If this
is an example of a wussmail, what is the best way
to write a C+F email that creates some attraction
and gets them chasing after me and not the other
Keep up the awesome work and keep these kickass
emails coming... they're gold!
M in BC
PS are you going to come up here anytime soon and
do a seminar for your Canadian bretheren (or at
least somewhere in the Pacific Northwest)?
OK, if you're going to do the online thing, you
must keep a few things in mind:
1. There are literally tens of millions of people
who are using the internet for dating. It's the
BIG THING right now.
2. Women who join dating sites get TONS of replies
3. If you want to be successful in the online
space, you need to remember that you're really in
a big numbers game.
4. Writing a great profile is one way to separate
yourself from the crowd, and turn the entire game
I could talk for days about the online dating
scene... but let me give you just a few key
If you want to increase your success in a BIG
way, you need to
1) Update your profile every day,and
2) Watch the new listings every day.
Why every day?
Because when you update your profile every day,
it brings your profile back to the "top of the
pile". In other words, most of the systems will
have your updated profile come up FIRST in search
results because it's "fresher".
And because if you keep your eye open for the
new listings from women every day, you can be one
of the FIRST guys to respond to her ad, instead of
the 347th guy.
You want to make contact, start communicating,
and GET ON THE PHONE.
Don't dilly-dally and write 50 emails back and
You're not looking for pen pals, so don't act
Next, make sure you put a TON of personality
into your own profile... AND your replies to
Instead of writing a profile that says "I'm a
nice, regular, boring guy who loves puppies and
rainbows and cuddling" say "I'm that guy your mom
warned you about. But hey, we both know that you
never listened to her...".
And instead of writing a reply to a woman's
profile that says "Hi, you sound like just the
girl I've been looking for all my life, and I
think we could have a great relationship", say
"Hey, you probably couldn't handle me... but I
thought I'd give you a chance anyway".
Have FUN. Put ENERGY and PERSONALITY into your
Watch a few episodes of Jackass, then put in a
James Bond movie, and wrap up with some Denis
And then write to some women.
By the way, the best education you can get on
Online Dating can be found... where else?
In my "Meeting Women Online" DVD/CD program.
Inside, you will learn directly from me and my
"expert guests"... and we'll teach you exactly how
and where to meet the kinds of women you'd like to
meet... all from the comfort of your computer.
If the idea of meeting women without having to
leave your house sounds GOOD, then go check out
the great video preview clips of the program here:
My eBook also includes a few tips for meeting
and dating women online. It's the best intro to my
basic concepts and techniques available anywhere,
and you can download it right now and be reading
it within a few minutes. Go get it here:
And if you're REALLY ready to dial-up your
success with women and you're SERIOUS about
getting this area of your life handled, then you
need to get yourself a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program is JAM PACKED with literally
hundreds of ideas, concepts, and techniques for
meeting women and getting dates.
You can check out some free samples here:
I'll talk to you again soon.